Abusive relationships in BV - DTN pg 2 - Page 3

She was bitter and still hurting when J was on his mission maafi maanging and she forgave him because she wanted to move on in life.

Only after she started life as wife of Shiv that her wounds healed completely.That's when she started looking at her relationship with J in a more objective manner so she was able to give him a clean chit by separating the person from the acts that he has committed in the past.

She never denied the fact that Jagya was a lousy husband to her in the court or never denied the fact that he hurt her a lot while they were married.But it is just that she understood the reason behind his behaviour. But it doesn't occur to her that if she is in his position she wouldn't have behaved the way he did.

And why A is leaving under the same roof with him - is she shameless - Yes for me.

And next generation - Kundan will be one more abuser of Nandini.

Uttaran track repeated.- Yes K is Akash - may be he will be redeemed or there will be Amit.

Harki will stay back - the actress will be a good replica of Akash's mom.

No point in talking about old characters = Lets see if new characters appeal viewers.

if yes then who will be new Kundan???????

and what about other cast - who will play shivam , abhi mannu

No one said that JaAn's relationship was as abusive as Gehna-Basant's or Kundan-Urmi. There can be different level of abuses in a relationship. A person who murders someone is called a criminal and a person who steals something is also called a criminal because both the cases are consider a crime under eyes of law. The level of criminality involved is extremely different but both would be considered a crime. Same way, JaAn's relationship had become abusive at one point even if it wasn't at level of others.

I think AnSh's relationship during Saanchi-Jagya's court case was an example of troubled relationship. Shiv or Anandi had not abused each other in any manner but their lack of proper communication and unwillingness to solve the matter by not talking about it were signs of trouble in the relationship. Had Shiv reacted like Ira and blamed Anandi by using abusive language, even their relationship would have been termed 'abusive' for that period of time.

It's pretty useless to ask why Anandi lives at BH if Jagya had been abusive towards her during few years of their marriage because it's Anandi! She actually forgave a criminal like Dadibua and tried to convince Daddu to let that snake of a woman stay with them despite everything. That should give us a clear view on Anandi's odd views on forgiveness. If she can forgive someone like Dadibua and Saanchi, she would definitely forgive Jagya because Jagya was nowhere as vicious as these two devilish women. Even Gauri looked angel in front those two devils of KB!

But still it doesn't give Jagya an excuse to behave the way he did with Anandi.

Making one's spouse/partner feel inferior does amount to abusive relationship.Jagya after all that Anandi done for him had no right to behave that way even if his preferences have changed.

This kind of abuse is more common than what Akheraj Ratan Singh etc indulge in.

Anandi tried to put up with him and tried to correct her so called inadequacies.But once she got to know the real reason behind Jagya's behaviour she didn't want anything to do with him.Her relationship with Jagya ended there In fact she wanted to leave and it was for the sake of Dsa she stayed back.Her reasons for staying in BH had nothing to do with Jagya but more to do with Sumi Bhairon and Dsa who invested just as much as she did in the relationship she shared with them.

She being the kind of person she is she learnt to forgive him even if it took a long time to heal the wounds he has given her with his constant insults and taunts.

She was willing to accept him as a friend after he rescued her from the kidnappers. But was she willing to take him back as her husband?

Forgiving him for the way he had hurt her and taking him back as her husband are two different things.

She has forgiven him because that was her nature she didn't him back as husband because she is a self respecting woman.