Why Sona seems to be without guilt & emotionless. - Page 3

Originally posted by: kvys

Yea. One or two times she just said that mistake was from her side too..

Initially I was ok with the post leap track.. but after seeing dev's realization and ish change,, Sona's char becoming typical Indian serial women who doesn't make mistake at any cost.

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

Originally posted by: grace4317

Payal...thanks for that long reply. No need to apologise, as each of us have equal right here in IF to express ourselves. But, what surprised me is which part of my post made you raise all these doubts & questions, as you & I know that both of us are neither totally pro-Dev or pro-Sona. So, I think it is a misunderstanding of not really knowing on what context I had asked those questions to our friend. It is mainly Sona's dialogue that earlier I was immature; now being a mother & woman I can understand things better that triggered me and couldn't accept it as an excuse to not giving a second thought on the factors that led to separation pre-leap. Hope you got my point.

Now, regarding your questions on why everything is expected from the girls only and the thought that current generation girls of knowing their rights clearly, I wouldn't comment much on it. As I feel it would be insulting all the older generation including my mother & great grandmothers for what all they sacrificed to give their family & kids a bright future. Especially because, even after being totally devoided of getting her wishes fulfilled as a daugher, wife & mother, my mother never agrees with any girl who goes against her husband. Even today when I skyped my parents, though it was half-jokingly my mother was complaining of not being able to join a family function on her side where most of her distant relatives were there, as my father didn't want to drive that long. So I would like to show my solidarity to her by supporting her views, as it is because of her sacrifice that all 3 of her kids are happy in our lives today. And the only way I can give it back to her is to talk on her behalf whenever I see she is wronged by my father. And adding to it, as Latha said and what life has taught me is that, once you have promised to be beside your partner in all thick & thin, don't break it at any cost; and keeping that promise irrespective of how he feels for you shows your integrity. And as time passes by, you will reap great fruits; that's what had happened atleast in my case.😊

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

Sorry Grace, I think there was some genuine confusion as somehow I got the impression that it was another one of the posts trying to establish that Sonakshi is responsible for everything that went wrong in Dixit house, their colony, Delhi, India and world including current India China problem and Trump becoming US president. And Dixit family comprises only of saints and nuns having halos behind all their heads.😆

Jokes apart I was actually highly shocked seeing this post coming from you and since I consider you a good friend, I guess I over reacted.

I apologize again if I was hurtful. Please forgive me.

But my questions were not invalid and were actually stemmed from the posts in the forum. Patience and sacrifice are never ever wrong. Every woman does it and this is what forms the basis of a happy family. I also agree that the female mental make up is much more conducive for being loving and adjusting as compared to men.

But one has to accept that times are changing. How can we expect girls nowadays to have same mentality as that of our mother's? Why should she? What right do I have to expect that my daughter in law inspite of being as educated as my son and working, should clean his almirah and cook for him while he relaxes in front of TV after coming from office?

When my daughter in law's parents have invested equally in her education what right do I have to belittle them on the grounds of being ladki wale or consider myself superior?

I am not making this up to prove a point. I can easily this mentality peeking from behind several posts in the forum.

I will just quote what my mother says. The guy's family keeps on insulting the girl's family during marriage and makes several demands. The girl's free will is robbed during the first year of marriage in the name of establishing control. And the day, your son becomes her husband first and your son later (inevitable with passage of time and kids), the daughter in law extracts the price for everything you have done. Then such mother's go on complaining that the daughter in law was a home breaker.

Change starts with us. We have to accept that the daughter in law has much rights on our son and family as we have, in fact more as she is his life partner.