In a moment...Just some questions - Page 3

Originally posted by: Wafah

1. Saagar decides to separate from Vidya on Sindoora's insistence that them being together will keep them both unhappy. Saagar also sees Vidya crying and hurt as much as himself. Do you think that Saagar's reason to separate is completely selfish?nope

Or does he really believe that since Vidya and him are two different people they will be happier apart?yeap

Does he do it for Vidya's happiness too, or does he care only for his freedom and happiness? Or does he have a different motive altogether? yeah...he doesn't want vidya to change bcoz of him...be some1 who she herself will find it hard to identify....asking vidya to change for him will be be selfish😳

2. In the night scene they show Saagar hesitantly comforting Vidya. What do you think Saagar feels at that moment?totally confused Do you think what happened between Saagar & Vidya was a moment of lust on Saagar's part? Or love on Saagar's part? Or possibly both?

it's both sagar has feelings for vidya he cares for her..but till now he doen't love her..so wht happened was lust + was trying to comfort her..in the process lost ctrl

3. The scene doesn't show Saagar kissing Vidya like we all wanted to happen. Does this mean that what between Saagar and Vidya was more an emotional connection rather than an act of love?well vidya was scared & he is fully open towards sagar as she loves him & considers him her husband....while for sagar vidya is a women he is still try to figure out..he cares for her....knows that she is a better person than he is..but finds it hard to accept the facts Or both? Does It imply different things to Vidya, and different to Saagar? Or Same to both? i wud say different..for vidya..it was way of accepting her as his wife...but for sagar it was deep feelings, lust & little bit of love 😳

4. When Saagar gets up he looks at Vidya and smiles, and is truly happy till the implication of what happened strikes him. He feels that what happened between them is a mistake, and blames himself continuously. Do you think blames himself for leading Vidya on, because he knows that she loves him? Or do you think he blames himself for not having any control over his emotions? Or both?i wud say both...partly wht happened the previous nite was bcoz of vidya willingness..otherwise sagar wudn't have lost ctrl...he knows that vidya considers him as her husband cares for him & loves..him. He blames himself for it as vidya did not seduce him in any manner...he lost his ctrl Or do you think Saagar is confused and doesn't now what to feel? he is in a dilemma...he has feelings..strng feelings for vidya.....but he knows the fact that for them to stay together will be very difficult.his heart is telling him not to leave vidya but mind says it the best for both.

5. Saagar tells Vidya that he isn't as good as her, that she has no faults in her, and that he could never be as good as her. The reason he wants to separate is because they are just do not have any compatibility. He feels that the person Vidya loved was a different person, whereas Vidya feels that even though he has changed in thoughts, and demeanor, he is the same person she fell in love with. Do you think Saagar's feelings are valid?to some extend yesh....but as vidya said no matter how made is one's memory...the person u r deep onside will never change

That trying to make a relationship work that is bound to fail is not fair to Vidya or Saagar? Or do you think Vidya's feelings are valid? Or are both right from their point of view? for vidya she loves sagar & he is adjusting herself to the new 1 as she loves him...one when in love will go to any extremes to make one's lover haapy & marriage / relationship a success. When in reality she is finding it hard to accept the new1....he habbits & likes/ dislikes in short he is a different person

6. Saagar tells Vidya it will be wrong for her to change because then she isn't being true to herself. Is it wrong for Vidya to want to change herself? yesh i do..y shud she change no sagar Becoming educated is different than giving up your tradition and values.yesh it is but values won't change if one is educated Is it really hard for two people with different set of values to form a relationship?yeap as at some point they have to compromise Or once you love someone you can compromise some of your values?u will but u have to get lines otherwise only one will end u cpmpromising thru out their relationship Do you think Saagar will meet Vidya halfway?i am hoping for it.

I know there are a lot of questions, and I hate to be a bother, but I hope you take the time to answer them…wow wafah i never used my head so much to answer any post as i did for this one...must say awesome topic😛

cheers

❤️Kai❤️

Thanks,

Wafah

Originally posted by: atohani99

It was just a moment, in which two broken people sought each other. Vidya, because she has been forgotten by the one person she loves. Saagar, because he's lost two years of his life, and tied in a marriage he doesn't find compatible.

