Harki's devotion - Page 3

Originally posted by: kase

In South India many of us still wear mangalsutra in yellow thread and not gold chain. Sindoor in maang is also common. Black beads are coomon in Karnataka and Andhra

It seems there are many south Indian BV fans here , esp telugu fans. 😊

As far as I know south indians dont wear white during death rituals. Widows are not compelled to follow dress codes nowadays. One of my elderly relatives tonsured her head and wore red color sarees after widowhood. Except her, I did not see anyone following those things. Many of them stopped wearing Mangalsutra, color bangles and bindi. Nowadays even these things are not avoided. Blackbeads threaded through gold is fashionable with even diamond pendants. It is not exhibited but covered inside. Sindoor is not practised. I have many artifical sets so that I will not be at the mercy of the snatchers. They are cheap and also look pretty. Why women are deprived of the freedom to choose? They should be given freedom as to what they want. Fortunately nowadays, no one questions and no one castigates atleast in big cities. Even some unmarried girls wear mangal sutra and toerings for a change and to ithwart men from pursuing them!

Originally posted by: Stalwart.

First of all what is the need of these changing attires? Why over decorate when husband is alive and discard everything when he is gone?

I think a lady should primarly dress for herself, keeping in mind the appropriateness of her attire to the given ocassion/ situation.

Originally posted by: Stalwart.

@SPuja, in South India also there is no white wearing custom for mourning. In serials they show like it is common practice in entire North India.

In traditional south indian marriages there is no maang sindhoor but these days some are following this ritual perhaps they adapted it from TV serials. Elderly ladies from south indian families don't apply sindhoor on forehead because this was complete absent in those days. South Indians have mangalsutra which is worn inside their dress/saree. From outside we can only see the gold chain. But since few decades black bead mangalsutra came into existence earlier there is no black bead mangalsutra for south indians. Yes, silver toe rings are compulsorily worn and flowers especially white jasmine & orange-hued kanakambara are tied in a strand and women wear in their hair. Traditionally both gold & glass bangles were used but nowadays women prefer only 1 or 2 pairs of gold bangles.

@Missesha, once I read somewhere superstitious beliefs are entirely different from traditional beliefs. Traditional ones originated from knowledge and do good for people. But superstitions originate out of ignorance and cause harm to the society. Knowingly or unknowingly people follow both types. Like Balvivaah, Sati, Female infanticide which are of second type, ill treatment of widows was present since long time in India. Therefore such harsh customs were made out of ignorance and I feel people who are wise and civilized will never go after them. Their heart will never accept such stupid things.