Every time they show the hero leaning towards men no woman in their sane mind would like to marry, they sweeten the deal with romantic and chirpy background score and cute expressions to take our mind away from the actual problem.
In fact what surprised me that what a big role background score plays. May be that's the way we can make women forget their place in the hierarchy in their in-laws, make them forget that even when they are mother of their husband's children, they will always be "Paraya Dhan" for their parents and outsiders in their in-laws.
Sonakshi is a true romantic. She always has been in love with love. She wanted the fairy tale marriage with Mr. Prince Charming which when opportunity knocked, she jumped into it blindfolded.
She never took lesson from her biggest heartbreak that this time around, let's make sure that this guy is as invested and as dedicated to this relationship as her.
In her mind, she loves him and he says he loves her (as long as no one in his family makes a prior claim) and that's that.
We (whom some members call nitpickers) said, Don't leap again with your eyes closed. Even a child who has been burned with a hot glass of milk before picks a glass filled with even iced drink carefully.
But no, just like women who deliberately shut out all their senses including their brain in love, she leaped.
Then started the slow burn.
She felt the heat on her wedding day. First time in my life, I watched a bride cry on her wedding day in humiliation, not while leaving her parents' house.
Then temperature increased and she felt the heat continue when she entered her new home. Again, I have seen brides leave their hand stamps and feet marks in their new house. Here a bride left her tear marks in the threshold of her new life.
Since then not a day passed since the wedding day when a new bride didn't shed tears.
Ishwari worships her God, yet which God stays in a home where a woman is insulted, humiliated and bring to tears EVERY SINGLE DAY, I'd like to know if someone would care to enlighten me!!!
But just to make the bitter pill easier to swallow, CVs sweeten the deal with cute romantic sprinkles here and there. Just so that people who have no qualms to watch a woman suffer indignity can concentrate on those scenes and forget the humiliations.
After all, this is reality.
Don't women get told, concentrate on sweet romantic times honey. Forget your pain and insults. Isn't the romantic moments enough of a payback for your respect? What more do you want? Aisi baaton ko dil se nehin lagate. Bade bade deshon mein aisi choti choti baat hoti rehti hai.
So as usual like most women, Sonakshi took the blinder and put it on where only romantic moments are playing on repeat.
May be if she increases the volume loudly enough, she can forget her self-respect in the white noise.
Kudos for your effort. But note the man who said sorry so easily on your wedding night expected you to say sorry for his fault.
But at least you are going to work. Funny how Elena had to remind you who you are.
Hope your work gives you the sense of belonging which you won't get in your husband's house. But be careful, sometimes when you only are left with one place to feel like home, people tend to spend more and more of their time there.
If you were a man (although you won't have been in this circumstances had you been a man), I'd say this guy will start to spend more and more time at work to get away from toxic environment.
But double standard applies here as well. You are an Indian woman who will have to be the definition of an ideal wife.
Karyeshu Dasi, Karaneshu Manthri; Bhojeshu Mata, Shayaneshu Rambha, Roopeshu lakshmi, Kshamayeshu Dharitri, Shat dharmayukta, Kuladharma Pathni
" NeetisaraTranslation:
Works like a maid...
Advises like a Minister (although who gives a damn)...
Cooks like a mother...
Pleases in bed like a courtesan...
As beautiful as Goddess Laxmi...
As forgiving (or as sacrificing and tolerant) as Mother Earth ...
A woman who has this virtues is an ideal wife...
What? Are you asking what is the definition of an ideal husband? There isn't one beyond marrying a woman and earning money although the later is not mandatory. Yep, that's it.