Make your call on people?

"Resource is loud mouth, brings negativity within team, does not perform as expected and can be replaced". Feedback I got from seniors, for a new member joining my team at work… well I royally ignored it …and in last 4 moths time realized …this person took initiative and had great potential, realized initial inputs were based on personal grudges..

For people one likes or respect, if they say ill about X, should you believe on seniors or form your own opinion about X?

Originally posted by: raj5000

"Resource is loud mouth, brings negativity within team, does not perform as expected and can be replaced". Feedback I got from seniors, for a new member joining my team at work… well I royally ignored it …and in last 4 moths time realized …this person took initiative and had great potential, realized initial inputs were based on personal grudges..

For people one likes or respect, if they say ill about X, should you believe on seniors or form your own opinion about X?

Raj, very good question raised here!!! It is even more relevant given the backdoor politics we see everywhere – whether at workplace or virtual forums.

At times, most inputs are based on personal judgments and perceptions. Then there are times when people base their decisions totally on personal grudges, jealousies and vendettas. No one likes to self-analyze themselves and figure out when they are at fault. It's always easier to pin it on the other person. There will be very few people around who will give you an unbiased input on another person. Once you find such people, invest whatever it takes to keep them your friends. Luckily, I have found three who fall into this category….and I'm keeping them for life😊

As for forming opinions based on someone else's feedback, do look at the track record of the feedback-providers as well. Ask yourself whether they are chronic bad-mouthers, sore losers, jealous, envious, delusional and totally judgmental who have a track record of badmouthing pretty much most around them or is it a mature sensible person who gives a balanced and unbiased feedback on others when you seek it from them.

Once you make this distinction, you'll know how much reliance to put in the views you are getting from others. Then, observe the new person and make your own views based on your own interactions with them. Also make an effort to observe the person who is more than happy to share their views with you at the drop of the hat. At times they are the ones who are the main problem...not the one they are enlightening you on 😉

Of course I'll like to make my own judgement. Why else then do I have a separate brain for and not a photocopier copying ideas of my seniors.

Originally posted by: raj5000

"Resource is loud mouth, brings negativity within team, does not perform as expected and can be replaced". Feedback I got from seniors, for a new member joining my team at work… well I royally ignored it …and in last 4 moths time realized …this person took initiative and had great potential, realized initial inputs were based on personal grudges..

For people one likes or respect, if they say ill about X, should you believe on seniors or form your own opinion about X?

Bravo Raj. 👏 You are thinking like an entrepreneur, going against stereotypes with your gut instinct. not seen much in low to mid-high level corporate culture where people are more concerned about their job security then the betterment of the firm.

Raj great topic.

Personally I hear opinions of others, keep them in back of my mind but develop my own opinion of people on my own. I never listen to someone blindly and follow their judgement of anyone. Usually you can figure by the type of reputation one holds and their track record speaks volumes. 😳

Faking can go so far and so long. Eventually true personality comes out.😊

nvmd...😊

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

Raj, very good question raised here!!! It is even more relevant given the backdoor politics we see everywhere – whether at workplace or virtual forums.

At times, most inputs are based on personal judgments and perceptions. Then there are times when people base their decisions totally on personal grudges, jealousies and vendettas. No one likes to self-analyze themselves and figure out when they are at fault. It's always easier to pin it on the other person. There will be very few people around who will give you an unbiased input on another person. Once you find such people, invest whatever it takes to keep them your friends. Luckily, I have found three who fall into this category….and I'm keeping them for life😊

As for forming opinions based on someone else's feedback, do look at the track record of the feedback-providers as well. Ask yourself whether they are chronic bad-mouthers, sore losers, jealous, envious, delusional and totally judgmental who have a track record of badmouthing pretty much most around them or is it a mature sensible person who gives a balanced and unbiased feedback on others when you seek it from them.

Once you make this distinction, you'll know how much reliance to put in the views you are getting from others. Then, observe the new person and make your own views based on your own interactions with them. Also make an effort to observe the person who is more than happy to share their views with you at the drop of the hat. At times they are the ones who are the main problem...not the one they are enlightening you on 😉

All I say again is jabardast reply 👏 ... so much learn and understand... thanks for response.

Originally posted by: souro

Of course I'll like to make my own judgement. Why else then do I have a separate brain for and not a photocopier copying ideas of my seniors.

Bud.. I was burnt on this one last year... re-evaluating a resource is overhead..had big discussion...reason I raised here. and ofcourse to educate new aspiring youth.

Originally posted by: lighthouse

Bravo Raj. 👏 You are thinking like an entrepreneur, going against stereotypes with your gut instinct. not seen much in low to mid-high level corporate culture where people are more concerned about their job security then the betterment of the firm.

LH so appreciate the response.. seriously I was burnt one to many times following people... later realized ... well it's really comes down to individuals and how individually our decisions can make a difference... Bigger pictures..this implies in day to day life too... I mean if you think about bigger pic.

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

Raj great topic.

Personally I hear opinions of others, keep them in back of my mind but develop my own opinion of people on my own. I never listen to someone blindly and follow their judgement of anyone. Usually you can figure by the type of reputation one holds and their track record speaks volumes. 😳

Faking can go so far and so long. Eventually true personality comes out.😊

At red - absolutely ... but eventually takes time... so aleast based on experience it helps... to be aware... tfr