To Crush Or Not To Crush...

Another post credited to Sareeta, my dear friend, whose current lousy luck with posts has spilled over now to her internet connection!!! But this is entirely her idea and before someone else posted it (unlikely), I wanted it up for discussion…

Let us shift focus momentarily away from Armaan and Ridhima and spare a thought for Sapna…Smitten from the first time she set eyes on him, Sapna has been building castles in the air, hoping she will share those very castles with dear Dr. Shubhankar. In fact her infatuation is much older than the love story of our lead pair. That this tale hasn't gone beyond soft focus and heart shaped balloons and an annoying background tune is not the subject of this post. We have already expressed our grouse with this stagnation at length.

There are now two other people in the know about this crush…Dr. Kirti and the object of Sapna's affections, Dr. Shubhankar himself. Maybe not completely comprehending the nature of Sapna's feelings, but he has definitely been hit on the head with Kirti's astute observations and is thus wary now!!

So here's the question of the day, what does one do when he/she realizes that someone nurtures a secret desire? Does sensible and sensitive reasoning, illustrating why the sought reciprocation is an impossibility, fulfill its purpose? Or does one have to resort to a cold and insensitive, albeit very real truth, like 'main aapke bare mein sochta nahin hoon'? Or does it call for more severe measures? Or does one just sit back and enjoy the attention, after all enjoying is not encouraging, is it???

So…forget Hamlet's dilemma…ours is greater!! To Crush or Not To Crush!!!

Gr8 post 👏 ...okay here's my two pennys worth 😳 ..

I think it was quite uncalled for the way he said, 'main aapke baare mein sochta nahin hoon'...He shudve tried and made her understand gently and concisely that there cud never be anything between them...an if someone is already in his life he shud hav told her that as well....this way she can stop following a pipe dream an face reality...I'm sure Sapna being a sensible girl, wud hav got the message and backed away....Only if she persists in her behaviour shud he resort to severe measures

I hope that made sense 😕

Kittycat 😊

@ kitty cat...so you are for the gentle approach, but any self respecting girl in her right mind would've and should've got the message with that line, don't you think??? but sapna is still gung ho about playin sohni to shubhankar's mahiwaal inspite of that snub, and it was a little harsher than required, i agree....

so if the tough route didn't work you think the soft approach would???

well...to b honest i really don't hav a very concrete ans. to dis one.
its a little of both in my opinion....u really can't afford to do nothin abt d situation esp. when its spillin over ur prof. life nd making headlines wid yer colleagues!!
to do nothing is more often dan not interpreted as positive vibes nd it also givs added coverage to d other person to hold u responsible.people...esp.,people under d rosy shades of luv or infatuation or whatever...tend to posses an alarmin quality of ignoring d obvious....often sufferin frm a profuse case of myopia.
bt on d other hand by bein rude nd callous d object of der affection can seriously shatter der already fragile emotions!!
d best course of actions...is to b firm nd understandin bt only to a point.wat is needed is an empathy bt concealed.an understandin bt firm.nd ofcourse diplomacy at its best.

@ pixie....your opinion comes very close to mine, though i did not term it a myopic vision, that was ver well said. these people are not just myopic, they have a reselient optimism that fails to succumb to any reasoning!!!

Originally posted by: vaarti

@ pixie....your opinion comes very close to mine, though i did not term it a myopic vision, that was ver well said. these people are not just myopic, they have a reselient optimism that fails to succumb to any reasoning!!!

liked ur way of puttin it better lol.....hd 2 check up reselience first though😆😆

awesum vocab girl👏

oh thank you pixie...i wanted to add a bit more to your post, but will wait for a few more replies! i think the process actually follows a graph...

People with a crush do tend to have resilient optimism like you say Aarti. I guess the best way would be to take the person out on a dinner and then explain gently, diplomatically, but firmly that you are not interested and have someone else in your life either by asking them about their future plans and whether they have anyone in their life and hinting you are not interested or telling them you are already committed. At the same time, tell them you appreciate them as a colleague or friend.

If that fails to work then firm measures which clearly tell the person you are not interested are called for.

Actually depends on the kind of person who has the infatuation. If sensible they will take the hint with reasoning. If they tend to be persistent then they firmly need to be told that you are not interested, the earlier the better. Always better to nip in the budding stages.

Quietly enjoying their attention might create an impression of encouraging them.

Nice topic...😳

hmmm will give me opinions soon😉

Originally posted by: ginak

People with a crush do tend to have resilient optimism like you say Aarti. I guess the best way would be to take the person out on a dinner and then explain gently, diplomatically, but firmly that you are not interested and have someone else in your life either by asking them about their future plans and whether they have anyone in their life and hinting you are not interested or telling them you are already committed. At the same time, tell them you appreciate them as a colleague or friend.

If that fails to work then firm measures which clearly tell the person you are not interested are called for.

Actually depends on the kind of person who has the infatuation. If sensible they will take the hint with reasoning. If they tend to be persistent then they firmly need to be told that you are not interested, the earlier the better. Always better to nip in the budding stages.

Quietly enjoying their attention might create an impression of encouraging them.

I totally agree!....It depends on the individual.....i wudve thought Sapna is the sensible type an wudve got the message when Shubhankar told her he doesnt think bout her.....but i think he hit a blank wall there....she was only momentarily puzzled by his behaviour.....He needs to take a more drastic approach if all else fails......but then for that we'll jus hav to wait an watch how far she wud go with her infatuation