Saagar's problem seems less dire and heartbreaking than Vidya's, I agree. Vidya has sacrificed two years of her life living with someone, who was claimed mad by the world.

I've read multiple posts, many of them angry at Saagar's behavior for having used Vidya, and calling what happened between them a mistake. I have a few thoughts regarding the matter but I'm going to ask you guys a few questions first.

I know this might seem a little redundant, but I'd love to see your responses, and hope you will take the time to respond (if it isn't a bother).

1. Saagar decides to separate from Vidya on Sindoora's insistence that them being together will keep them both unhappy. Saagar also sees Vidya crying and hurt as much as himself. Do you think that Saagar's reason to separate is completely selfish? Or does he really believe that since Vidya and him are two different people they will be happier apart? Does he do it for Vidya's happiness too, or does he care only for his freedom and happiness? Or does he have a different motive altogether? Umm u have actually made me think 😆😆. Umm I dunno what Sagaar is doing, I don't think he understands WHY Vidya is cryong all the time. And coz he hasn't bothered to take the time and find out y, I do believe he is being selfish. And I feel he is doing it jsut for himself, not once caring for Vidya.

2. In the night scene they show Saagar hesitantly comforting Vidya. What do you think Saagar feels at that moment? Do you think what happened between Saagar & Vidya was a moment of lust on Saagar's part? Or love on Saagar's part? Or possibly both? umm all I know is that Sagaar was in his senses when doing what he did, therefore I can't understand y he calls it a mistake. Umm well I think it was a slight bit of both. I do feel that Sagaar used her and took advantage of her.

3. The scene doesn't show Saagar kissing Vidya like we all wanted to happen. Does this mean that what between Saagar and Vidya was more an emotional connection rather than an act of love? Or both? Does It imply different things to Vidya, and different to Saagar? Or Same to both? Well I dunno if it was even an emotional connection, I think what happened was just physical, I don't think for one second Sagaar thought about Vidya. He should have known what this woukld have meant to her, and if he didn't feel the same way, she should never have done it. I think this night meant a lot more to Vidya than sagaar. It was almost like been there, done that, bought the T-shirt to Sagaar

4. When Saagar gets up he looks at Vidya and smiles, and is truly happy till the implication of what happened strikes him. He feels that what happened between them is a mistake, and blames himself continuously. Do you think blames himself for leading Vidya on, because he knows that she loves him? Or do you think he blames himself for not having any control over his emotions? Or both? Or do you think Saagar is confused and doesn't now what to feel? Quite frankly, I am ashamed Sagaar is a man, he has behaved like a jerk. I can't be,lieve he called it a mistake, there could have been other words he could have used, but to call it a mistake, broke Vidya's heart. I don't think he balmes himself, the only thing he cares about is that Vidya doesn't fit into his big lifestyle and therefore it doesn't matter if she is upset

5. Saagar tells Vidya that he isn't as good as her, that she has no faults in her, and that he could never be as good as her. The reason he wants to separate is because they are just do not have any compatibility. He feels that the person Vidya loved was a different person, whereas Vidya feels that even though he has changed in thoughts, and demeanor, he is the same person she fell in love with. Do you think Saagar's feelings are valid? That trying to make a relationship work that is bound to fail is not fair to Vidya or Saagar? Or do you think Vidya's feelings are valid? Or are both right from their point of view? Well u could say some of Sagaar's feelings are valid, BUT I don't think he cares for Vidya at all, the way he has treated has been disgusting. Well I donn;t think he even tried to make the realtionship work, he didn't stand up for her at that party, and now he called their first time a mistake

6. Saagar tells Vidya it will be wrong for her to change because then she isn't being true to herself. Is it wrong for Vidya to want to change herself? Becoming educated is different than giving up your tradition and values. Is it really hard for two people with different set of values to form a relationship? Or once you love someone you can compromise some of your values? Do you think Saagar will meet Vidya halfway? Well I agree, Vidya shouldn't have to change for Sagaar, he should b doing all the changing, coz quite frankly he isn't a nice person

I know there are a lot of questions, and I hate to be a bother, but I hope you take the time to answer them… Wafah, what a great post, u got me relaly thinking. U were not a bother, just hope u all like my opinions 😳

Thanks,

Wafah

Thanks for responding...Arun (right??) You make valid points...and I agree that Saagar could have handled what he did more appropriately...but I don't think he was being entirey selfish...

