Just my point of view and open for discussion.
SECURED and INSECURED similtaneously different LEVEL OF INTENSITIES at different stages.
ANANYA -
When Ananya felt in love with Kabir , she had that intensity and passion, she couldnt bear his rude behaviour towards her and wanted to clear out things with him.
It had hurt her then that Kabir could understand peoples love but not hers, she was feeling helpless and was not able to make him understand, express her love in words to him for him to reciprocate or feel. She didnt get a chance too as either he will not speak to her, taunt her or they ended up fighting, but basic trust, longing and reacting on other persons pov or saying remains intact. She made a peace that she will leave and keep loving Kabir Sharma "dur se hi sahi"
Ananya was insecure that time seeing Kabir flirt with Malvika, Bhavna shroff and for that matter seeing him with Tarini, though when Tarinis news appeared she was the only one who asked him to say in his defense. But her love is too strong to lose faith in him, She just kept her self away, kept sulking and we could witness her helplessness, intensity, faith, hope, fighting spirit, her ways of dealing with it.
Ananya after confession is secured one, her intensity is now transferred to her tantrums, jealousy when Malvika tried to feed Kabir, behaving herself as if she has got everything in life, overwhelming experience, getting her idol, mentor, whom she wanted to approach since years, is her life partner now, she is secured that he is hers only, She knows there is someone to pamper her, love her, care for her, she can fight with, throw tantrums, flirt with him, do nataks and be a drama queen at the same time be with him forever.
She never had doubt about his love but at her age and being in first love she demanded everything from him, his time, his commitment, his appreciation, his support, his love and desire to listen to it also very often.
Ananya not listening to Kabirs past, wanted to live in present and enjoy it to the fullest only because she is SECURED of Kabir's love, even after shreyas entry she has been his support system and been strong for him though inside she might be scared to face his past, she is converting that fear into her demands and seeking attention from Kabir but she is never insecured.
Ananya now will start feeling INSECURE after handkerchief fiasco, Shreya visiting Anus house, creating doubts but she will not falter her faith but will definitely be inseure thus to fight with them she will show her intensity and tackle with shreya with her full power and strength and we will witness the required support and earlier intensity what she had.
Ananya now will have to face his past, know his friends, his relatives, get close to his life and understand his point of view, his feelings, his insecurities, in short come to know the real Kabir.
KABIR -
Kabir, A man with his past, an unsuccessful relationship and highly reputed in a positive as well as negative ways in his professional world. He was attracted towards her since first as I feel, Never he's been able to take off his eyes from her since day 1, he always had his ups and downs dealing with her, he always wanted to prove him right but kept losing himself to her views in process and to her, saw a glimpse of himself in her, missed true happiness, innocence and happiness, life full of joy with people around, every such thing is converted now in ruthlessness, shrewedness, cunning and smartness in a corporate world.
What happens when he fell in love, he fought with his feelings and then made peace with them, he didnt understand that Ananya loves him, he only understood when Trisha told him and then he didnt wait for anything or any moment to conquer his love.
He with all his intensity and passion proposed her, he said " Tumhe paane ke liye Ananya, main apna sab kuch kho sakta hun, apna ahem, apna ahankar, apna swarth" and till date he is doing the same.
He himself said to Richa , in this relation he is the one who is weak, he is the one who is INSECURE and hence want to win Ananya, her friends, relatives and protect her thus kept asking chance to everyone, to Ananya he said bas ek mauka dedo, to Anita he asked her not to waver her faith in him so easily, to Richa he asked to be an oxygen supply and give a chance to their relation, He considers himself responsible for all Ananyas happiness and sadness, he gives his ego to and feel no shame to say sorry to her first whether its his mistake or no, he gives in to all her demands and tantrums only because he doesn't want to loose her, he will go to any lengths to make her happy and keep her happy.
His small world of new found love and happiness shattered when shreya made a comeback, he felt the impact she will have on him, his present and future with Ananya, but whrn ananya supported him and asked him to look through things professionally made him a bit secured and had courage to face his past for his future.
His intensity increases and junnon he has for Ananya was clearly visible with his convo with Malvika, now he has that power and capacity to fight for his own life, his love and make her his publicly and as well as infront of his past.
He had dreams which were his and not shreyas and were shatterd by her into pieces, he is hurt to this extent that he cannot stand her, now its too important for him to keep Ananya more close to him. He will fight with everyone and anyone with different ways ( may be to tackle pyarse ya waar se) to not let her go.
Finally I m hoping soon they both will reach to such a stage where their INTENSITIES will be same to match each others passion and wavelength will also be same in fighting it out.
Like Purnima, All the best to Kaya to reach at this point soon.
They both will be SECURED and there will be no place for insecurity and will sail through all storms togehter and come out with flying colours but ofcourse with the support of Ronnie, Richa, Sunny, Anita, Tarini, Laxman, Anurag,Tinu entire gang which Kabir has made his own.
I didnt include baby because i m still not sure of her... may be with sunny she is on Kayas side.
Sorry guys this is tooo big but kya karen... weekend hai na :)