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Posted: 8 years ago
#31

Survika, you cannot belittle the Son's aka Dev's spineless behavior just because few members criticized Sonakshi for her behavior in the last two episodes. No one has suggested Dev to mistreat or insult Ishwari to offer him the best husband's title. We expected Dev to behave like a sensible man rather than an eight year old boy. We expected him to balance his relationship with wife and mother, whereas even after marriage, he refuse to change a bit or even if he tried he was not dare to continue it fearing that his mother would deliver another long speech. We expected Dev to react when his family members, his sister, mother, Mami taunted his wife continuously, whereas he know that his wife have done everything to fit in the abnormal group. I haven't seen anyone urging Dev to go against Ishwari just to make Sonakshi happy ( and it won't make sonakshi happy too ), most of the members wished Dev to act fairly rather than being biased to Ishwari.We basically want a sensible Dev than a people pleaser .

And as far the slap matter is concerned ,even if he slapped Bijoy unintentionally , the truth is he slapped him .I don't like members trivializing the matter because even unintentionally we won't raise our hand to slap our parents nor to anyone we respect no matter how provoked we are . If Dev did it , it means deep down he have no respect for Bijoy .I don't know about Dev's culture , but in my family , Wife's or husband's father has to be considered as our own father moreover he is elder to him . In real life, if the husband or the younger person slapped a person even unintentionally, it won't be easy for a person to forgive him. And if I was in Sonakshi's place even if I tried I would have failed miserably to live with a person who slapped my father, Forget about reality, if Dev was in Sonakshi's place he would have thrown her out without listening to her explanation.

Though I agree that Bijoy is hyper, I won't say that his anger towards Dev is unreasonable. To start with Dev hurt his beloved daughter many times; secondly Dev insulted him with the slap, thirdly he was the reason he got expelled from his home, and there are countless points to disapprove him.

The difference between Ishwari's and Bijoy's behavior is Ishwari is unfair to Sonakshi for no valid reason . The only reason we knew that she thought that Sonakshi would snatch Dev . But Bijoy has innumerable reason to hate Dev.

Concerning to Sonakshi's behavior and the reaction of a few members, Sonakshi is having an argument with his father for Dev, the ex husband. That house is not just her house, she is living with her parents and brother, she should have discussed it with the inhabitants that there will be a new addition to their family rather than creating a scene in the presence of Ronitha and her family .

Edited by Kamala05 - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
#32

Originally posted by: ..natasha..


Misunderstanding happen when there is no trust
And there is no trust in relationship where one partner keeps telling lies

Now a parent cant make their own daughter understand and gives in to the silly demands...then what can be said about such parents...
Tom if daughter asks to get baby brother then i thing divorced parents can get that too...to fulfil daughters demand


Lol.
Yeah evrn trust issue and misunderstanding is also there when u can't understand ur partner.

And Wahat is divorce word over here. We don't even know about that..

In real life i have been seen many divorced couples as well to give a second chance to their relationship whn it's about their children. As i saw bfr ur ego can't take over u when it's about ur children so it's just a fiction..
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: ..natasha..



Misunderstanding happen when there is no trust
And there is no trust in relationship where one partner keeps telling lies

Now a parent cant make their own daughter understand and gives in to the silly demands...then what can be said about such parents...
Tom if daughter asks to get baby brother then i thing divorced parents can get that too...to fulfil daughters demand



Agreed , kids demand a lot of things...toys...icecreams and cakes especially when they are not well...and going to play in the rain etc etc...now there is nothing called as perfect parenting rule book...it all depends on how parents were brought up ..their likes /dislikes/culture etc comes into picture...

Having said this agree to a childs demand...is kind of tricky...depends on what the child asks...just because they are adamant you cant say...you are adamant hence I wont give you what you ask...nah ...atleast that is not the approach I would take as a parent...

Example...when a 6 month old baby is breast fed and then we think the child is not hungry...but after few 20 or 30 mins baby cries again...adamant that baby wants to be fed...do you think the mother should give into that adamancy or not ?? I would say yes , you will have to...now the same baby saw a small bead on the floor and wants to hold it...mom says no...because she knows eventually might keep it his/her mouth...baby cries ...adamant that baby needs it...should mom give into that adamancy ...answer is NO!!

Note : The above scenario can be handled differently by different parents...it all depends on what you can provide for your child...the method you use to teach your child basics of life...with in a safe , secured and happy environment

So just like that what Suhana asked was her parents staying together...both her dad and mom thought it was a right ask hence agreed to give to their daughters wish and happiness...they are ok about it...so why should any one have a problem...now later if she asks for a lil brother...its fine...if the parents are fine to provide . Because the ask is NOT criminal or against the law of the land..
Edited by WeRockTheWorld - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
#34

Originally posted by: survika1111


Lol.
Yeah evrn trust issue and misunderstanding is also there when u can't understand ur partner.