Originally posted by: Wafah

Thanks for responding...Arun (right??) You make valid points...and I agree that Saagar could have handled what he did more appropriately...but I don't think he was being entirey selfish...

Yeah LOL, my name is Arun 😆😆😆. Yeah I do wish he had handled it better, but I dunno his behaviour suggests he didn't hink aboutt he way Vidya would feel at all, so n my opinion, that is selfsh 😳😳😳

Originally posted by: atohani99

Yeah LOL, my name is Arun 😆😆😆. Yeah I do wish he had handled it better, but I dunno his behaviour suggests he didn't hink aboutt he way Vidya would feel at all, so n my opinion, that is selfsh 😳😳😳

I can understand...in some ways Saagar comes of as very caring and considerate...and in some there is mixed feelings...

Thanks for everyone for responding and sharing their lovely thoughts...I've read everyone's response...and will make time to respond...to every one...

Again thanks...

Wafah

Originally posted by: Wafah

It was just a moment, in which two broken people sought each other. Vidya, because she has been forgotten by the one person she loves. Saagar, because he's lost two years of his life, and tied in a marriage he doesn't find compatible.

Saagar's problem seems less dire and heartbreaking than Vidya's, I agree. Vidya has sacrificed two years of her life living with someone, who was claimed mad by the world.

I've read multiple posts, many of them angry at Saagar's behavior for having used Vidya, and calling what happened between them a mistake. I have a few thoughts regarding the matter but I'm going to ask you guys a few questions first.

I know this might seem a little redundant, but I'd love to see your responses, and hope you will take the time to respond (if it isn't a bother).

1. Saagar decides to separate from Vidya on Sindoora's insistence that them being together will keep them both unhappy. Saagar also sees Vidya crying and hurt as much as himself. Do you think that Saagar's reason to separate is completely selfish? No I don't think that his reason to separtate from her is selfish...but right after he found out that she was iliterate he gave up on trying too....Or does he really believe that since Vidya and him are two different people they will be happier apart? I think he does feel that way...but he should know by now that Vidya loves him so much and she won't be happy without him.Does he do it for Vidya's happiness too, or does he care only for his freedom and happiness? Before I think he wanted his freedom and happiness but now it seems he does care for her...Or does he have a different motive altogether?No I don't think its a diffrent motive....he's just confused about his feelings...

2. In the night scene they show Saagar hesitantly comforting Vidya. What do you think Saagar feels at that moment? He really felt that she's a really nice girl and he didn't want her to blame herself..Do you think what happened between Saagar & Vidya was a moment of lust on Saagar's part? I think he was just in the moment of it all and went for it...yeah you can call it lust but there were some feelings involved.. Or love on Saagar's part? He loves her..he just doesn't really know it yet.. Or possibly both? Yeah it was both he thinks it was lust and he doesn't know he loves her...

3. The scene doesn't show Saagar kissing Vidya like we all wanted to happen. Does this mean that what between Saagar and Vidya was more an emotional connection rather than an act of love? Or both? Does It imply different things to Vidya, and different to Saagar? Or Same to both? I'm def sure that more than just a kiss happend that night...since Vidya did say that he finally gave her the rights to be his wife...Well I do think it does imply diffrently to Vidya and Sagar he just doesn't realize that he loves....

4. When Saagar gets up he looks at Vidya and smiles, and is truly happy till the implication of what happened strikes him. He feels that what happened between them is a mistake, and blames himself continuously. Do you think blames himself for leading Vidya on, because he knows that she loves him? Or do you think he blames himself for not having any control over his emotions? Or both? Or do you think Saagar is confused and doesn't now what to feel? I really think he's confused on wha the feels for her...He's def attracted to her..but the constant thought about his status and her illitercy always comes to his mind..his "Ego" is comming in between constantly...

