Harki's devotion

The sincerity with which Harki wanted to observe widow's rituals almost made me believe in them. When a woman is truly devoted to her man, the rituals dont seem to be a burden but a tribute to the departed soul. Even if he is a villain to the core.
Kamli should have kept quiet instead of telling again and again what a wicked person Akheraj used to be.

Compare it to the way how hurriedly dadisa wanted to make Gehna wear colored saree without knowing what Gehna wanted to wear.

Our rituals maybe archaic but there are still some who dont mind them but respect them.

We must be tolerant enough to respect their views also.

We can change people who are ready to change. But not someone like Harki. It will take lots of time and patience.

This Kundan is respecting his mother unlike that other Kundan. Hope he continues to do so.

Kamli's helplessness and the silent support of Pushkar to her and the smiling akheraj's picture made me emotional. Akheraj does not deserve all this. But the CVs are making him larger than life.

Didn't watch the episode so can't comment or relate but I liked your views on rituals.

Harki is following those traditions because of two reasons.One is her belief in those traditional practices.She genuinely believes that her adhering to these restrictions imposed on widows will be beneficial to her husband's soul. Two she genuinely loves her husband and wants to do it for her husband and not for the society.

Kamili should buzz off for sometime and give some space to Harki.Let her mother grieve for her husband in peace.She should understand. She herself is reeling under the loss of her father even though she thoroughly disapproved of his actions how much more her mother's grief would be specially she was with him at every step.

As far as I know - only Sugna expressed her views - main Pratap ka dukh manana chahti hu. Otherwise - Anandi never said that she wants or does not want to wear those clothes - in fact her get-up changed many times without her expressing views about her clothes - from very simple post Shiv's death to designer sarees she never told why she changed (except when Nimboli asked her to wear that orange dress - she expressed her reservations). Gahna also expressed her reservations only when DS told her - it was not shown that she wanted coulorful dress but was holding back due to society. Mangala - in that first episode - it was not clear if she wanted to save Nimboli or herself wanted to play coulours - but she did help some woman in that episode. Only once - during Kamli's mehndi- she was seen rejoicing with mehnadi on hands.

One should not force the way Sugna was roughly handled by dadisa during Pratap's death. It was violent.
Young girls like Sugna and Asha need gentle guidance.

I wished Anandi and Gehna should have worn white for a few days until those 13 days are over and then changed to sober colors and then as they wished. People can look beautiful even in whites and blacks. Just the way they wont wear white or black for weddings though some maybe fond of those stark colors.

Anandi once very clearly told DB that she won't wear white and since then she chose to wear simple light coloured ghaghras and it was quite a tone down from her heavy decked up dressing earlier.

Originally posted by: Missesha

Anandi once very clearly told DB that she won't wear white and since then she chose to wear simple light coloured ghaghras and it was quite a tone down from her heavy decked up dressing earlier.

Her attire post leap was horrible. She neither came across as a proper widow nor as a well groomed principal or even as a wife of IAS.

Her sarees are much better. Don't know what prompted her to change her entire look. But she looks elegant enough now to reflect a principal as well as a widow who believes in simplicity but doesn't believe in following strict rituals.

Anandi's principles are similar to Meenu's (when she believed to be a widow) but her dressing style is similar to Ira's

The words were told by Ira to DB but Anandi had already chosen her attire and neck piece, with the same thought process.

Anandi did not say anything - Ira and later daddu told DB that Anandi will not wear those whites and something like a sheed never dies.