Sonakshi, Bose, and Dixit. - Page 3

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

@bold: This is precisely what I was trying to say. But Sona is one of those people who can't just accept that she has chosen the wrong subject/teacher, drop it, and move on. For her it becomes a matter of pride and so intent is she on conquering it, that she gives it all her energy, and in the process, lets her other subjects suffer.

I don't think Sona is stubbornly holding on to the wrong subject for her pride. Pleasing Eeshwari is important for her, because Dev has given Eeshwari that kind of power over their happiness. He not so long ago, dumped Sona because Eeshwari didn't like her as her bahu and he came back to Sona only after Eeshwari agreed for marriage. She is doing it all for the sake of Dev and he is a very important subject for her.

What you have described at the beginning of your post is what Bijoy and Asha did right for Sona. That made her the amazing woman she is today. But I am arguing that where he fell a bit short was in giving her the capacity to deal with people who didn't like/admire her immediately. She is completely unable to cope with the idea that Ishwari thinks she is lacking in certain areas. Also, Ishwari never said Sona couldn't cook ever, she merely didn't want her to do so in front of Dadibua, who was very particular and prone to temper tantrums. This was not the right time for patient teaching, especially given that Ishwari herself was on edge and nervous in front of her saas. But even that small restriction from Ishwari was unacceptable to Sona, and she just had to prove then and there that she was worthy... adding to everybody's stress.

Sona was fine when her boss complained about her work during the break up. She didn't let her pride come in the way. She just wanted to do better. She has the right attitude. Bijoy might have a problem with his pride but Sona doesn't. Asha has an influence on her too.

Ishwari is saying, "you're not ready to take the exam yet," but all Sona is hearing is "you failed the exam."

Then we are not seeing Eeshwari the same way. For me, Eeshwari is a manipulative woman and she uses underhand tactics to get her way, either consciously or unconsciously. Eeshwari was not being nice to Sona when dadibua was there. She was just trying to keep her position secure by belittling Sona. She knew dadibua would recognize her cooking and she probably expected her to blast Sona when she fails to answer dadi's questions. But Sona was observant and she answered the questions and impressed dadibua. Eeshwari wasn't relieved until dadibua told her that she caught her lie and praised her cooking. But she realized that if she let Sona into her domain, Sona would easily learn everything and she will lose her hold on the household. She intentionally made Sona go through tulsi puja and Navratri vrat to make her feel inadequate and relegate her to an inferior position in the household. Yesterday she was telling Dev that they both are a team and marriage shouldn't change that. That's depraved thinking. A man and his wife are a team after marriage, not his mother. She is insecure about this and she is being a nasty bully to Sona.