5. Saagar tells Vidya that he isn't as good as her, that she has no faults in her, and that he could never be as good as her. The reason he wants to separate is because they are just do not have any compatibility. He feels that the person Vidya loved was a different person, whereas Vidya feels that even though he has changed in thoughts, and demeanor, he is the same person she fell in love with. Do you think Saagar's feelings are valid? I think they are...but I do think he needs to give her a chance...It really looked like he made an effort before he found out that she was illiterate....after he found that out he just gave up...That trying to make a relationship work that is bound to fail is not fair to Vidya or Saagar? Or do you think Vidya's feelings are valid? Or are both right from their point of view? I think they are both right in their point of view...

6. Saagar tells Vidya it will be wrong for her to change because then she isn't being true to herself. Is it wrong for Vidya to want to change herself? Umm...I think the only thing she has to do is educate her self and thats it...I think if she tries to change her values its wrong...Becoming educated is different than giving up your tradition and values. Is it really hard for two people with different set of values to form a relationship? If the people can compramise it could work..but its iffy to start a realationship if they are two tottaly diffrent people who have nothing in common other wise its just a physical attraction and you can't build a relationship just on physical attractionOr once you love someone you can compromise some of your values? Do you think Saagar will meet Vidya halfway? I think they will..Sagar will slowly realize that he loves her..and will accept her for who she is...

I know there are a lot of questions, and I hate to be a bother, but I hope you take the time to answer them…I really did enjoy answering them..awsome post Wafah ji 👏

Thanks,

Wafah

Originally posted by: Wafah

It was just a moment, in which two broken people sought each other. Vidya, because she has been forgotten by the one person she loves. Saagar, because he's lost two years of his life, and tied in a marriage he doesn't find compatible.

Saagar's problem seems less dire and heartbreaking than Vidya's, I agree. Vidya has sacrificed two years of her life living with someone, who was claimed mad by the world.

I've read multiple posts, many of them angry at Saagar's behavior for having used Vidya, and calling what happened between them a mistake. I have a few thoughts regarding the matter but I'm going to ask you guys a few questions first.

I know this might seem a little redundant, but I'd love to see your responses, and hope you will take the time to respond (if it isn't a bother). No this isn't a bother at all! These questions really got my mind working. They're great.👏

1. Saagar decides to separate from Vidya on Sindoora's insistence that them being together will keep them both unhappy. Saagar also sees Vidya crying and hurt as much as himself. Do you think that Saagar's reason to separate is completely selfish? Or does he really believe that since Vidya and him are two different people they will be happier apart? Does he do it for Vidya's happiness too, or does he care only for his freedom and happiness? Or does he have a different motive altogether? Sagar did see her crying but he never really went and talked to her. I don't think his desicion was totally selfish, but he should've thought about Vidya's feelings too. He is her whole life. It's all that he's very confused and doesn't know what's the right thing to do. He doesn't even know all of the things Vidya has done for him in the past or what is was like back then.

2. In the night scene they show Saagar hesitantly comforting Vidya. What do you think Saagar feels at that moment? Do you think what happened between Saagar & Vidya was a moment of lust on Saagar's part? Or love on Saagar's part? Or possibly both? I think it was a lot of mixed feeling. He saw she is so hurt and wanted to comfort her. It looks like he also got attracted to her. I think he let his true feelings come out that night and got too into the moment. But then those thoughts in his head come out the next moment. I do think he loves and cares for her but is too confused but those feelings are there.

3. The scene doesn't show Saagar kissing Vidya like we all wanted to happen. Does this mean that what between Saagar and Vidya was more an emotional connection rather than an act of love? Or both? Does It imply different things to Vidya, and different to Saagar? Or Same to both? I think it was both. As we all said this was so important to Vidya. She waited and dreamed for this her whole marraige. She thought her husband has finally accepted her, and made her his "dulhann". To Sagar he let it out as a "mistake" that had happened. I'm sure when his true feelings come out it will also mean a lot more to him also.

