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Revelio

@Revelio

Dazzler

+ 4

Posted: 10 years ago

"If you have two friends in your lifetime, you're lucky.

If you have one good friend, you're more than lucky." - S. E. Hinton

Friendship is a bond created without the involvement of vows and the presence of choices. A hand to hold you up when you are about to meet the ground is enough for a forever relationship. When you are young, you don't pay much heed to the physicality of your friend. For a kid, friendship is based on just tiny, trivial things. From timidly sharing a chocolate bar to offering your pencil to the cry baby. The gender of him or her would've been the last thing that mattered to you. All you expect out of your friend, as a child, is just simply to be your friend and not pick a fight with you. Having the favorite cartoon character mattered the most between friends and god forbid if you forget to invite them to your birthday party! The calamity that used to fall on you.

As time goes on, you grow older, you start looking at things more in depth than superficially. Gender differences emerge. Opinions change. You begin to like hanging around people who think mostly alike. For the most of us, the majority of our friends are of the same sex. They're the friends we could talk to just about anything, without having to switch on our censoring systems. Girls, usually love talking gossip and just generally, having real girl talk whereas guys on the other hand can go on for hours about their favorite sports personalities, their work out routine and of course, Call of Duty.

So where do we stand with that friend of the opposite gender? Most of us, have a close friend of the other sex, whose company we really appreciate. That friend is usually a friend who sticks by your side, when you're going through a low phase of your life. Both guys and girls have contrasting ways of expressing their concerns. A girl would probably sit you down and make you talk about your feelings whereas a guy would elbow you and crack the first jokes (which are most likely to be the lamest too) which come to his mind, being a known fact that being expressive, isn't really a guy's forte.

At the end of the day,

all that really matters is that you're there for

each other in some way or the other.

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18shabbo.LionHeart. | xbeyondwordsxharith25 | ..Ramya.. | Abhinaya08 Angel.Jot

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Edited by ..Ramya.. - 10 years ago

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Iridescence

@Iridescence1

Alumni

+ 3

Posted: 10 years ago

The well established fact rests that friendship doesn't discriminate based on gender. It doesn't matter whether you're male or female. It's all about the beautiful meaningful relationship that blossoms through a deep, honest-to-goodness connection felt by all involved.

Though gender stereotypes have a way of butting in, creating a psychological warfare in this innocent bond. Have you ever taken notice of or been extremely aware of the gender of your friend in specific situations simply because of the way they behave/react or because of what they say?

There are differences. Differences between guy-only friendships, girl-only friendships, and guy-girl friendships.

So let's have a little fun and look at a few situationsthat show some ways things differ:

If you're a guy and your friend is

A girl: A suit! That's a must. You need to act like a CEO (center of every orbit, the girls I mean)

A guy: Dude you over do it and the girl invites you to her wedding before you say 'waiter'.

If you're a girl and your friend is

A girl: You need to act cool. But don't forget the jimmy choos...and oh! the miu miu...and a bit of chanel..also...

A guy: I don't know!!!!! I have never seen what pink color looks like!

If you're a guy and your friend is

A girl: Did you ignore her? You ignored her!!!!

A guy: Good that you'll answer your phone NOW.

If you're a girl and your friend is

A girl: Told you he's gay.

A guy: He might be broke for all you know!

If you're a guy and your friend is

A girl: I'll bring the confetti.

A guy: I'll come.

If you're a girl and your friend is

A girl: Did you buy the napkins?

A guy: Make me eat, I know you can manage the rest.

If you're a guy and your friend is

A girl: Wait, this needs some serious thinking *frowns*

A guy: Bro, you mad ? Why ask if you already know where the nearest bar is ? *smirks*

If you're a girl and your friend is

A girl: Have you tried this new trendy place in town ? It has the coolest ambiance and in one of the poshest areas. You will love it.

A guy: I don't know. Anywhere ? *bewildered*

If you're a guy and your friend is

A girl: That witch is not worthy of you. You are such a sweetheart and one day you will meet the girl of your dreams.

A guy: Lets just keep a 10 second silence for your impending happiness.

If you're a girl and your friend is

A girl: He didn't deserve you. He always had the homicidal vibes. Good riddance.

A guy: So do you want him slaughtered, slaughtered or slaughtered.

If you're a guy and your friend is

A girl: *Taps the shoulder* Hello alien.

A guy: *Jumps in front* Hey, wassup?

If you're a girl and your friend is

A girl: Hi girl! I missed you today, it already feels like its been ages since we spoke last. You're fine ? All good ? How's everything going ?

A guy: *Shouts* hey misery!!! Roaming around?!!Aloneee...?

