People are lonely in US - Page 7

Originally posted by: grounder

It's just a matter of time .. once you make some friends, there are too many places to explore, cuisines to taste, events to attend and in general, you have fun conversations with friends from so many different cultures. So, it all becomes better. But yes, you feel more adult in US because of all the chores and responsibilities because of staying alone and lack of house help. Either way, you will get used to that as well and get faster at all these chores. It will take less time than it does now.

Originally posted by: sagarika01

Yes Ma'm you are right ! USA life will teach us how to sustain in a foreign land with a little adjustment in lifestyle, and the most important part I really appreciate in your post is that the freedom, Independence and acceptance here we get , is not easy to get in India ! Now , racism, religious fundamentalism, gender bias and caste system all are prevalent there and ruling the roost in India . I love my motherland and like the country which has given me shelter , name , fame and comfortable living .

One more thing I want to reiterate -- here the Indians are more aware of their culture than the most people of India, they encourage their kids to learn Indian classical music dance and Veda recitals, and we too do poojas and follow the rituals acco to Vedic scriptures. The Indian culture is getting it's best treatment here rather than in India ! We love our India because spiritually we belong to that country!

Originally posted by: Meherya123

like seriously??

There are havans according to vedas in my home. My parents sent me to classical music classes n i have seen many parents do that in india. Stop talking as if all those who live in states are great those living in India are living there because they are incapable of making it to states

Looks like u enjoy your NRI status alot. Enjoy but don't be so judgemental about Indians living in India.

There,are good n bad in both the countries.

Originally posted by: ..RamKiJanaki..

There are many here who speak judgmentally about Indians living in America, calling them materialistic, greedy and what not, just because they live somewhere else in the world. I agree there are good and bad in all the countries in the world, but I'm tired of people painting Indians in US as materialistic people who don't value family. That is such a hypocritical, judgmental and wrong assumption to make.

Originally posted by: Meherya123

u need to accept the fact that the generation that left India in 80s and 90s left it just to make money. Most of them did not even turn up for funerals of their parents.

I know a family who had a single girl child and got her married to a boy who was the only child. These two settled off in the US and left the parents in India. One of their.parents died and these people couldn't even come back. Having a child who is earning well but the father died like an orphan. So it's true to some extent that people.who.leave India become slaves of american system forgetting their roots.

However it is homeland has home in it.for a reason.

Originally posted by: Meherya123

like seriously??

There are havans according to vedas in my home. My parents sent me to classical music classes n i have seen many parents do that in india. Stop talking as if all those who live in states are great those living in India are living there because they are incapable of making it to states

Looks like u enjoy your NRI status alot. Enjoy but don't be so judgemental about Indians living in India.

There,are good n bad in both the countries.

You are repeatedly talking about the immigrants of 80's and 90's , do you have any idea about what sort of difficulties they all faced to sustain, to settle over here in USA ? It wasn't as easy as today to come and settle in USA . Only creamy layer of the universities, highly qualified persons like Doctors and Doctorates used to get opportunities here , even for a PhD , one has to get a testimony from a learned person , giving assurance to the American Govt that , he / she is an asset to any country to get his services , a learned person ,an intellect in his/ her subject ... like that ! Please don't underestimate the persons who shifted to this country in 80's and 90s . From 2000 onwards , software gained prominence and instead of 100s like earlier, thousands and lakhs started getting jobs here and expanding their horizons using the opportunities they are getting here ! I consider it as growth , if you think it's materialistic attitude , what to say !!

Every person who shifts from their village to town , from there to city , then Metro , or to any foreign shore , will always have to face many difficulties , I too felt conscious , looked at my surroundings with a fear , then curious , after few interactions and distractions , gained confidence , gaining knowledge [ it's a lifelong process ] , joined a job ,and earning for my living to sustain , to excel to achieve something in life including the money , is it sin ? Is it materialistic attitude ? Aren't people in India shifting from rural areas to urban cities for their living ? Are they not carrying their imbibed traditions and inherent culture with them wherever they go ? Why this biased opinion towards NRIs ? I am saying again , here life is easy comparatively than in India , if you want , if you can afford you can have a maid / domestic help for 3000$ per month. Attitudes are changing in time to time every where ! University students are opting for part-time jobs and earning for their own sustenance, trying to lessen the burden of their parents in India . Oldage homes are the new norm now in India too ! Many of our relatives sent their parents to old age homes because they have no time to take care of their parents even though they are very much in India , many atrocities are committed on dependent parents there , and one important point I mention here ! One of our friend's mother got operated for both her knees and confined to bed for more than 3 months . My friends were by being there ,spent money for the medical expenses and arranged help for 24 hours , by paying a hefty amount , I am sure even if they live in India , they can't leave their job and responsibilities for 3/6 months . When once I asked my mother , why she opted to become an NRI , her answer was , --I want to donate 10 lakhs in Tirupathi, so that my parents will be able to get quick darshan there , I want my mother to have all the modern kitchen pieces of equipment [ my parents shifted to this country in 1989 ] being a doctor now I can afford to buy a car and keep a driver for my parents to go shopping , same thing applied to my Dad's parents , we worked hard , and arranged everything for our elders , -- then , in 80s and 90s there wasn't any Patel stores to buy groceries and Indian Vegs and fruits like today , adjusted , ate whatever veg food was available !-- and I still remember, my grandmother used to give Tamarind , and pickles etc , and was proud of her daughter! Is it a sin ? Many NRIs are doing social work and contributing hefty amounts for that cause . This country taught us humbleness, adaptability and given new perspective towards life ! Nothing is on a platter here , you have to show your mettle to gain acceptability to get success!

I was never judgmental about Indians living in India . As you rightly said --There, are good n bad in both the countries.

We are not sinners, we are sustainers and achievers! As Ramkijanaki mentioned , in India also people are shifting from rural areas to urban domains , are they selfish and culprits? Absolutely not . Let us respect each and every person's perspective on this topic .