Next to God thy parents !!!

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The quotes...Meaning of FAMILY is Father Mother I Love You. Anyone can have a child and call themselves " a parent". A real parent is someone who puts that child above their own selfish needs and wants. Your children need your presence more than your presents. Parents are the ultimate role models for children.

Every word, movement and action has an effect. No other person or outside force has a greater influence in a child than the parent. Your child will follow your example, not your advice. The sign of great parenting is not the child's behavior. The sign of great parenting is the parent's behavior.

When kids focus on excuses, parent need to focus on the responsibility. Children shouldn't have to sacrifice so that you can have the life you want. You make sacrifices so your children can have the life that they deserve. Parents can only give good advice but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands...hold true.


It's not the child's responsibility to teach the parent who they are. It's the parent's responsibility to learn who the child is. Keeping a child away from the other parent because you don't want them to be in a relationship with anyone other than you is a form of child abuse.

Don't worry that children never listen to you, worry that they are always watching you. Time is the most valuable gift a parent can give to their children. Parents may not be perfect but they are the most precious gift God has ever given you.


Every person has a different role to play in their lives. A man becomes a son, a brother, then a husband, a father. Similarly among the parents what one of the parent can provide cannot be provided by the other parent ...ie the mother cannot fulfill the role of a father, similarly what a father cannot fulfill the role of a mother in the child's life. Each have significant role to play in bringing the development of a child. This essential mix is absent in single parents homes.

No love is greater than mom's love. No care is greater than dad's care. One father is worth more than hundred schoolmasters. A father holds his child's hand for a short while, but holds his child's heart forever. A father is neither an anchor to hold us back, nor a sail to take us there, but a guiding light whose love shows us the way.


Dualri was right in giving advice to Dhani regarding the importance of Viplav in Vidha's life. She clearly has told Dhani that the role Viplav plays in Vidha's life is different from hers and vice versa. And Vidha has equal right to receive love and affection from Viplav as well and she is equally Viplav's responsibility.

For Vidha's proper development it's better to let Viplav take care of vidha as well and keep their differences aside. Viplav himself has right to know about his daughter and he deserves to give Vidha the best he can. Running away from Viplav doesn't solve her problems and they may face each other any time.


Dhani's sacrificing ie keeping her differences aside can make lot of difference in the development of her child. Both Viplav and dhani will play a role model in their child's life. Both of them have a great influence on vidha. So it is up to Dhani whether she decides to let Viplav in Vidha's life and let him fill her life with happiness and he does have right to it as well.

Do share your views.

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Hello wise pearl,
Unres.glad to b d first one to comment baarbs nehi ban payi first. 😃
Again a brilliant post pearl,d problem about daily posts is that appreciation k liye shabd kam pad jate hain.

FAMILY,todays thought is soo appropriate for todays world.broken families, wonder what those child must have gone through.people look at them in a different way, they had to make a choice between both parent,which is actually impossible.mother n father both have different roles in a childs development n none can replace it.though dhani can say she brought vidha up being her father n mother,but little vidha's heart pines for her father.no dhani,no parsiya can take his place.

It is easy to give birth but to show d child best path in life is very difficult,here comes d question of good parenting.

Very thought provoking post.i find dhani is commiting a sin by depriving viplab of his daughter, vidha from her father.
Edited by simple2joy - 9 years ago
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Hi pearl
Always your posts surprise me a lot.All your posts are beautiful.
This post is also a amazing one.
A child always wish his/her parents love.Their role model is there parents.They imitate them in speaking,walking,eating,laughing etc.
They always want to become like their parents.The love and care from their parents will be a beautiful memory in them.it will be always remain the same...
Mother and father play important role in a child's life.Mother's love and Father's care they are precious for them.
A single parent can't fulfill it.
In the case of vidha Dhani is a good mother.but she can't take place of viplav.
The parents always support their children and always want their happiness
In the case of vidha circumstances are different.viplav will be a good father for vidha.but his family they will try to harm her.
In that way Dhani is trying to save her daughter from evil eyes.
When viplav will find the real truth vidha will get her father and mother together.

