What a mess! - Page 5

Originally posted by: libsrocks

Its unreasonable to say that Jagya will become more angry with Abhi if Anandi leaves BH...He is a mature adult and should understand that living together is not always the good solution but for some reason in BV

libs Jagya kept himself out of this matter when Anandi was brought in BH by Dadisaa He kept quiet on this issue whether she should stay in BH or not its none of his business to decide He even told Anandi discuss with Dadisaa about it i cannot say much in this Its between you and Dadisaa

Max he did was come to Ganga and ask her about her feelings she have any issues if Anandi decides to stay He told her i don't want you to be hurt in this anyway not even unknowingly , unintentionally if today Anandi decides to leave why will Jagya be having problems until or unless she does not make him guilty its because of his better relationship she is leaving That would be making him and Ganga guilty

According to me Center of problem here is Anandi's weakeness in dealing with shivam for his mistake and the over confident kid who thinks he is never wrong Jagya asks his son for his misbehavior Anandi ? what she does Did she even ask him why he left the school like that which was totally wrong He put his life in danger because of his own acts ?

Two kids in same house fight with each other one is asked to behave firmly by his father the other kid is asked to behave by his mother like this he says whatever ... i am the only good boy Now Jagya cannot correct shivam he has to deal with him in some limitations as he is not his son but Anandi's son Anandi does not deal with him correctly and this is affecting Abhi he thinks since no one says much to shivam therefore everyone favors him more than him

Regarding Jagya needs to realize his responsibilities towards his son and wife LOL and where he wronged both ? Never seen him preferring Anandi over Ganga anywhere therefore Ganga has no problem with Anandi at all

Regarding son where he has preferred shivam over Abhi ? He does not scold shivam because there is a reason behind it that Abhi don't understand and what Jagya is gonna explain to him ?He is nothing to me Poor fatherless kid staying in our house we have to be kind to him ? Who is Anandi actually and what relationship she and shivam have with BH ?Will Abhi understand this all complicated web of relationships now ?

if Jagya is not doing his responsibilities correctly then Mannu who is labelled as star is not Anandi the greats upbringing but his Both Abhi and Mannu share a good relationship when even siblings have rivalry with each other if parents fail to balance between kids but same these kids don't have

Don't know why Jagya is accused of failing to balance between shivam and Abhi because never for once seen him preferring shivam over Abhi Brought one thing for shivam forgot about Abhi or Mannu so ? Just because he does not scold shivam when he crosses the line People i guess want him to do that ? Abhi's problem will be solved if shivam great mother start controlling his behavior when she thinks he is at equal fault as of Abhi then why not control him ? Didn't see her doing that appropriately thats why he shows off i am everyone's favorite in this house and never at fault and this shivam's misunderstanding is affecting Abhi too as he has developed a misunderstanding All including his father are biased towards shivam and think he is only one at fault which he does not know is not true

Jagya thinks Anandi controls shivam but Anandi ji how she is controlling shivam is having no effect on shivam at all Even when he is fault he has guts to say i am always right its always Abhi's fault This only shows Anandi's poor way of dealing with him

How Jagya can be faulted he is too nice to shivam? Then what we expect him to do ignore Shivam a fatherless kid living in same house with him and sees him on daily basis loving his children Abhi and Mannu have their mother yet Anandi lovingly make tiffins for them not that Jagya or Ganga have asked her so Anandi will be faulted for this by same people she is being too nice to Abhi and Mannu?so how Jagya is declared at fault that why Jagya is too nice to shivam? He is nice to him does not mean he is preferring him over his children He is dealing with shivam in limitations when he commits mistake He did ask both shivam and abhi to behave when they were fighting in holi but if he does not scold Shivam and shivam ji is mistaking that and boasts off in front of Abhi he is everyone's favorite Then isn't it Anandi's problem to clear her son's misunderstanding its not such case ?

