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anonee

@anonee

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Posted: 8 years ago

Why is Meghna's mother so determined to get her 'just graduated' daughter married? In one of the episodes Meghna claimed that she has landed a job. So, obviously Meghna wants to work. Why does not her mother respect her wishes? Why is marriage the end-all of Meghna's education?

I am asking these questions - because Meghna's mother wants to come out as someone who wants the best for her daughters and yet conveys that marriage is the ultimate goal. She is so desperate to get Meghna married that she sits outside a house!

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Siya

@Siya2202

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Posted: 8 years ago

Well both the girls had to get married one day or the other. Sharda just wants a house for her daughters who will respect their daughter's capabilities and let them work after marriage. Thats the reason she broke her first alliance cos her in-laws doesn't let her work after marriage. She isn't getting desparate to marry meghna off, she is just trying to get her daughter a brighter future!

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anonee

@anonee

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: Siya2202
Well both the girls had to get married one day or the other. Sharda just wants a house for her daughters who will respect their daughter's capabilities and let them work after marriage. Thats the reason she broke her first alliance cos her in-laws doesn't let her work after marriage. She isn't getting desparate to marry meghna off, she is just trying to get her daughter a brighter future!

"She is trying to get her daughter a brighter future?" Why does Meghna's mother consider marriage a brighter future? Why does she not consider a career a brighter future?

If the girls "had to get married one day or the other" - why send a mail via Indian postal service or courier (if in a hurry) - why sit in front of someone's house and ambush them as they exit? Why is she not respecting her daughter's decision to work at the job that she has secured?

All these actions indicate to me that she is a narrow-minded individual who does not understand or does not want her daughter to work before marriage but wants a family that will allow her daughter to work after marriage!!

Edited by anonee - 8 years ago

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Siya

@Siya2202

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Posted: 8 years ago

What's wrong if sharda wants her daughter's to get married?? She isn't shown as the one clipping her daughter's wings by marrying her but she is constantly demanding that her daughter's holds complete right to work even after marriage. And it doesn't seems a big deal as for me if meghna works after or before her marriage, she is a educated, carrier oriented girl who knows to respect her mother's decisions. For sharda, its a part of her responsibility to get her daughter's married in a good house where people respects her daughter's capabilities. She just desires that her daughter's stand upright helding their heads high, fulfilling their dreams and living a respectable life even after marriage. If she wishes for the completion of her desires by getting her daughter's married in such house, I don't understand where she went wrong????
I know she was insulted by NK for her proposal, but she hasn't expected the behavior from him esp after listening to sujaan. She even regretted on her decision to approach the chauhans. But ultimatelt sujaan was the one who understood her perpective and instead approached her for kunal's alliance with meghna.
For me sharda isn't wrong a bit. A mother who single-handedly raised her daughter's without asking for a penny from anyone, isn't chose a wrong path to get her daughter married in a house which will respect their daughter's capabilities.

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anonee

@anonee

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: Siya2202
What's wrong if sharda wants her daughter's to get married?? She isn't shown as the one clipping her daughter's wings by marrying her but she is constantly demanding that her daughter's holds complete right to work even after marriage. And it doesn't seems a big deal as for me if meghna works after or before her marriage, she is a educated, carrier oriented girl who knows to respect her mother's decisions. For sharda, its a part of her responsibility to get her daughter's married in a good house where people respects her daughter's capabilities. She just desires that her daughter's stand upright helding their heads high, fulfilling their dreams and living a respectable life even after marriage. If she wishes for the completion of her desires by getting her daughter's married in such house, I don't understand where she went wrong????
I know she was insulted by NK for her proposal, but she hasn't expected the behavior from him esp after listening to sujaan. She even regretted on her decision to approach the chauhans. But ultimatelt sujaan was the one who understood her perpective and instead approached her for kunal's alliance with meghna.
For me sharda isn't wrong a bit. A mother who single-handedly raised her daughter's without asking for a penny from anyone, isn't chose a wrong path to get her daughter married in a house which will respect their daughter's capabilities.

There is nothing wrong in getting her daughter married - indeed it is fine. However she does not acknowledge or respect the fact that her daughter has received a job offer based on her merit nor is she willing to state that her daughter can work before marriage - this is being a fraud in my outlook. If she cannot accept her daughter working before marriage - why is she looking for a family that will accept her daughter working after marriage?

How can Sharadha look forward to her daughter standing upright with her head held high - when Sharadha sits on the door step waiting for a family member to come out in order to accept her marriage proposal. Where is Sharadha's Swabhimaan? And, she has not raised her daughter single-handed she has sought shelter with her brother in order to do so!

Edited by anonee - 8 years ago

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Siya

@Siya2202

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

Well I may like to put my views based on your assumptions:
1. Sharda has whole-heartedly accepted her daughter working in mumbai, she even fought with her brother who wasn't in favour of meghna working in mumbai in the first epi.
2. I think sharda considers that its the right time to get her daughter married cos she has completed her studies and even got a job. She might be thinking that mehgna can also continue with the job she has acquired even after marriage. And as meghna too said marriage is a part of life so I don't understand why is sharda wrong if she wants her daughter to get married at a normal age, just like every parent.
3. Well she wasn't deliberately wanted to get insulted by NK. She has heard sujaan before if you have seen in the previous epis and got impressed by his thoughts and values. She considered that the chauhans not only hold a higher position in the society, but has got certain values which would be perfect for her daughter and can support her to fulfill her desires. So she went to jaipur with the proposal, but she hasn't expected the behavior she has been subjected to in the chauhan mansion. So she was seen regretting on her decision for the same.
4. She has single-handedly raised her daughter's though she lives in her brother's home. Thats the reason she has been working as a teacher to meet her daughter's needs and to finance their education, for which she has been constantly taunted by her bhabhis as well, but she hasn't let her daughter's suffer for it. If she was so much dependent on her brother, she didn't have rejected the marriage proposal brought by her brother for meghna. She was seen standing by her decision, even she was subjected to various ill-sayings by her own family.
For me she isn't wrong, well you can disagree with it and put up your points too!

