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After being a discouraged viewer since Sona's sudden shifting to IN, her guilt-free attitude and her over-indulged direction on what & what not Dev should do, I had decided not to waste my time on analysing any episode or character any more. Mainly because I felt the makers are on the path of making everything right and end the show on a happily ever after note. I am still not sure on that part. But, yesterday's episode was so beautiful that it reminded me of the initial episodes, especially the Bose family scene, Dada & Baba's convo on Asha's fan following and Ishwari-Lakshya scene and that is how I am here now making this post.
After seeing yesterday's beautiful episode I went back to watch the previous episodes after Sona's proposal and was able to understand that Sona has not let her guard down completely. Earlier when I watched the scene following her proposal I had emphasised only on the part where Sona conveys her fear to Asha that she doubt whether her decision is right. But, today when I rewatched it, I noted the lines she says after that. 'Mein itne saal se apne aap ko strong banaya, mein firse apne aap ko kamzor tho nahi kar rahi hoon'. Also on the day, when she breaks down infront of Dev's photo she said she will not allow Dev to hurt her again. So, a part of this doubt & fear is still playing in her mind. That's why she makes sure that she doesn't express her guilt or pain openly, for having caused darkness in Dev's life, especially in front of Dev or Soha. But many times (during her phone convo with Dev when he is in Kolkota, when in the office Dev shares how he distanced himself from everyone after she left, in her convo with Riya) there is a slight glance of guilt on her face. Which means she is putting up a conscious effort to see if everything will be back as it was with her this small effort to understand Dev. And another reason is that she knows that how Dev behaves when he is guilt-stricken; so she is keeping her strong as Dev is the more emotionally weak person now. Having realized that, much of my shikaayathein of Sonakshi being emotionless is cleared. Also, there maybe a reason for why Sona doesn't stop him feeling guilty; like maybe she thinks, the more Dev feels guilty, he would take the step to get back to his sisters. Otherwise, during the Khatri track she always used to help him feel less guilty. So, now the only complaint I have is with how she tries to direct him on what & how Dev should deal each situation. However, I am happy that slowly Dev is coming out of his guilt zone and is taking the lead, as shown in his convo with Nikki yesterday. Good that Sona didn't accompany him there. Otherwise, Dev-Nikki would not have had that heart to heart talk.
Adding to my thoughts, below is a part of a conversation I had with one of our fellow forumite, which helped me to confirm my above thoughts on Sonakshi. With her permission I am posting it here.
Q:That, with Sona now helping to mend Dev & Ishwari's relation, any normal viewer will now be feeling what was the need of the leap then.
Before the leap, Sonakshi was blinded by both Pride and Ego regarding herself, her upbringing, her ability and her "love".
Definition of Pride is "a feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one's own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired."
Definition of Ego is "a person's sense of self-esteem or self-importance."
The leap was needed for her lose her "ego".She had to lose her self importance. In the episode where Ronita's family comes to Bose house for the first time and Dev is outside the window cause he wants to know who Suhana is, Dev says this regarding Sona -- "kitna drama. Limelight lene ka itna shauk hai,aur modesty jadti nahin takthi." in a monologue. If you rewatch the episodes preleap, especially the ones during married phase, you will see that "everything" is about Sonakshi. Even when some of the things, events were not supposed to be about her, became about her cause of Sonakshi herself. The best example is Neha - Ranveer issue. It should have been about Neha and Ranveer. But by doing the things she did in her sense of "right", she took away Neha's right to privacy and when it was kind of pointed out, went away to her parents house without telling Dev all of which leading for the issue regarding Neha and Ranveer takingn the sideline while Sona and Dev(by proxy) became the center. Even the vrat which should have been about family became about her with the way she went about it, by agreeing to it without talking to Dev, then fighting with Dev and explaining it away citing her independence in decision making. If she needed that independence in decision making, isn't it only right that Dev also should have that independence in decision making. But she expected him to take decisions only after talking to her, and when he didn't kind of punished him by admonishing in her own way making him responsible for all the negative consequences.
