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Originally posted by: DMGFan-2b-not2b
I know if I don't like something, ideally I should refrain from commenting and walk away from it but the woman in me refuses to do so even if this is just a story on a forum.
I couldn't read beyond a point.I am appalled that Khushi is portrayed as a woman who takes all kind of abuse - emotional, verbal and physical - and still worships the ground that her husband walks on.Arnav is an a****e and she is desperate to have him love her. And yes, leaving her alone in the house, telling the maid not to come while he is away is also physical abuse, it is not just beating up a woman. The man is responsible for the woman becoming all stick and bones and all we want to say is "awww" when he finally decides to stop being an a****e.And Khushi's dad is APPALLING! Which father stands by and watches his daughter slowly fading away but is happy that she is with the man she loves and pathetically watches hoping that the jerky son-in-law will one day start loving his daughter.It is stories like this which explain why women continue to be ill treated in our society because somewhere there is someone who believes it is quite all right to put up with crap from the man because he is your husband and because you love him and go running the day he wags his little finger at you throwing a few crumbs your way?And everyone praises a story that glorifies a woman who accepts and puts up with abuse and still hankers for love from the very man who metes it out. There is a clinical term for this - the Stockholm Syndrome - a psychological phenomenon in which hostages express empathy and sympathy and have positive feelings toward their captors, sometimes to the point of defending and identifying with the captors. It is not love, it is a kind of illness.I am sorry for being so vocal on a thread that is a simple story but there are young, untutored minds who read the stuff that is written here, admire it and believe that it is ok to be so.You have to work with women who have been emotionally abused to know what this does to their self esteem, their persona, their self belief and the havoc it wreaks on their emotional and mental well being and then perhaps you will understand why I am so upset after reading this piece.
Hey dear...
First of all, I am glad that you took out time and give this story a read and gave a comment.
Coming to your point, I agree. I also don't promotes women to be ill treated.
But i guess, I missed to analyse few pointers.
1st: Just like every other story it wasn't that Arnav and Khushi were in love with eachother. Arnav loved Ruchi and Khushi loved Arnav(silently).
2nd: It's a common reaction that when we love one person, we respects his/her judgement and believe them. Arnav was never interested in to know Khushi as a person. All he ever knew about her was through Ruchi, whom, again I must mention, he loved.
3rd: Though ultimately, I showed that Arnav get to know the truth but till a point, he was unaware. He was trapped in a scene that he thought was created by Khushi. Now how does he should behave when he already had an ill image in his mind of her and above that it turns out to be that she was ploting against him.
4th: We do live in a combine society where everyone is ready to poke there nose in other matters. Ruchi needed to get rid of Arnav while still keeping a hand on him cause he was the only puppet who was dancing on her tunes and she had to somehow disgrace Khushi who she thinks was always the reason of her mother's less affection. So she leaked the news which spread like fire.
5th: No father likes to hear about the disgrace of his daughter. Even though he knew it was a false accusation that was put on Khushi but the words were out and you can't shut ppls mouth by any explanation. So he choosed the road that would shut ppl mouth ultimately.
6th: Arnav in all this was also wronged. His only family, his mausa mausi withdrew themselves from him calling him a threat for their daughters. His job was at stake. He was made defenseless and that angered him. Do you think it would have been better if he would have just went ahead to commit suicide and end this tale?
7th: Arnav was angry...ok. But making the maid not turn up for a week in his absence, I am sorry to say is not an abuse at all. Agree that she was from a well off family and was used of having maids but I think girls are always prep enough to handle themselves individually too. Its not like Arnav has trapped her in a room or has banned food on her. Or cut off the electricity. Maid he had hired solely for himself.
8th: It's also not like after realizing his mistakes, he was all ok, sorry and took her to bed. He tried to made up for his acts. He apologized, he rectified.
I don't think that every man should be held up at the tip of women empowerment sword. He was wronged. He was wrong. He admitted it manly and tried to rectify in each way possible.
Even if after all of this explanation, you are not convinced, i have nothing else to say beside that every coin has two sides. You are looking at ur side. I am looking at mine.
I have been with women who were abused but believe me, this was not an inch of what they go through. And just cause we want fictions to be a happy thought, I will not stop writing on the sensitive subjects like this.
If 100 people agrees with me, I guess, it is right.
Have a happy day ahead dear.
Take care :)
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