How Jagya can be blamed he is too strict on Abhi ? Where he is too strict on Abhi ?If child continues to misbehave and does not listen politely then it is the last way for parent to scold him so that he gets a lesson that if I will do this I will get scolding so to save myself from scolding I won't repeat this mistake and Jagya so far have only scolded Abhi when he does not listen politely and deserves scolding so why he is faulted he is too strict on Abhi when Abhi is only scolded by him when he crosses the line and deserves to be dealt firmly

And here the problem is Abhi commits mistakes gets ticked off by his father firmly Shivam does a mistake and still shows off I am extremely good boy never at fault I am everyone's favorite because others don't scold me and he does not bother much about mother who did try of make him see his mistake at sandwitches yet shivam did not see his mistake at all and proudly said I am never at fault? This must be going on since 11 years and when Anandi accepts Shivam is equal responsible for all fights with Abhi then Abhi is dealt by his parents but why shivam so called good boy The sharp intelligent kid The example of great upbringing still have this attitude I am never wrong Its always Abhis fault I am always good to him He is always rude to me which is not true ? Its not Jagya's fault if shivam's mother does not control and correct him in proper way If she starts doing this Abhi will get alright because he will get the point what he wants to prove that he is not only one at fault because shivam too is at fault

well i cant say anything about this shivam abhi matter because no proper base for there insecurity as cvs told us to assume that due to jagya more affection in 11 years to shivam , abhi is insecure ,

Perhaps for Shivam 's rude prank on Abhi today for no fault of Abhi He got scolding from teacher , mocked in class but blame for this goes to the one and only punch bag Jagya not Anandi and her great upbringing 😃The fault lies with Jagya because

Jagya is extra strict on Abhi

Jagya has made Abhi insecure

Jagya should tell Abhi why he lenient to shivam

Jagya and Ganga needs to realize the two way communication

Jagya and his bad upbringing

Anandi is absolutely justified

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

Shivam has no problem staying in BH with Abhi. Only Abhi has problem with Shivam. So for the sake of Abhi only, Anandi is expected to leave BH with her son Shivam.

Will this make Jagya more fond of Abhi? Definitely not. He will be more angry with Abhi and also with Ganga.

and why should Anandi leave BH because of Abhi's issues ? Why she does not move out of BH for the right thing JaGan and their kids need their own space not tied in a complicated web of relationships with her and her kid? Shivam needs his own space and take what rightfully belongs to him not stepping in Abhi's space and showing his right on what belongs to Abhi Why Anandi does not see Jagya is forced to foster her kid and that is affecting his child because Jagya is forced in a situation where he cannot ignore shivam ,a fatherless kid staying his house with him that would be rude of him if he does that and will make shivam feel his loss of father even more because he is seeing Jagya with his kids every day and he can also not scold shivam who is having tiff with his child misbehaves with his child yet Jagya is helpless here he cannot scold shivam because he has no right to do so if it would be his own son then this problem between Abhi and shivam would not be arising just like Mannu and Abhi have no problem with each other Both kids have a great relationship so who is becoming problematic here Anandi's kid
I wonder why Anandi did not think before with her stay in BH Jagya will be forced to foster her fatherless kid ? He can by no way ignore shivam that will make her and her son feel bad and unwanted people in the house She initially showed concern towards Ganga finally remembering she and Jagya were ex spouses once How will Ganga feel with her stay in BH but she never thought about kids She never thought in this direction with her stay in BH Jagya will be forced to foster her kid , she did not think Jagya's children will have to share their father's love with her kid , she did not think with her stay in BH she is handing over her fatherless kid's responsibility to Jagya and this i am not asking some far fetched things These are things which will come in every woman's mind in Anandi's place but only Anandi did not think about it Even sisters think twice staying in married brother's houses with their kids They don't want their to complicate things for their brothers and increase responsibilities on their heads of their children but here Anandi is perfectly fine with her ex husband whom she forced in such situation with her stay in BH that he has to foster her kid and she is seeing that yet perfectly fine with that ?She is such a great mother she does not even know her son sees Jagya more than kakusaa He clearly sees him as fatherly figure His each little gesture shows