4. When Saagar gets up he looks at Vidya and smiles, and is truly happy till the implication of what happened strikes him. He feels that what happened between them is a mistake, and blames himself continuously. Do you think blames himself for leading Vidya on, because he knows that she loves him? Or do you think he blames himself for not having any control over his emotions? Or both? Or do you think Saagar is confused and doesn't now what to feel?

I think he is very very confused right now and doesn't know how to think or feel. I think he wanted that to happen that night though. He probably blames himself because he thinks Vidya is not the one for him and he made such a big step in their relationship when he was trying to leave her.

5. Saagar tells Vidya that he isn't as good as her, that she has no faults in her, and that he could never be as good as her. The reason he wants to separate is because they are just do not have any compatibility. He feels that the person Vidya loved was a different person, whereas Vidya feels that even though he has changed in thoughts, and demeanor, he is the same person she fell in love with. Do you think Saagar's feelings are valid? That trying to make a relationship work that is bound to fail is not fair to Vidya or Saagar? Or do you think Vidya's feelings are valid? Or are both right from their point of view?

I think Sagar should've given it more time. The person Vidya loved was not different. As we've been saying his thoughts, actions, and behavior has changed but deep down he is the same, he has the same heart. I think I have to agree with Vidya more than Sagar. He should've given more time to their relationship too. A lot of it also has to do with his ego (as rushvi di mentioned) and how he looks with Vidya as his wife.

6. Saagar tells Vidya it will be wrong for her to change because then she isn't being true to herself. Is it wrong for Vidya to want to change herself? Becoming educated is different than giving up your tradition and values. Is it really hard for two people with different set of values to form a relationship? Or once you love someone you can compromise some of your values? Do you think Saagar will meet Vidya halfway?

I really do think it's wrong for her to change herself. She's perfect the way she is and already did so much for him. It is hard for two very different people to form such a relationship but at least try to make it work and give it time. Once you fully know and understand that person both people can make compromises to make each other happy. One person can't do everything. That's also very true, learning has nothing to do with changing yourself. You're adding to yourself and helping to make life easier.

I know there are a lot of questions, and I hate to be a bother, but I hope you take the time to answer them…

Thanks for the lovely questions! They really got me to thinking and weren't a bother at all. Sorry for the delay in answering I wanted to do so when I could give my full time to it to answer properly.😳

Thanks,

Wafah

Originally posted by: Wafah

hey, first off I'd just like to say its rlly kool of u to faciliate discussions like this, they rlly get one pondering and thinking more deeply abt the storyline 😊

It was just a moment, in which two broken people sought each other. Vidya, because she has been forgotten by the one person she loves. Saagar, because he's lost two years of his life, and tied in a marriage he doesn't find compatible.

Saagar's problem seems less dire and heartbreaking than Vidya's, I agree. Vidya has sacrificed two years of her life living with someone, who was claimed mad by the world.

I've read multiple posts, many of them angry at Saagar's behavior for having used Vidya, and calling what happened between them a mistake. I have a few thoughts regarding the matter but I'm going to ask you guys a few questions first.

I know this might seem a little redundant, but I'd love to see your responses, and hope you will take the time to respond (if it isn't a bother).

1. Saagar decides to separate from Vidya on Sindoora's insistence that them being together will keep them both unhappy. Saagar also sees Vidya crying and hurt as much as himself. Do you think that Saagar's reason to separate is completely selfish? Or does he really believe that since Vidya and him are two different people they will be happier apart? Does he do it for Vidya's happiness too, or does he care only for his freedom and happiness? Or does he have a different motive altogether?

Ya, at this point it really seems to me that Sagar is being selfish and only thinking of himself and his happiness, which is understandable, as Vidya rlly doesnt match up to his 'ideal' wifey. He wanted a wife who was educated, independant, intelligent, and i suppose modern as well. He doesn't realize that all of that can really be learnt, but good values and morals and all that which Vidya has cannot be taught, and so is not valuing Vidya as much as she deserves to be - grls like Vidya are mad rare! He already knows thats shes rlly gd/nyce, and says she shouldnt change herself, then wut gives?? y dont u just accept her!?😕

2. In the night scene they show Saagar hesitantly comforting Vidya. What do you think Saagar feels at that moment? Do you think what happened between Saagar & Vidya was a moment of lust on Saagar's part? Or love on Saagar's part? Or possibly both?

