Originally posted by: leavesandwaves
I have observed you dont blame anandi for the sake of blaming. But here I want to point out the context where Pooja called anandi insensitive for hugging without enquiring, for doing charity on that girl etc. etc. which I thought was uncharitable. I viewed anandi there as a mother who will clutch to anything in the hope of finding a lost daughter and anandi was equally hurt as that little girl and blaming anandi squarely was uncharitable. The situation was very delicate one both for the little girl and anandi but it is not worse than what Nandini is going through.
So, this was all about me? Don't know how I should feel... Honoured that a whole thread for me, or feel like I should ask certificate from other members😕.
And what did I post? I am copy pasting everything I posted in that thread..
"The orphanage as well as Anandi's behaviour was very insensitive towards the child. This was similar to Amol's biological parents track. Without confirming the identity, the child should not be exposed to such trauma. Anandi behaved like a foolish lady. She did not even consider how her child will end up in an orphanage when she is already married. Perhaps child will not trust even if her real mother comes to meet her. At least Anandi should not have conveyed that this is not her daughter (even though it was not conveyed verbally) in front of the girl. And offer of spending the day with the girl was even more insensitive - do children in orphanage need such charity? Why do writers want to show such insensitive track just to show Anandi is still searching for her girl? Anandi was insensitive towards Nandini (all smiling instead of feeling for the balika vadhu) and insensitive towards the girl in orphanage. This track did not result in feeling for Anandi and her disappointment in not finding her daughter - it came out as a disappointment for the girl in orphanage. "
"No, I am not too harsh on Anandi. In the serial - everyone praises Anandi too much - creatives think their lead is an ideal woman. That is why it is necessary to point out that what they show is far from being ideal. Even in Amol's case - nobody (orphanage people, Shakhers (including Anandi) and biological parents) thought how this sudden event will affect the child (Amol). "
"I am not too harsh (in my own opinion 😆) on Anandi. I also wrote about orphanage incharge. But she is here for one episode - so there is no use expecting anything from her - Anandi is here to stay - so, they should include better judgement from her side. We do not even know why Anandi was convinced that it is her daughter - how did she expected to find her daughter in an orphanage when she knew Nandini is now Akhera's daughter-in-law? "
"Originally posted by leavesandwaves
If we go the CVs, way, the girl would have got a mother and a brother. She would not have lost anything. Anandi would have stopped searching for her daughter.
And after some time - the orphanage will inform that it was a mistake. The girl's real parents have come to claim her. The girl - who somehow accepted Anandi as mother will again be uprooted and sent to new people even against her will..."
"Who knows - she may feel betrayed by all - depending upon what they want to show. Creatives are not concerned with the emotions of children. Emotions of adults mean more to them. "
What I wanted to tell by all these that the track did not bring out disappointment of Anandi not finding her daughter and it was insensitive towards the girl in orphanage -as is clear in @bold. If this is judged as being too harsh on Anandi - what I can say? Like Rohini said in another thread -when I praise Anandi - it is OK but when I criticise her - it is going overboard?
If this forum has decided some rules regarding who can criticize a character and who cannot; or what can be construed as going overboard in criticism - I am not aware of that I also do not know whether there are different parameters for different members? Jagya fans can criticise Anandi as much as they want because Anandi fans criticise J and vice versa. But someone who is not a fan of anybody should not criticise and if he/she does so - he/she should be ready to be awarded with the nicknames and now a whole thread to point out this? Am I a second class citizen of this forum and there are some first class citizen who decide if I am within limit or not😕
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