Originally posted by: Nisha0604
Oh! No Asma
I am very sorry
I didnt mean to offend you at all or him
I just meant to say, you were so innocent and young how did you have such maturity to take his words in the right way
Thats amazing๐
Originally posted by: Nisha0604
Oh! No Asma
I am very sorry
I didnt mean to offend you at all or him
I just meant to say, you were so innocent and young how did you have such maturity to take his words in the right way
Thats amazing๐
Originally posted by: blue5sky
I don't know if my mentor is turning in his abode ๐.
Well I'm not sure what it sounded like to you guys...i only took as him trying to tell me to stay balanced and away from over estimating myself. In the place we worked motivation, personal strength and bonding was the norm.I agree with you too emotions and passion are what helps create and stay together.Work can and usually does consume you. And that 's what makes us what we are!๐
Originally posted by: moonwearer
Asma definitely your mentor had his reasons for saying that. I dont know whether what i wrote sounded audacious...the ideas we exchange many times help clarify perspectives...the reason i ordered the book is to see what i need to understand about my belief.
Originally posted by: SparkleV
Hey,
A Person standing outside our house, somehow getting uncomfortable or awkward, having numerous pre conceived notions about us, asking for entry. What we'll do? kick him from our door?This is what i felt in this thread.I knw i knw no one cares about what i felt and it should be like that only.its just i couldnt take it, since morning its troubling me therefore letting it out.You may think am making a mountain out of a molehill...You can and you must.May be I'll get few not so pleasant answers or replies just like the new one got...but i'll be alright since you all are like a family! a virtual one!So what i am saying, even i had received 3 PMs regarding MISUNDERSTANDINGS while judging the author.Well who needs to be judged!Sosy and Nisha both are blessed.. her Writings show what kind of a person she is ๐ and this is coming out of a proud member and reader.but cant we tackle/reply/answer in a better way possible..believing the person is genuinely confused about us.her' next posts clearly depicted she doesnt meant to hurt anyone or insult anyone.It means we are not letting new people in?i felt so. Am here since 9th thread, now i find atmosphere quite different, pls dont suggest to leave, i cant๐ณSoSy is the most most most beautiful tale ever! I can and i will say that in my 70s too๐ and So is Nisha!I just couldnt take that sarcastic replies and teaming up against one new entry!but yes, anyone doesnt owes me any kind of explanation, its me who is at fault, you can blame this on my age, immaturity? or am naive? anything.but whole this matter was itching me since morning.I would be okay if i could share this and get myself taught by any fellow member, even messaged ashu but she is busynevermind, maine bol diya hai, you can throw ande tamatar decorated with lovely words. ๐never meant to hurt anyone, i actually cant think to do so, believe or not :)
Originally posted by: Arya1991
Hey SparkleV,I'm going to be very honest here. I'm sure I'll have a lot of people upset with me due to the same, but we all get over it eventually.this reason took hours of my day whether to write or not.I agree whole-heartedly with you.thankyou very much. seriously. thanks!The thing is... This is a free-for-all forum. Everyone can come in here, read and comment on these threads. There might be days that these people love us. And, there might be days that they absolutely hate us.Everyone here is free to state their opinion (the newbie who criticised Nisha, and all those who bashed her in defense of Nisha).What I'm saying now, is purely my earlier experiences, my personal opinion, and how I chose to deal with it.I was an active member of the Software Symphonies gang, right from Thread 1.Somethings similar have happened a few times earlier as well. When someone expressed displeasure with anything here, they'd be bashed, irrespective of what they were talking of. Sometimes it was because of misunderstandings, sometimes due to not having views similar to most of us here. Whatever the cause, most of these people never come back here (actively. They might become silent readers.).Just because they express a bias against us...Does it mean that we treat these people with the same bias that they treat us?exactly, being rude to rude (whom we felt that such person was rude while conveying) is not the only solution.I wouldn't. Because it makes us just as biased as them.Wouldn't it be better for everyone involved to just agree to disagree and move on?I mean... All of us argue with friends and family - on all sorts of things. Sometimes we find a way to compromise, sometimes that doesn't work. Does that mean that we won't hear the person out? Or that we won't agree with anything else that person says either? Or that we exchange harsh words that probably alienate them forever?agreeing again.Words have a lot of power. They can make and break people.They break the most, since everyone cant take rudeness to sleep. I cantAll I'm saying is...Maybe we need to consider our words (its implications and possible consequences) before putting them across to others. If we claim to be "tolerant", we need to hear them out, irrespective of how much we disagree with them. Maybe even ignore that particular point of contention for the time being, and prove them wrong over time with our actions.Thankyou for the much needed reply!I appreciate your honesty ๐ it was a puddle not everyone would love to step in.Am Vibhuti :)Politeness is all am asking for, but it doesnt mean anyone will come up and blabber any damn thing about the author or members, No one can mess with our author neither anyone can bring up any kind of deficiency in the tale!i have sent my apologies to 'her' since it was required by me to calm myself.thanks again๐ณam actually feeling 'good'!
Originally posted by: dristi64
VIBHU, ARYA
Nobody is keeping anyone out. But we don't really seek entry to a place by initially criticizing someone, do we? I genuinely believe that the new person was confused and didn't know how to put across her words. She acknowledged my post where I had written so and then shared posts with some of the others, too. I thought we were all good from thereon. Didn't know this was brewing๐Also, we know how some people on the forum can get too carried away. Can't really blame ppl for being defensive either. With time, we do get attached to some things and ppl more. Maybe that is the case with Nisha and the story. This is no longer like any other thread. The same ppl would get defensive about you girls, too if the situation arose. So as valid as your ideas of tolerance are, so is their defense. We should definitely be kinder in our words though. I hope we all can learn BALANCE some day. That is the trickiest word ever.๐ณ
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