Okay, well it just may be me hoping this is so, and therefore believing it as being the truth, but I really think that unconsciously, Sagar has feelings for Vidya, and at that moment, he rlly felt her pain, and couldn't hold bk, he had to console her and show sum affection. However, i think it wasnt a moment of lust, i dont think they would have 'done it', but he did open his heart up to her for that moment, which made her believe he accepted her finally as his wife. So, i thnk it was proof that sagar is starting to fall for her, and hes just denying it, hence the reason he smiled when he woke up n then quickly changed his expression when it hit him.

3. The scene doesn't show Saagar kissing Vidya like we all wanted to happen. Does this mean that what between Saagar and Vidya was more an emotional connection rather than an act of love? Or both? Does It imply different things to Vidya, and different to Saagar? Or Same to both?

Ya they were physically close, but they didnt do anything extreme, like i dont think Vidya would have gotten pregant, but they definitely had an emotional connection, it was real, none of them were drunk, and veen in the morning he smiled at her, so it wasnt like he was 'caught up in the moment' , the moment allowed him to reveal his inner feelings, which were still there in the morning b4 he decided to shield them again! It implied to Vidya that Sagar finally accepted her and felt for her, and Sagar rlly had felt for her then and i think he does, but hasnt rlly accepted her as of yet.

4. When Saagar gets up he looks at Vidya and smiles, and is truly happy till the implication of what happened strikes him. He feels that what happened between them is a mistake, and blames himself continuously. Do you think blames himself for leading Vidya on, because he knows that she loves him? Or do you think he blames himself for not having any control over his emotions? Or both? Or do you think Saagar is confused and doesn't now what to feel?

I think he unconsciously blames himself for not having any control over his motions, since afterall, their not compatable n shes a village grl whos uneducated, but what he thnks is that he had a weak moment where he felt sort of sorry for her and so consoled her, and in doing so, led her on, so he feels guilty that hes gona have to tell her to leave - thats y he leaves her with the option of staying.

5. Saagar tells Vidya that he isn't as good as her, that she has no faults in her, and that he could never be as good as her. The reason he wants to separate is because they are just do not have any compatibility. He feels that the person Vidya loved was a different person, whereas Vidya feels that even though he has changed in thoughts, and demeanor, he is the same person she fell in love with. Do you think Saagar's feelings are valid? That trying to make a relationship work that is bound to fail is not fair to Vidya or Saagar? Or do you think Vidya's feelings are valid? Or are both right from their point of view?

I guess there both right from there own perspectives, but u kinda take Vidya's side, proly cuz shes the main protagonist, but ya, i think sagar still has feelings for her deep down, cuz even tho hes a diff person on the outside, the hearts still the same.

6. Saagar tells Vidya it will be wrong for her to change because then she isn't being true to herself. Is it wrong for Vidya to want to change herself? Becoming educated is different than giving up your tradition and values. Is it really hard for two people with different set of values to form a relationship? Or once you love someone you can compromise some of your values? Do you think Saagar will meet Vidya halfway?

Ya its soo wrong for Vidya to change herself, like i wouldnt even offer to, like its a matter of self respect, and she shouldnt havr to, shes a gd person, and sagar knows it too, im having trouble believing y exactlyy Sagar doesnt like her?? ya its hard tho for two ppl with diff values to form a relationship, but Vidya could have a positive influence on him, i think shes already had a positive influence on Sagar's family. Vudya leaving will have more of a negative n depressing affect on sagar and his family instead of positive i think.