Edited by .LionHeart. - 10 years ago

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Zoah

@xbeyondwordsx

Alumni

+ 5

Posted: 10 years ago

Dear, Agony CC.

This issue of mine has been giving me life threatening pain and I'm here with folded hands to seek help from you oh! glory! Have you heard of

"Ek ladka aur ladki kabhi dost nahin ho sakte?"

Of course, you have. This OTT cheesy one-liner has like a chewing gum to the hair.

Anyways, let's not get distracted. My issue is that

"kya ladka aur ladki kabhi sirf dost ban sakte hai?"

I have this really amazing, gorgeous guy-friend and we're both SO comfortable with each other (not like um, THAT, stop your dirty mind right there) but so many people just assume the relationship to be romantic (like you just did 😳 dare you deny it!)

So what is this huge misconception about mixed gender friendships? Agony CC, alleviate my suffering and I'll be devoted to you eternally.

Yours faithfully,

Ek Svacch Man Ki Anant Dhoop aka Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind

Dear, Ek Svaccha Man Ki Ananta Dhoop aka Eternal Sunshine of Spotless Mind.

You, my friend, are not alone in this misery. Many have wasted their lives and coffee in search of this answer. But of course, they weren't looking in the right place like you are😎. Agony CC has all the answers for I am God's own advocate. The cheesy one-liner you mention above is wrong on so many levels we can't even begin to comprehend.

a): This movie one-liner has nothing to do with reality (like all KJo movies)

b): This misconception is mainly in the minds of people that have no life outside powdering their nosy noses with other people's businesses(like I am very nosy me, personally. But not Nosy.

Do you know what I mean? Like nosy but not nosy Nosy).

I don't care who you're friends with and you shouldn't care who I'm friends with(but did you say gorgeous guy?!!). That's how it should be. But alas, we live in a "curiosity killed the cat" world and in this case, it killed the friendships.

What comes to most people's mind when they hear the word "friend"?

What is it like having an opposite gender friend?

What is the biggest misconception about mixed gender friendship?

Lo and behold! Agony CC has all the questions answered for you. Yes, I know I'm a star (thanks, by the way☺️) and yes, I can feel your eternal gratitude from..uhh.. the laptop screen ? So like I was saying, I went ahead and did a little research of my own (The perceptive me 😃)

The word friend is all noun and doesn't gives out any male or female vibes. But the general society has technology defining antennas which can catch the gender of your friend just by looking at you. Stereotypical sentiments say that girls have only female friends, whereas boys will have all male friends. No room for maybe, none, nope, nada.

But the first thing that should come to anyone's mind when they hear friend or best friend is not a girl or a boy. It's the person you confide in. It's that 2 am person that wakes all of your neighbors up with the constant horns because they want to go out at that time. It's a person, not a gender, that a matters. Having a person that's not going to butter up everything said to you is a great bonus in mixed friendships.

Guys are known for their straight-up attitude, without the unnecessary sugar-coat.

Girls are known for their depth emotions and keeping the positive attitude in the worst of situations.

Imagine bringing the two together in the form of pure, unconditional and crazy friendship! It does not have to be misinterpreted, unnecessary complications!

So to conclude, the so-called misconception is just that; a misconception! Yes, you will still find people that will misinterpret your intentions and talk about it.

But who cares? Aren't we beyond it?

I'll leave you to answer that!

Much love,

Agony CC 😎

Edited by xbeyondwordsx - 10 years ago

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Scarlet Wizard

@FromTheAshes

Stunner

+ 10

Posted: 10 years ago

One of the bestest thread I have seen this year.

The dyanamic of friendship explained so well.

Great Job CC Team!

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N i d h i.

@GuardianDevil

Trailblazer

+ 7

Posted: 10 years ago

I enjoyed whole thread. Specially the second post😆 I guess everyone can relate to it 😆

The gifs <3

Edited by psychobaiko. - 10 years ago

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Atharva Dev

@*Dev.*

Stunner

+ 5

Posted: 10 years ago

Really amazing work Ramya and Cc team!

Covered all the things about friendship and how people do and think when a girl is friend with a boy!

Anyway, regardless of what others think, we should be friends with whom we want to and like! After all people will say things/Kuch Toh Log Kehenge, but we should be 'what we are' while with friends.

Dev.

Edited by *Dev.* - 10 years ago

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Zoah

@xbeyondwordsx

Alumni

+ 5

Posted: 10 years ago

Once again, fabulous work, team! <3

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Titli

@afterlife.

Stunner

+ 5

Posted: 10 years ago

Good one... 👍🏼 loved the whole thread..but a special thumps up for the second post.. U showed the difference between male & female friends their reactions in situations..very nice ❤️

Tags and the dog-cat gifs *muaaahhh* 😛