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anonee

@anonee

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: Siya2202
Well I may like to put my views based on your assumptions:
1. Sharda has whole-heartedly accepted her daughter working in mumbai, she even fought with her brother who wasn't in favour of meghna working in mumbai in the first epi.
2. I think sharda considers that its the right time to get her daughter married cos she has completed her studies and even got a job. She might be thinking that mehgna can also continue with the job she has acquired even after marriage. And as meghna too said marriage is a part of life so I don't understand why is sharda wrong if she wants her daughter to get married at a normal age, just like every parent.
3. Well she wasn't deliberately wanted to get insulted by NK. She has heard sujaan before if you have seen in the previous epis and got impressed by his thoughts and values. She considered that the chauhans not only hold a higher position in the society, but has got certain values which would be perfect for her daughter and can support her to fulfill her desires. So she went to jaipur with the proposal, but she hasn't expected the behavior she has been subjected to in the chauhan mansion. So she was seen regretting on her decision for the same.
4. She has single-handedly raised her daughter's though she lives in her brother's home. Thats the reason she has been working as a teacher to meet her daughter's needs and to finance their education, for which she has been constantly taunted by her bhabhis as well, but she hasn't let her daughter's suffer for it. If she was so much dependent on her brother, she didn't have rejected the marriage proposal brought by her brother for meghna. She was seen standing by her decision, even she was subjected to various ill-sayings by her own family.
For me she isn't wrong, well you can disagree with it and put up your points too!

I do disagree with you and I wrote my points under this topic but for some reason you either have not read them or ignore them. I am not asking you or anyone to agree with me.

What I have not clarified in my writing is that single-handed raising does not mean paying the child's fees alone it also means providing a roof and being emotionally, and mentally independent! Even financially it does not appear that Sharadha is independent - her brother gave her money to visit Jaipur and apparently also purchased her daughter's computer!

In addition, supporting Meghna in pursuing a job in Mumbai involves helping her move to Mumbai not seeking a marriage alliance in Jaipur!

Edited by anonee - 8 years ago

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Namita

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Posted: 8 years ago

Well, story of the show is about a girl getting to work after marriage as a lot of in laws don't want or allow their DIL's working.
Of course they have to get married for it to happen.
I personally finished my degree after marriage and after becoming a mom!!
So my point is why can't a married woman attain her goals. Why can't she have the best of both worlds. This, I believe is the concept of the show!!

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anonee

@anonee

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: _Namita_
Well, story of the show is about a girl getting to work after marriage as a lot of in laws don't want or allow their DIL's working.
Of course they have to get married for it to happen.
I personally finished my degree after marriage and after becoming a mom!!
So my point is why can't a married woman attain her goals. Why can't she have the best of both worlds. This, I believe is the concept of the show!!

I am all for a married woman attaining her goals - with respect to education and career. And I respect your in-laws for enabling you in the process. I understand this is the concept of the show too. And I do hope your parents too would similarly support their DILs.

However, I do not understand why it is a problem in accepting that parents should support not only their sons but also their daughters in pursuing a career. This does not mean that they do not want their children to get married. It means that they respect their children's choices too. This is what Sharadha (or the show) failed to depict. - her speech and actions do not show that she supports her daughter in pursuing the Mumbai job. I also found the way she tried to button-hole the Chauhans' with her daughter's proposal humiliating and promoting the age old concept that daughters are a burden and the need to grovel to the prospective groom's parents. I think it is very disgraceful that such concepts are promoted under the banner that "the show is about a girl getting to work after marriage as a lot of in laws don't want or allow their DIL's working".

Edited by anonee - 8 years ago

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Namita

@Namita-M

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Posted: 8 years ago

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Originally posted by: anonee

I am all for a married woman attaining her goals - with respect to education and career. And I respect your in-laws for enabling you in the process. I understand this is the concept of the show too. And I do hope your parents too would similarly support their DILs.

However, I do not understand why it is a problem in accepting that parents should support not only their sons but also their daughters in pursuing a career. This does not mean that they do not want their children to get married. It means that they respect their children's choices too. This is what Sharadha (or the show) failed to depict. - her speech and actions do not show that she supports her daughter in pursuing the Mumbai job. I also found the way she tried to button-hole the Chauhans' with her daughter's proposal humiliating and promoting the age old concept that daughters are a burden and the need to grovel to the prospective groom's parents. I think it is very disgraceful that such concepts are promoted under the banner that "the show is about a girl getting to work after marriage as a lot of in laws don't want or allow their DIL's working".

I think I understand what you are trying to say. Unfortunately, I'm not able to connect with it much as I may of Indian origin but not Indian. I never had to face going to school or career and other stuff. In fact, I went through a career change after marriage. So, my parents supported me through what I wanted to do in the first place. After marriage my hubby and in laws supported with the new thing I wanted to do.

I, too didn't like Sharda camping in front of the Chauhaan house. That's wasn't self respect.

Lets see how the show progresses. Fingers crossed that it doesn't just become a saas bahu saga. I cant' stand that and would be the first person to leave this show.

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