Marital Rape in Bollywood movies

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Masht

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Posted: 7 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: Doodh_Ki_Dhuli

why can't it be rape? if the guy forcefully has sex with his wife or any other girl, it is rape.. a wedding vow doesn't mean she is reduced to a doll...

also if she isn't in the mood for it then it will also be physically painful, so any guy that does it is an asshole and has no regard for his "wife's" well-being..

But still there is a Question Mark. Though, I dont condone it but still it cant be just called as a rape.

And It may sound lil Harsh, but u seem to be quite Narrow-Minded in generalizing directly that the person forcing for sex is only a guy and girls are always the victim

When u talk about rape let it be for either gender and not target just a single one.

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Posted: 7 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: Masht

But still there is a Question Mark. Though, I dont condone it but still it cant be just called as a rape.

And It may sound lil Harsh, but u seem to be quite Narrow-Minded in generalizing directly that the person forcing for sex is only a guy and girls are always the victim

When u talk about rape let it be for either gender and not target just a single one.

the topic is about marital rape in India...

as far as i know same sex marriage isn't legal there..so why would i randomly bring other forms of sexual assaults?

and yes about the wife raping her poor husband..my heart bleeds for those mazloom men of India who suffer through this ...🤔

Edited by Doodh_Ki_Dhuli - 7 years ago

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maal_u_have

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Posted: 7 years ago

#13

Originally posted by: Masht

But still there is a Question Mark. Though, I dont condone it but still it cant be just called as a rape.

And It may sound lil Harsh, but u seem to be quite Narrow-Minded in generalizing directly that the person forcing for sex is only a guy and girls are always the victim

When u talk about rape let it be for either gender and not target just a single one.

Why can't it be called rape? Whatever is the reason, be it mood, fatigue, menses etc if the victim doesn't want intercourse and yet is forced to do a sex act, it is rape, no matter if perpetrator is a spouse.

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Kamala

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Posted: 7 years ago

#14

I believe many of the women tolerates the forced sexual relationship of husband because they are in a similar situation of Ayesha Sangha Mehra ( DDD) , she doesn't agree with Husband's actions, but initially she tolerates it because her own family expects her to fulfill the duties of wife diligently as they believe that walking away from marriage will bring shame to their family.

Yesterday I was having a discussion on this topic in a different forum and most of the men were against this law, they stated that why women marries if she is not willing to satisfy husband's desire. Many believe that husband has right over a wife's body .

I believe a law is necessary exactly because of the above reasons. There are many difficulties in proving whether what happens in the bedroom is mutual or forced , but at least men will realise that wife is not a commodity and he cannot use her body as per his wish.

I remember reading a verdict of divorce case. The judge allowed divorce to the husband on grounds of cruelty .The Husband's major complaint was wife refuses to cook and she refuses to have sexual relationship with him . If it can be considered as cruelty, then isn't it high time to treat marital rape as a crime?

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Posted: 7 years ago

#15

I don't think DDD situation could be termed as marital rape.

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TheBoss

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Posted: 7 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: Udan-Khatola
I don't think DDD situation could be termed as marital rape.

To me it sounds like rape because she's not into it, she tells him no but he keeps going on. She caves in because she doesn't want her father yelling at her for not being a good wife.

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TheBoss

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Posted: 7 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: Kamala05
I believe many of the women tolerates the forced sexual relationship of husband because they are in a similar situation of Ayesha Sangha Mehra ( DDD) , she doesn't agree with Husband's actions, but initially she tolerates it because her own family expects her to fulfill the duties of wife diligently as they believe that walking away from marriage will bring shame to their family.
Yesterday I was having a discussion on this topic in a different forum and most of the men were against this law, they stated that why women marries if she is not willing to satisfy husband's desire. Many believe that husband has right over a wife's body .
I believe a law is necessary exactly because of the above reasons. There are many difficulties in proving whether what happens in the bedroom is mutual or forced , but at least men will realise that wife is not a commodity and he cannot use her body as per his wish.
I remember reading a verdict of divorce case. The judge allowed divorce to the husband on grounds of cruelty .The Husband's major complaint was wife refuses to cook and she refuses to have sexual relationship with him . If it can be considered as cruelty, then isn't it high time to treat marital rape as a crime?

As a guy I never understood whats the fun in rape. Its like having sex with a dead woman -- whats the fun? If your wife isn't putting out then leave her alone or just leave her and move on. Every person be it a man or a woman, a girl or a wife, or a prostitute have a right to their body and knowing them, marrying them, or paying for them does not guarantee sex.

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return_to_hades

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Posted: 7 years ago

#18

Originally posted by: Masht
But still there is a Question Mark. Though, I dont condone it but still it cant be just called as a rape.

There is no question mark. Rape by definition is engaging in a sexual act without proper consent. It doesn't matter how much love is there in the relationship or how many good times they had together. If a person forces their spouse/partner to have sex, it is rape. IMO, if you genuinely care for someone you respect their boundaries and do not force sex.

Originally posted by: Masht
And It may sound lil Harsh, but u seem to be quite Narrow-Minded in generalizing directly that the person forcing for sex is only a guy and girls are always the victim

When u talk about rape let it be for either gender and not target just a single one.

Again. Rape by definition is engaging in a sexual act without proper consent. Perpetrators can be of any gender identity or sexual orientation. Victims can be of any gender identity or sexual orientation. I don't think anyone is denying that.

When we come to the discussion of marital rape in India/Bollywood, it is mostly a heterosexual issue.

While the percentage of domestic violence and rape in homosexual couples is not insignificant, India does not really recognize same-sex marriage. IPC 377 complicates the issue further. Victims of rape or domestic abuse from same-sex partners don't file legal complaints in India because the law considers their sexual relationship illegal. Instead of being protected and getting justice, they risk being harassed and abused by the legal system.

Statistically, most perpetrators are men and victims are women. Statistically, the percentage of men abusing their wives is higher than date rape/acquaintance rape. So by default marital rape discussions focus on men abusing women.

I am sure there are some women in India who have raped their husbands. In my opinion, they should be prosecuted as rapists to the full extent of the law. But India has a long way to go.

That being said in general the discussion of rape tends to be focused on men abusing women. Not because women are never perpetrators or men are never victims. But pure statistics and a little common sense. You have to fix the most pervasive problem first and then move to the rarer problems.

Addressing male rape victims is a very tricky issue, especially because of toxic masculinity. That could be a whole other topic.

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pallavi

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Posted: 7 years ago

#19

I guess like rape law is being misused bcz of that agreed to wedding clause 😊 and courts are acquitting almost all such cases while real cases suffers delay hearing bcz of this ... I think a woman can file case of violence but not of rape after marriage ...Rape is such a heavy word.. and regarding treated like doll or body a woman should File divorce on first instance ... If marital rape gets legalised many more fake cases like 498A and 376 and real victims will suffer

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