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I am kind of surprised that everything I write in my post, I see on screen the next day.
I wrote these posts the last few days. If you read my comments and compare with the next day's episode, you will see how Dev's dialogues are exactly mimicing my comments/advice.
http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=4728524&TPN=4
But Dev never asked her to do any of this. He proved that when he said that Tulsi puja is not her. The her that he married is someone else. This person she is trying to be is not the person he married. She doesn't need to fit in because she is already his legally wedded wife, his family. She is perfect fit for him and that's all that matters.
He backed off when she told him that it was her decision.
If she was already into cooking but never had a chance to learn, then of course take interest in it and learn from her mother-in-law.
If she was already religious only did not know the North Indian rituals, fine, learn from Dadi bua.
But here's the thing. If you try to be something else for someone else, you will always be anyone else but you.
Sona unfortunately is trying to win over someone who she can never win over barring leaving from her husband's life.
In the meanwhile, she is losing her self whom Dev fell in love with.
Dev's comment in the following episode:Best bahu hone ke pageant jitte jitte best wife hone ki pageant mat bhul jana.
http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=4730483
Sona didn't have to agree to anything without talking to Dev and if she had said that she will talk to Dev about the fast, Ishwari would have backtracked fast because she never wants Dev to know about the games she is playing.
I am a very liberal woman as you all know but I am a strict believer of equality. If you take a decision that impacts another person's life or choice, then you have to discuss it with that person before taking the decision.
In my comment on the same post:
I can understand why Dev is looking so confused.
Sona, go to work or go home to remind yourself who you are and why you are in Dixit household. You are not there to be Ishwari's daughter-in-law. You are there to be Dev's wife. Every other identity is connected to that identity of a wife. So be a wife first and then if you have left anything else to give, then be a daughter-in-law or sister-in-law.
In another comment:
She, on the other hand, is taking her decision on her own which also impacts her husband.
Wasn't that her biggest complaint with Dev when he took the decision to break up on his own, knowing very well that Sona never wants to leave his side?
"Aapne hum dono ki zindegi ka faisla akele hi le liya?" That's what she said.
Isn't it hypocritical of doing the same to Dev even if it's only for 9 days?
Dev's comment in today's episode paraphrases my comments ditto.
In the same post and in another post, I commented how Sona should take a trip to her home to remind herself who she is and for Dev to see how to balance relationships.
Today CVs sent them to Bose house.
CVs, if you are following my comments, can I put an request to get Sona's brain back?
P.S. I have an advice for Dev and Sona. Please do pass it on to your writers.
One time, there was a couple who tried to please everyone and live happily ever after.
But one day the husband's dad asked him to go to the market and shop the whole day's worth of grocery.
So to please his father, even though he wanted to spend time with his wife, he went.
When in the evening the husband returned, he saw his wife was leaving because now in the meanwhile, the wife's mother called her to help her in her household. So the wife went to help her.
When the wife was coming home, she noticed that her husband was leaving because someone else asked him for help.
Eventually it got so worse that they had to say no to help out because they were too busy helping someone else.
Then all the people they could not help started to get angry because their expectations were that they will get help whenever they want.
In the end they realised that by trying to please everyone, they had let other people dictate their life and they never got to have their own happily ever after.
Moral of the story: Forget in-laws from both sides. First make yourself happy before running after people trying to please them while your own life is passing you by.
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