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I'm surprised and confused with what I have been reading in this forum. Sandy became Sagarika, took off her mangalsutra, her sindoor, wooed and got engaged to another man - no one pointed a finger at her. I was fine with that because I thought - she is is doing this for the country and since Suraj doesn't know about it, it won't hurt him.
Then Sandy decided to fake her death and put the entire family, especially her beloved husband and beloved child through an enormous amount of trauma! I was NOT okay with that!! Yes, I know that she did it for the country. But then she should not have gotten married, should not have had kids, should have lived by herself and served her country without any dilemmas and restrictions. But Sandy did marry, she did give birth to a child who is still small. What about her vows and responsibilities for them?? Didn't she owe it to atleast her Suraj ji to tell him before going that she needed to fake her death for a secret mission and that they should patiently wait for her? YES, she owed that much to her husband.
I have thought about this again and again. I have put myself in Suraj's shoes. I have asked myself how I would feel if my husband faked his death for the country. And EVERY single time, my heart has told me that if I were Suraj, I would NEVER forgive my spouse for faking his death and making me and my kids go through the trauma. I would EXPECT him to warn me beforehand and tell me that it's fake and that I should wait for him and THEN I would support him and pray for his success. But if he did what Sandy did, I would tell him when he came back eventually - "I'm proud dear, that you are such a great patriot. I'm happy that you are alive but now you must leave and let me and my children live and you are free to spend your life in going after as many secret missions as your heart desires".
Did anyone give a thought to what the trauma has done to Suraj and Ved? Is that how a child is supposed to live? And this great Sandy who I have loved and supported 100% so far, has she spent even one day pining for her child??? I have seen Sandy imagine her Suraj ji everywhere but I have never seen her weep for her child! What kind of a mother is she??? Sandy has lost all my respect with this mission. I'm a mother and when I'm away from home, if I think of my husband 10 times, I think of my small children 10000 times! And I know all mothers in this forum are like that.
You all hate Lalima so much. WHY? If I were Bhabho, I too would want my son to get married to Lalima and live a happy life. Why do you all hate her so much? Because you think she is coming between husband and wife? But you are forgetting that the poor girl doesn't even know that Sandy is alive! She thinks Suraj's wife is dead. She likes him, maybe is infatuated with his love for his wife, sees how his own family treats him and hence wants to protect and love him. WHAT is so wrong with that??? Yes, I agree that going to his bedroom at night was a very big mistake and the CVs are probably doing it to create complications when Sandy returns. But keep that part aside and tell me, what is her fault? Infact, she is the one that looses the most in this tragedy. Suraj will choose Sandy, eventually, Bhabho too will forgive and accept Sandy. Has anyone thought what will happen to the poor orphan girl Lalima?
And I read some comments from members saying that so far, Suraj has been God so now they shouldn't ruin him. First, Suraj was never God. He has had his own set of flaws - letting his mother insult Sandhya in the early days, throwing Sandy out of the house after the plane hijack fiasco... During those times, I was a staunch supporter of Sandy and had lost respect for Suraj. But the current track has only made me lose respect for Sandy! How is Suraj to blame? Even if something happens between Lalima and him, I will not blame him and tarnish him.
Sorry about the long post. Have felt this for a long time and finally decided to vent. Please do share your thoughts. All responses are welcome, even the ones opposing mine. :)
Thanks for reading!
Then Sandy decided to fake her death and put the entire family, especially her beloved husband and beloved child through an enormous amount of trauma! I was NOT okay with that!! Yes, I know that she did it for the country. But then she should not have gotten married, should not have had kids, should have lived by herself and served her country without any dilemmas and restrictions. But Sandy did marry, she did give birth to a child who is still small. What about her vows and responsibilities for them?? Didn't she owe it to atleast her Suraj ji to tell him before going that she needed to fake her death for a secret mission and that they should patiently wait for her? YES, she owed that much to her husband.
I have thought about this again and again. I have put myself in Suraj's shoes. I have asked myself how I would feel if my husband faked his death for the country. And EVERY single time, my heart has told me that if I were Suraj, I would NEVER forgive my spouse for faking his death and making me and my kids go through the trauma. I would EXPECT him to warn me beforehand and tell me that it's fake and that I should wait for him and THEN I would support him and pray for his success. But if he did what Sandy did, I would tell him when he came back eventually - "I'm proud dear, that you are such a great patriot. I'm happy that you are alive but now you must leave and let me and my children live and you are free to spend your life in going after as many secret missions as your heart desires".
Did anyone give a thought to what the trauma has done to Suraj and Ved? Is that how a child is supposed to live? And this great Sandy who I have loved and supported 100% so far, has she spent even one day pining for her child??? I have seen Sandy imagine her Suraj ji everywhere but I have never seen her weep for her child! What kind of a mother is she??? Sandy has lost all my respect with this mission. I'm a mother and when I'm away from home, if I think of my husband 10 times, I think of my small children 10000 times! And I know all mothers in this forum are like that.
You all hate Lalima so much. WHY? If I were Bhabho, I too would want my son to get married to Lalima and live a happy life. Why do you all hate her so much? Because you think she is coming between husband and wife? But you are forgetting that the poor girl doesn't even know that Sandy is alive! She thinks Suraj's wife is dead. She likes him, maybe is infatuated with his love for his wife, sees how his own family treats him and hence wants to protect and love him. WHAT is so wrong with that??? Yes, I agree that going to his bedroom at night was a very big mistake and the CVs are probably doing it to create complications when Sandy returns. But keep that part aside and tell me, what is her fault? Infact, she is the one that looses the most in this tragedy. Suraj will choose Sandy, eventually, Bhabho too will forgive and accept Sandy. Has anyone thought what will happen to the poor orphan girl Lalima?
And I read some comments from members saying that so far, Suraj has been God so now they shouldn't ruin him. First, Suraj was never God. He has had his own set of flaws - letting his mother insult Sandhya in the early days, throwing Sandy out of the house after the plane hijack fiasco... During those times, I was a staunch supporter of Sandy and had lost respect for Suraj. But the current track has only made me lose respect for Sandy! How is Suraj to blame? Even if something happens between Lalima and him, I will not blame him and tarnish him.
Sorry about the long post. Have felt this for a long time and finally decided to vent. Please do share your thoughts. All responses are welcome, even the ones opposing mine. :)
Thanks for reading!
Ye Hai Mohabbatein
