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Originally posted by: bscorp13
Priya..I had sworn to not get into this discussion today but let's say ..you nailed it ..enough said...I am tired of seeing thus constant pitting of anything done by raman to be measured against his blunders while those of ishita are conveniently forgotten since ppl believe she has paid the price or has apologized for them or that she needn't apologise since raman was more at fault..all of which are strange arguments since nothing if the sort has been explicitly shown to us yet..If cvs chose to brush the entire why did ishita choose to leave 2 kids sc and go kill herself ( btw till now she has not been shown blaming raman or his words for it...except the one incomplete hospital scene..rather she keeps quoting the loss of ruhi as the reason too)...and raman is still not shown knowing that ishita actually tried to KI'll herself twice..he is still heard saying she went away., and ishita agrees to this most times. ...Si coming to the point again...if cvs have chosen to ignore this whole discussion if raman abusI've words...vs ishitas running away..raman's post leap language and blunders..vs ishita deciding to 'sacrifice' her husband and family for the sake of her best friends sacrifices fir the family etc...then this should be extended equally to ramsn and ishita as a clean slate...Wht is it that when raman is shown greiving for losing the child who was the centre of his life for 7 yrs we agsin point back at those blunders and unresolved questions..yet the same questions are rarely as k ed when ishita was missing pihu and grieving for her ..or when she is now shown emotional about missing adis growing up years or apologizing to him..So either both should be blamed or we should take yhm cvs cv route and behave as if what happened 7 yrs back was just one of the regular fights ishra have...and both have gotten over it...all the talk of self respect and pain makes sense only if the protagonist shows that she believes this man emotionally abused her too right? Else both ishita and raman are now the ones we know pre leap..and hence we should at least be allowed to talk and discuss raman's pain as a parent. .the same as we do for ishita. ..why the seperate parameters for each..If and when cvs give a discussion ..confrontation explaining reasons let debates happem...I don't know if I made sense ..but strangely as a mother and a woman. .some of these views which are apparently for a woman's self respect..but totally insensitive to the whole truth and situation on both sides make me cringe..đ„±No offence to anyone. .these are totally my own views on what I see and hear...
I understand your points. I also understand that there is a wide-spread expectation in this forum for explicit repenting, guilt, realization only from Raman's side, whereas looks like it is not the case with Ishita and she appears to have already done more than enough for her act the other night and her decision to stay away all these years. Anyways, it is their views and they are entitled to it.
That does not mean that we should stop ourselves from expressing what we feel and swear not to comment. Just like many feel that Ishita's fault cannot be make Raman correct, I feel that the same equally applies to Raman as well. Raman's fault do not make Ishita and her decision as correct. Both are at fault, both need to repent, realize, reconcile and sort out things, only then the meaning of marriage and companionship makes sense. I agree Raman is more at fault for instigating suicide, bringing shagun at the Bhalla's and for initiating a marriage with shagun, but then Ishita forgetting about the children and even thinking about suicide is a bigger mistake as well and has an equal role to play in the life of Pihu and Adi. This is my opinion and I am entitled to it.
If pointing out this means that I am a Raman fan or the one who blindly justifies Raman at the cost of other characters or an obsessed KP fan or a Ishita basher or a DT basher, I would prefer to remain that way, because I know for sure, that the few unbiased viewers would try & understand my POV. The rest, I don't give much importance to what they think about my views.đ.
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