And Wahat is divorce word over here. We don't even know about that..

In real life i have been seen many divorced couples as well to give a second chance to their relationship whn it's about their children. As i saw bfr ur ego can't take over u when it's about ur children so it's just a fiction..


What is to be understood about spineless partner?
What is to be understood about unnatural mother som relationship

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: Ultimatewinnerr

See regardless of gender u should lesson to Ur parents until they don't say some thing wrong , but there should be a proper way to say Ur not gonna do what they are saying, not ruthlessly shut them up infront of important gathering


Neither dev did any ruthless thing nor sona to shut their parents in front of any gathering.. They both had the most decent way to make their parents understand
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: ..natasha..


What is to be understood about spineless partner?
What is to be understood about unnatural mother som relationship


He could be spinless for u or others but not for her when she married her.. It may be unnatural relationship relationship for u or others but she married him after knowing that how his relationship is this mother son have.. And she left her by trusting on some one like vikky who made her believe that her hubby made her family through her parents out or signed pre nup.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: survika1111


Ur calling a 6 yr girl blackmailer just for demanding to stay with parents and comparing her with ishwari.. LIKE SERIOUSLY..!!

What is wrong if a girl want her parents.. What is wrong if her parents want to give her the happiness.. Nothing.. They tried to mae her understand but no parents can lose their children for their egos.. And a small kid can't understand the much complications in her parents marriage...

And yeah we have seen what adultery had been done by him..


Yes, seriously I am calling it 'emotional blackmail'

Its not about ego, it's about demand which they shouldn't fulfill, otherwise it'll become a habit. Parents should strictly say 'no' to all demands which are unwanted. Now, she knows she can pack bags and go to kolkata if her parents say no for something.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I AM Seriously Confused How a Child Should Be with His/Her parents..!! What would give His/Her The title Of being a Good Son /Daughter Or a good Human being..

I am more Confused About Is There any Separate rule For Respecting parents based on Ur gender??

Like If ur a Son u had to this..If Ur a Daughter if U have to do that..!!!

I have seen a life And surrounding where Girl or boy no matter has the similar right and duties to Respecting and Taking care Of parents..But Now a days people are making me really confuse..


According to Some If a Son doesn't Have the Guts To Shut His mother Or answer Her back is A Spineless..


According To some If A Daughter Shut Her Father she Became shameless..

If a Daughter Became Shameless By Keeping quit her father Then How can u shamelessly expect from a Son To shut her Mother...

In One hand Some Mocked a Son as Maa da laadla when he was following her Orders and Demands..

On The other hand a daughter got the honor To be called The best daughter until unless she was Following her Father;s orders And demands..


Now we are seeing people are Satisfied When a Son gave Back answer to her mother or Go against her

But when a Daughter answer back to her father or go against her she became the Most Unsatisfactory One..

When a Son Broke his Love relation for his mother he became the Worst human being on earth

But when a Girl Left her Relationship For her family She became The Best person on earth

When a son Did sth For his family that's his weakness

When a Daughter does sth For her family it's her Strength..

When a Son go against his family that's Called "BRAVO"!!!

But when a girl Go against her family that Is "SHAME"!!


When A son is To asked His decision Of his Life and failed to do so that Made Him Coward

But when a Girl Took Decision of Life by own Then she Became a Doormat..!!!

If expectation and rules are different for both Son and daughter Then why is there so much noise of equality..

If we Can't Digest What a daughter is Doing what we wanted To done by a Son then why r we expecting that for a son

And if we are happy with What a daughter is doing with her family then why we are Boiling our blood when the same thing is done by a Son with his family..

May Be many will come with a explanation That Here's a difference B/w 2 parents..Obviously there is..But difference Or fault in a Parent can't take the right Of them Or can't Change the duty of child..

Moral of the story is If u want a Girl to always follow ,Respect,Support Her Parents..Then that should be goes for a Son as well..

But If u want a son goes against his parents where they r Wrong or Where u find the R wrong then u should accept the fact that the Girl also go against Her parents where they r wrong Or where other Found them wrong..

That is equality..Other is Kind of Gender Discrimination..


[/QUOTe]Overwhelming post!Very aptly described⭐️!
Edited by TAMOGHNAD11 - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
#39

Originally posted by: grace4317

Krish...I agree with all you have said, except to the part that Dev had to slap & Bijoy deserved that slap. Firstly, Dev's slap was even out of Dev's control & unintentional. Secondly, being an elder, we shouldn't say that Bijoy should have been slapped...but surely he had to be kept at bay and this is one instance where I have a complaint about Asha, that she should have forcely taken Baba out from there...It is high time that, Baba learns to control his temper...Otw, he is going to be heart-broken once Saurav starts taking a strong stand after his marriage.


truly said grace n im sorry, its not our culture to slap elders

Edited by krish8090 - 8 years ago

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