C-night - Written in destiny?!!!!

While everyone seems pleased with Milsi yesterday, I was a little disappointed with him. Particularly his telling Prachi that the c-night was wirtten in their destiny, neither she or her could have changed that. I felt that this statement sort of underminned their love for each other.

We make our own destinies. We decide what we want to do with our lives. Situations present themselves. Some are good and some are bad. But unless we take that opportunity (if they are good) or fight (if they are bad) , life will not change for the better. Yes, Ayesha created the situation that night. But it is the decision of these two individuals to go ahead with their relationship once they realised what they mean to each other.

Therefore, I feel Milind should have said that they took that step towards each other because that was the right thing to do. They loved each other and the act was an expression of that love. He should not have ascribed everything to destiny and say that both of them were helpless. It makes it sound that what they shared was an ONS rather than a culmination of their love. It definitely belittles the moment. If that situation had come up again would they have acted differently? They acted in full conciousness, not in some blind impulse over which they did not have control. Why should either of them feel they have done wrong (as Prachi said) or that they could not have done anything else because it was written in their destiny (as Milsi said). Both the statements ring hollow and surely belittles the power of their love.

Guys, the two are married and physical union is an important and integral part of any marriage. If anything Milsi's marriage may be written in destiny (though here too both of them took the conscious decision to marry each other for their own personal reasons). What followed was a natural (maybe delayed) consequence of that. So if at all he wanted to bring in destiny into the picture he should have said that their marriage was their destiny (not 'that' night) and they only concretised that with all their love that night, knowingly and willingly. There is nothing helpless about it. So much of reference to 'that' night, one would seriously think that it was one of those forbidden nights!   ;

Originally posted by: optimist

Agree with you Yasmin, Milsi may have wanted to reassure her that they were meant to be together, but the choice of words I felt was bad. This man's intentions are good. There can be no doubt about his feelings for his wife. But I do not agree with his words. What I did'nt like was his saying that neither she nor he could do anything about it. Rather than saying that it was an affirmative action on their part, he is saying it is destiny that intervened. Dont blame Milsi, but the writer here. So far, all the dialogues involving these two in the couple of weeks have been bang on. But this one, I cannot not take. Anyway that is only my point of view.

I understand :) maybe Misli or should I say the dialogue writers could have written alternative choice of words...I guess they could have cut the 'neither I nor you could do anything' part out...but the destiny part 'it was written in our destiny' 'Wo Rath humhare kismat mein tha' <<<quoted the dialogue from Ryka sis's analysis which Misli said first seems okiesh, fine to me.

Originally posted by: Ryka

Destiny surely has a HUGE role to play in Michi's life... it was what that got them together in the 1st place with the 1st so called valid reason the couple could find. And that reason was Milind's urge to claim revenge against all and sundry...else Michi are chalk and cheese they would have never come together... it wasnt will of eachother that brought them together...but Destiny ... and the couple couldnt have asked for another holistic reason to find the love of their lives... So destiny will always be reason the two came together.

Now coming to Milind's statement... he wasnt belittling anything. That night wasnt just about their 1st pyshical intimate together. It was a night that changed their lives forever. They confessed their love to eachother, they admitted that they live and die for eachother. It wiped out all the distances that was between them, it wiped out any space for the world to step in and have a say. That night was a defining moment in their lives, their relationship. It would always remians special in comparision to the all the nights and days that they spend together... they are getting those nights and days because of that of that night...it was their 1st step towards a complete relationship, towards a new life. You can see the markable change of that night on both of them, on their personalities. Suddenly the khadoos is all at peace and smiling through and through. A shy Prachi opens up to her husband and share her feelings with him.

What Milind meant to say was they were ALWAYS destined to be together. And that night was destined by nature to get together and shed all their inhabitations. The couple have always loved eachother but never could tell that to eachother, it was a complete turn of events and unprepared encounters that gave the couple that night. That night was blessed for them... that is what Milind implied. And no one could have changed that, not him, not her or for that matter any one else.

When Milind talks of destiny, one thing is sure.. he is not taking about the chance that he gets alone...he talks about the chance, his contribution to it and the result of the entire scenario as destiny. Milind is a guy who believes in making his Destiny. For him Destiny doesnt merely mean a chance. So in that sense, he has answered the complaint u have towards the word destiny.... That word means a lot different to him, than it means to us😃. The guy is too self respecting even to give Destiny a say on his wish😆