Thanks for the pm
With lots of love
Shamina
Edited by Sakkiyah - 9 years ago
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Woww beautiful👏👏 every line is so perfect.. bohot achcha likhti ho behena..
nothing more to add to ur thought provoking post.. its awesome as always👏👏



@joya didi.. haan tum first reader ban gayi.. congrats😆😆
my phooti kismath.. i did not read hammie's take yet.. i dont think i will be able to read them even tomorrow .. kal amr registration ache.. will not get time to read such lengthy posts😕
isiliye tum aur swathi dhoom macho hammie's take pe jake.. i will join u guys later😆😆
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Res..😛
Aaj mje swati dikh q nahi rahy.. 🤓
UnRes..
Swati wise swati... ❤️
👏 ⭐️ great thoughts as usual.. kia baat hai.. kia baat hai.. 😳
Ppl like me won't hav to share much or contribute any further yarr.. ths s so apt n wonderful.. 😃
I too was feeling jst like joy that depriving Viplov frm his right,, depriving Vidha frm her birthright.. snatching her daughter's greatest happiness...whch kind of ego ths dhani is satisfying bt today's epis last scene made me think otherwise swati.. that's wat fiery Dhani's face we wer promised post leap I guess.. the situation still looks quite bleak n ppl hav started panicking as expected listening half baked spoilers n rumors.. 😆 bt fr me today's Dhani's step fr her daughter's happiness... despite knowing about viplov moving on..she decided to fight back.. 😲 I was shocked actually.. I thought she must be forced by newly wedded couple.. bt no man..it was her conscious decision to confront viplov n to kno his truth.. ⭐️ 👏 such a positive msg in the end.. that's her real growth believe me n now I'm confident nobody can sideline her n Vidha frm their right... cz ths fiery Dhani has decided to fight bac.. 😳

So now I jst dun want to listen to any spoiler n will wait fr actual epi to unfold.. though was missing Viplov in today's epi.. he seems to be the real guest appearanve today.. 😆 still I hope we get some brilliant acting by him tomorrow. . Eagerly waiting for the face off... 😳
Thnk u totd expert 😳 fr writing fr us n giving ur sweat n blood to this forum once again.. 😛 LOVE U...!!
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😆 What Res Nuss ...jaldi jaldi apna reply do ...mai sogae thi 😆
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Boht kuch likhna hai... bhhhttt kuch... tu aise kar fir se so ja.. ill wake u up after 30 min.. my reply will b up till then..😆
chal tu joyu bb saki ko reply kar.. tab tak mine will b done..😛
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Hello Dr Joy 😊...good to see you first 😆...thank you for reading and sharing your view...Very true in a broken family a child goes through a lot and it is very difficult to be in their place and understand things from their pov...its unfair to ask them to choose between the parents and deprive them the love of one of the parents...the young mind goes through the trauma and such situations does have a powerful impact in their future as well.

True Viplav cannot be replaced by Dhani or Parsiya and Vidha does crave for her fathers love and guidance in her life at one or the other point in her life...yes bringing up a child is a very difficult task and equally requires both the parents efforts to give a proper upbringing...Dhani does need to let Viplav in vidha's life and he does have right to bring up his child...Till then take care.
Edited by pearl100 - 9 years ago
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Hello Shamina 😊 ...good to see you...thank you for reading and sharing your view...Thank you dear...True a child learns through imitation and a child does deserve both the parents love and guidance in his/ her life...its not that easy to be fulfilled by a single parent.

Children always observe their parents well and they consider their parents to be a role model...both the parents presence does matter to them a lot in their lives...it is essential for proper development of a child.

True Vidha's situation is different and dhani does try her best to protect her child, yes it would be interesting to see whether dhani and viplav will bring up Vidha together or not ...Till then take care.
Edited by pearl100 - 9 years ago
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Hello Barbie Doll 😊...good to see you ...thank you for reading and commenting dear ...thank you re...All the best dear ...acche col mai admission mile bass... koi baat nahi baad mai araam se padh lena hum kahi nahi bhag rahe hain...Till then take care.

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