It feels like I have not yet understood Raghunandan- Sita

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daydreamers

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Posted: 9 years ago

#21

That's what I said shruthi... Parents can only guide... We are on the same page...

Life is a stage and we are all actors...

I wanna share smthn what I learnt in theatre workshop...

"One cannot teach ppl to act.. One can only guide"

That's what a director does, right?

And the work is then known to be director's work...

In this context our parents are directors and we are actors...

If we perform wrong, the director is criticised..

"Ma baap ne itna bhi nahi sikhaya kya?" Comes up...

From my personal experience.. I was guided towards engg... It wasn't that I wasn't interested.. I loved science.. I love technicalities... But through the journey I lost interest... So much that now it frustrates...

And am pretty much vocal about this... Am not happy...

My mumma knows this.. My father doubts about it 😆 my brother says if u get an opportunity go for it...

So in a nutshell, transparency is very important in this whole process...

Even if they have guided me, I took the direction .. But it leaves Mr frustrated... No use...

I lost opportunities this year, all thanks to my health...

But my family supported my decision... I decided to back out they said fine try for the entrance next year...

The support, the guidance, the transparency actually increases the responsibility on both the sides...

And once responsibility is entrusted you cannot go wrong...

But very unfortunately, parents miss this aspect...

I have seen my friends who aren't happy with what they are doing.. They don't voice out.. Even if they do parents don't pay attention...

The reason is parents feel if theur kids back out or change side they won't be able to show face to the society...

It's bizzare... Doesnt make sense... Parents need to understand one thing... If thru difficulties they succumb to the societal pressures they make it even more difficult for their kids... It results into unavoidable circumstances... Most of the suicide cases are a result of this...

My plans aren't materialised yet...

I don't know where will I land... Will the equation with my parents be the same or not...

But definitely my pg course is delayed once again...

My parents may show to others that they don't know what I will do, they in reality know and also don't know... 😆

They don't know what I'll do.. Even am clueless... But they know one thing I'll find a way out...

They never brought me up parroting about material... They told money is need but don't be greedy...

Learn to be contended with whatever material you have.. But don't be satisfied with your work, as once u reach satisfaction in the work front there's no scope of improvement..

I may not know how to cook food... I may not toil with the daily household chores but my parents have given me both things-

The need of ambition and the thin line between ambition and household...

If the line is crossed from any side, you lose yourself...

Its like work defines you, but you define your household... 😉

Trust me if today's generation understands this, there won't be a divorce, there won't be a suicide...

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shruthiravi

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Posted: 9 years ago

#22

Such a detailed post DD 😃. But you missed the most important part. If you want to direct, you need a script. And script is the foundation. From where do you get a good script. From your own understanding of life, through books, through experiences. And all these decide what is the script you want for your child.

And if the script is bad, how much ever the director try, how much ever the actor try, it will show up. Because foundation is gone wrong.

Script is the expectation of your final output, direction happens based on that, will the actor deliver it. Only audience will tell. 😃

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daydreamers

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Posted: 9 years ago

#23

Originally posted by: shruthiravi
Such a detailed post DD 😃. But you missed the most important part. If you want to direct, you need a script. And script is the foundation. From where do you get a good script. From your own understanding of life, through books, through experiences. And all these decide what is the script you want for your child.
And if the script is bad, how much ever the director try, how much ever the actor try, it will show up. Because foundation is gone wrong.

Script is the expectation of your final output, direction happens based on that, will the actor deliver it. Only audience will tell. 😃

Yes script is an important part... I didn't miss.. I didn't put it purposefully... 😉

Who takes the script seriously now a days? Tell that... 😆

Life does teach.. But it depends on ppl if they keep the record or not.. If they write a script and direct accordingly or not...

Nowadays ppl direct as per the script given by the society 😆

And if baccha mere jaisa writer ho toh direction ki bhi jarurat nahi 🤣

Fortunately my parents gave me the script of what life taught them...

But I have my own script of what life taught me...

Parents can teach kids to think...

Thought process is very important as every person view things differently...

Even I find my parent's script distorted 😆 I put my interpretation within...

Its important for parents to tell children that question fearlessly...

I may never question things in class or lectures... Cz I need to go deep into the topic.. And I take time...

But I don't fail to question myself... I don't fail to question life.. I don't fail to question luck...

And you know the funny part? Once my script is ready after getting answers, life changes it's questions... 😆

At times I think parents should give the freedom, let their kids soar,fly,fall,drown... Let them understand their life on their own...

I was pretty much put down by my luck... Though I had a support... My parents shared my pain, but they didn't direct me as such... I guess that's what made me understand life better purely through my POV...

Instead of parents preaching about life, values and blah blah the best part is to hear the experiences and stories from them.. That might be mistakes, wrong decisions struggles, good times.. Anything...

Parents should tell stories and let children interpret as their understanding...

There's no need of a script then.. The child will write its own.. 😉

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daydreamers

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Posted: 9 years ago

#24

And one more thing, actor takes up the role only and only if he likes the script...

So parents shouldn't expect that their kid will work like the way they wrote and direct it... 😉

Plus the script that life gives is unpredictable... Why to limit the actor's potential? 😉

Experiences are a medium which a parent can ensure that their dilemma is reduced..

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shruthiravi

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Posted: 9 years ago

#25

Yes DD actor will only take if the script is interesting. So script writer has a hard task to write interesting scripts😆😆. That's why I said parenting is a hard job giving exam day in day out for some 15 years without knowing what the result would be 😆😆

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daydreamers

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Posted: 9 years ago

#26

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

Yes DD actor will only take if the script is interesting. So script writer has a hard task to write interesting scripts😆😆. That's why I said parenting is a hard job giving exam day in day out for some 15 years without knowing what the result would be 😆😆

it wouldn't be difficult if the writer has faith in his experiences and life...

i feel before giving the script and direction it is essential to check the actor's potential...😉😉

let the actor give the screen test... hear his experience... relate to your experience... tell them your story...

and then direct to nullify mistakes...😉😉

the sharing ensures a bond of friendship...

next time the actor will approach you for work...😛

assist in the same way you did before...

bring out the daggers when needed, but dont overshadow the friendship...😉

parenthood isn't a test as such... its a teamwork... the only thing is you need to build the team...

cz even the improvisations made by the actor improves the final product u c...😃

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maya_sm

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Posted: 9 years ago

#27

I only didnt like this fact that Inspite Of Maharshi Valmiki taking oath in front of the Whole Ram Darbar and tells Ramji that Luv Kush are born from Sita's womb only and Luv Kush are your very own sons.

Even then Ramji tells Maharshi Valmiki to tell Sita to do Agniparaiksha inspite of knowing that Sita is pure. Inspite of Maharshi Valmiki telling Sita is pure and chaste.

That time wouldnt Sita must have felt that she didnt understand her Raghunandan?

Edited by mmurdeshwar - 9 years ago