With the leap and especially after Dev going away from IN after seeing her with Jotin and the Khatri track, we see Sona no longer displaying "ego". With Suhana in the picture who has made it very clear that she wouldn't mind leaving Sonakshi, she has to give importance to Dev and her relationship with him at least as her parents. Before Suhana, there was no compelling factor for Sonakshi to leave her ego especially since Bijoy was ever present boosting it. Now she is on the path to losing her "pride" especially that of being a "Bose". She feels herself superior and thinks that she is right in guiding him. That without her Dev could/would not be able to do anything right. That only she can do it. What she is realizing is that she by herself cannot do anything. She has to go through Dev to mend the relationships. She might talk to him about it, boost his morale etc. but the relationships will mend only with his action. She has no control and cannot really do anything. Even her plans are not of much use. It has to be Dev's way for the sisters to come back. Her way will not work. And now with Nikki's track where Nikki is Sonakshi, Laksh is Dev, Ishwari is Bijoy in a sense, there is an amazing parallel happening. This track will act as an eyeopener in several ways for Sonakshi as it progresses and we will see a lot of story in this track.
Q: Sona was seen telling Dev that, earlier she was nasamach; but now she is a mother and a woman and that she is not a hopeless romantic. What did it mean?
Pre leap, even before she realized that she is in love, Sonakshi always had that attraction towards fairy tales and a sense of adventure. She dreamed of having a "perfect" partner and doing the things she loved and living happily ever after. In one of the episodes after she realized that she is in love, she tells Elena that she had dreamed of "her fairy tale", not one where she expected Dev to be her prince charming. For her she and the love she thought she had was enough love to live her fairy tale and didn't really need Dev to fill the place of the "Prince" in her fairy tale. Most of the time Dev was disposable for her as she found herself capable of playing the role of both the prince and the princess and it was "her" fairy tale. But in reality a fairy tale is about 2 people, 2 "different" people. Both prince and princess have roles to play and depending on the situation either the prince or the princess takes charge. Ex Cinderella. In that, Cinderella took the initiative to go to the ball. She took the lead. Once in the castle, the prince took the lead by spending all his time with her. Then he again took the lead to search the kingdom for the maiden whose foot matched the shoes. When the step mother locked her in the attic when the duke came, told him that there is no other maidens at home, Cinderella with the help of her friends and asked to try the shoes. When the step mother broke that shoes, took out the other shoe and wore it. This is how it works in any fairy tale and also in any story. Even if there is one lead in the story, there will be parts when the other characters take the lead and the lead takes the supporting role. But Sonakshi is not someone who played the supportive role after marriage. She took the lead every single time and expected Dev to be ok with it. Anytime Dev tried to take the lead, she automatically handed him a script saying follow this. If he didn't follow it or missed a step or the other characters did not behave the way she wanted them to, she inevitable blamed him for the failure and made him lose his self confidence. But after the Dev leaving following him seeing her with Jotin and she not telling the truth, Ishwari landing in hospital and then not taking medicine from her hand which Dev conveyed to her, she was forced to reflect on her script. All these times she couldn't blame Dev and hold him responsible. She had to take responsibility. With Dev making Ishwari invite them for dinner, what happened during that time and everything that followed including the remarriage track leads her to realize her love and that their love story, their fairy tale should have been and is about both of them. She no longer is visualizing everything only from her perspective. She is trying to include his perspective too. That is shown by her not pushing him away. She is finding herself in a place where she cannot really hide her true feelings from Dev and upto certain extent Ishwari. Both of them are able to recognize when she is thinking something or is stressed or upset about something. She no longer is able to wear her facade and hide herself from Dev or Ishwari. She no longer gets carried away in her narratives that she is so fond of where she writes herself to be the center of everything.