Agreed Ryka. But I did not like him using the word nothing he or she could do about it. That conveys a sense of helplessness. If he had stopped at the word destiny got them together it was fine. Why add that bit? If at all he needed to elaborate, he should have then gone on to say that they both willingly accept it because they chose to be with each other. And as far as that night goes, all Ayesha knows is that they have had a physical relationship. She does not know what preceded it, their declaration of their feelings or the complete surrender to it. Her action (attempted suicide) was triggered by that rather than their emotional confrontation(which she is unaware of). Prachi also knows that that was what triggered it. So when she was mentioning that night she was referring to that particular incident rather than the stream of incidents that preceded it. Milsi's reply then should be construed as a reply to that. Then what is so helpless about it? She says she has taken Ayesha's haq over Milind and he says that the night was meant to happen because it is written in their destiny. Hey man, ask her what haq is she taliking about? If anyone has a 'haq' over him it is she. She is his wife - not just in paper - in the legal sense- but in all the senses- physical, emotional,mental etc. Dont blame Milsi here, but the script writer-wrong choice of words- will stick by that.

Interesting replies Ryka sis and Opimisist. But I don't understand Prachi, before when Miland and Prachi had not confessed their feelings for another, Prachi in her own thoughts used to say i dont have haq on the Miland or along the lines of that, I remember an scene where Prachi said to Ayesha that 'there is nothing in our relationsip that you can break'. and now when Miland has clearly said to Prachi that I am in love with you, you reside in my heart. Prachi is harping on about Ayesha's haq, Ayesha ka supposed haq on Miland...I think Miland needs to blast Prachi and tell her like what haq are you talking about,when there is no relationship btw Miland and Ayesha, how can for god's sake Ayesha have any right on Miland. Prachi needs to put her brains back in place, its really frustrating to read the things she said after Ayesha's suicide attempt :(

Originally posted by: $weet Ema

Interesting replies Ryka sis and Opimisist. But I don't understand Prachi, before when Miland and Prachi had not confessed their feelings for another, Prachi in her own thoughts used to say i dont have haq on the Miland or along the lines of that, I remember an scene where Prachi said to Ayesha that 'there is nothing in our relationsip that you can break'. and now when Miland has clearly said to Prachi that I am in love with you, you reside in my heart. Prachi is harping on about Ayesha's haq, Ayesha ka supposed haq on Miland...I think Miland needs to blast Prachi and tell her like what haq are you talking about,when there is no relationship btw Miland and Ayesha, how can for god's sake Ayesha have any right on Miland. Prachi needs to put her brains back in place, its really frustrating to read the things she said after Ayesha's suicide attempt :(

I agree. Didn't Prachi got proof when the nurse asked Mili his relationship with A, he wasn't able to answer that. If he felt that A has any haq over him, he could have said something like She is a friend or whatever. I think it proves that Ayesha is nowhere in his life. Well I know, Prachi is not supposed to unless Kreatives allow her😕

Originally posted by: $weet Ema

Prachi is harping on about Ayesha's haq, Ayesha ka supposed haq on Miland...I think Miland needs to blast Prachi and tell her like what haq are you talking about,when there is no relationship btw Miland and Ayesha, how can for god's sake Ayesha have any right on Miland. Prachi needs to put her brains back in place, its really frustrating to read the things she said after Ayesha's suicide attempt :(

My thoughts exactly, Yasmin. What haq is she talking about. Ayesha never had a haq on Milind after he married Prachi (declaration of love or not). She made that choice, not Milind. Now she better learn to live with it. People cannot keep paying for the mistakes of others. Come to think of it, Prachi too needs some mental check up.

Originally posted by: petem

I agree. Didn't Prachi got proof when the nurse asked Mili his relationship with A, he wasn't able to answer that. If he felt that A has any haq over him, he could have said something like She is a friend or whatever. I think it proves that Ayesha is nowhere in his life. Well I know, Prachi is not supposed to unless Kreatives allow her😕

I know why am I venting out my frustration on Prachi.....its the destructives/Kreatives doing😕 oh well, I am proud that Misli made his stand clear.👏 lets hope he can stay consistant...thats if the Kreatives allow him.

@Opti: More than a mental check-up, I think Miland needs to blast her for harping on about Ayesha's haq...Prachi really does need a reality check. =She has full haq on Milsi and Ayesha has none at all.

Opti darling lovely post dear......

Hum..so you hated the dialogue sproted by Milli baby...😆 where as ..the majority hated the dialogues sprouted by Prachi darling...😆

It looks like I was the only one...who loved the whole episode...with the dailogues and all...😆

Now on't call me crazy...though my friends do think I am..😆

I think ...the dialogues were just fine by all of them....given the situation they found themselves in....Prachi was hysterical..and blaming herself for Ayesha's state....and not being able to fulfil her fathers promise...

Milli too was...worried...and anxious...as he had a hysterical wife on his hands....and on the other hand had an old flame...friend....who he still cares for...that committed sucide..because of him...

Thus...the dialogues...were in context to...the turmoil they both were going through...

Thus...the dialogue writer could have done a better job...😉😛😆