Q:If the makers are trying to convey the message that, all that happened 7yrs back is because she was opposite of all these, then I would say they have not succeeded in conveying that message. Ulta, people like me are feeling, a girl not being all these doesn't give her the right to destroy man's life like how Sona did with Dev, only because she was immature. If some guys who might be watching the show thinks that, if Dev had not fallen in love he would not have to pass through all these heartbreak; so, better be single than going through all these tortures. And that who knows, if the girl whom Ishwari had brought in his life, was more understanding & patient that she would have filled his life with colors. Then there was no need of him to undergo such sufferings.
There is much sense in what you are saying. It was not a man who fell in love with a woman. It was a "mumma's boy" who fell in love with "papa's girl". With the separation in farmhouse, Dev stopped being a "mumma's boy". But Sonakshi is still very much a "papa's girl". She still needed Bijoy's approval to go to the engagement. In a way her first independent decision was the one where she decided to move to IN citing she wanted to live with her family. That was also not based on the entire truth. She wanted to move to IN to lessen her guilt of her being the reason why the sisters left home since Dev stopped functioning as the brother he was and to make Ishwari happy. What you said is very much the truth that if Ishwari had brought a girl who was more understanding and patient, then she would have filled his life with colors. There was no need of him to undergo such sufferings. This is the truth that she will have to realize that she did not do Dev any favors by accepting his love or marrying him. Through the realization that Dev could have married any other girl, she will loose that sense of superiority that she feels in the relationship. She will learn to be humble and lose the "pride". Till now it has been Dev who has always told how lucky he is to have her in his life be it during their first saree date or in expressing his love and regret during the truth pill episode or in the response to that khaaki during muh dikhayi function. With the passing time she will be more and more surprised at his actions. Where once she had constantly told him that he is predictable will find him not so predictable. Where she thought she was always right and best will realize that she isn't right all the time nor the best at everything. That he is the other side of her, all that she is missing in her character, he fills them. That just like he needs her, she needs him and cannot live without him. In that episode during the remarriage track, Ishwari had asked Sonakshi "do you think Nisha is suitable to be Mrs. Dev Dixit". With everyone saying that she is the best, she has assumed that she is suitable. With this journey she will realize that she has much to learn and change herself before becoming suitable to be "Mrs. Dev Dixit". Now eventhough she calls herself Sonakshi Dixit, all the traits she displays is that of a Bose. She has to lose them and truly become Sonakshi "Dixit". This season is not just about Ishwari's realization and redemption, it is also about Sonakshi's realization and redemption. Where once she did not take responsibility of the consequences, did not retrospect but blamed others for the failures, she will master the skill of taking responsibility, retrospect her actions based on consequences, not blindly blame others and mainly gain the courage in being honest with her true feelings.
Q: Yesterday, why didn't she answer Dev's question 'tum bhi tho yeh chahthi thi, na'; instead started giving her gyans. If she had clarified herself and had given the gyan, it would have been more acceptable.
I agree that it would have been nice if she had clarified herself. But then it would have been accepting her mistake. Sonakshi is still a Bose by nature. And it is not in her nature to accept her mistakes. She still maintains that she doesn't make mistakes. The way she is justifying herself regarding the whole situation is she never told Dev to stop eating with his mother. She didn't ask Ishwari to stop waiting or Dev to have that bond with his mother. It is not her fault that they misunderstood her. All she wanted was a little space and time of him for herself that's all. As I have said above there is whole season till the serial ends for her to learn to accept her mistakes. That she is also very faulty. That there is nothing superior about her upbringing. That similar to the way she had asked Dev to stay out of her family matters in the beginning of the series, she was also supposed to not interfere in Dixit matters. That just because her upbringing had taught her the difference between right and wrong and she thought she was right, didn't mean that she was actually right. That what she had was just one understanding and perspective and that pov works when a family has dynamics similar to her family, but was not suitable to a family where the dynamics were different than their family. She will realize how wrong she was in her estimation of herself and her parental family.
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