I know there are a lot of questions, and I hate to be a bother, but I hope you take the time to answer them…

Thanks,

Wafah

Originally posted by: armulover

Ok so wafah...luvv ur post...u knw some of these questions had crossed my mind....and i wanted to post a topic also..but didnt knw where to start..but u made it sooo much easier.... ok so now ill answer these frm my POV...and once again...thanx soo much for starting this amazing topic...ohh and...im sry if my answers are a lil biased towards saagar..par kya karu....i thought ki there are soo many ppl supporting vidya ill support saagar.....😳😳...ok ok i knw lame excuse...but u knw wht i mean na...😳 alrighty thn...here it goesss...That's okay you can take anyone's side...
It was just a moment, in which two broken people sought each other. Vidya, because she has been forgotten by the one person she loves. Saagar, because hes lost two years of his life, and tied in a marriage he doesnt find compatible.

Saagars problem seems less dire and heartbreaking than Vidyas, I agree. Vidya has sacrificed two years of her life living with someone, who was claimed mad by the world.

Ive read multiple posts, many of them angry at Saagars behavior for having used Vidya, and calling what happened between them a mistake. I have a few thoughts regarding the matter but Im going to ask you guys a few questions first.

I know this might seem a little redundant, but I'd love to see your responses, and hope you will take the time to respond (if it isnt a bother). its never a bother when it comes to BMTD....u knw tht...😛

1. Saagar decides to separate from Vidya on Sindooras insistence that them being together will keep them both unhappy. Saagar also sees Vidya crying and hurt as much as himself. Do you think that Saagars reason to separate is completely selfish? i dont think he's being selfish in any way....he wants both their happiness...he's seen vidya cry all the time..and he knws tht he's the reasonfor her tears somewhere....so he thinks she's not happy with the "new" saagar...cause the one she knew and loved was different... Or does he really believe that since Vidya and him are two different people they will be happier apart?yes he believes tht him and vidya come frm two different backgrounds...and tht neither one should change the other for anything.....he doesnt want vidya to change her ways for his happiness.... Does he do it for Vidyas happiness too, or does he care only for his freedom and happiness? if he was tht much selfish...thn he wouldve left vidya in tht house after the big night...he wouldve told her everything tht very day....but remained silent....and the only reason he said something cause vidya questioned him...thnx to sindoora...😡 Or does he have a different motive altogether? nope..no other motives...

2. In the night scene they show Saagar hesitantly comforting Vidya. What do you think Saagar feels at that moment? luv...thts wht he felt at tht moment....tht luv which is deep down and hasnt surfaced yet...shows in his unintentional actions at times...😊Do you think what happened between Saagar & Vidya was a moment of lust on Saagars part? Or love on Saagars part? Or possibly both? definetly not lustt...can never be...it was definetly luv....and this will be seen in the story line very soon...

3. The scene doesnt show Saagar kissing Vidya like we all wanted to happen. Does this mean that what between Saagar and Vidya was more an emotional connection rather than an act of love? Or both? It was emotional as well as luv...whr there is luv...emotions are involved...and tht moment was very emotional and both their luv was overflowing in different ways....guilt for saagar..for hurting her soo much and guilt for vidya....for stealin his smile... Does It imply different things to Vidya, and different to Saagar? Or Same to both? it implies the same thing for both....but they are both interpreting it in diff ways...the only reason saagar says its a mistake bcs he doesnt want vidya to think he luvs her...cause thn he cant seperate frm her...and again...somehwere in his heart he still thinks....she'll be happier without him...I like your interpretation in this matter...that in some way he's guilty because he feels that they will be better off without each other.

4. When Saagar gets up he looks at Vidya and smiles, and is truly happy till the implication of what happened strikes him. He feels that what happened between them is a mistake, and blames himself continuously. Do you think blames himself for leading Vidya on, because he knows that she loves him? he luvs her....but he feels guilty for the fact tht he lead her on...whn he knws tht their relationship might not even work out....he knws she'll adjust but doesnt knw if he can be as nice as her and do the same.. Or do you think he blames himself for not having any control over his emotions? Or both? Or do you think Saagar is confused and doesnt now what to feel? exactly...he's a lil confused at the moment....cause he luvs her..but doesnt understand it yet....so time will fix all....Yes I believe as time goes on Saagar will realize and understand his feelings for Vidya...and will realize his love...

5. Saagar tells Vidya that he isnt as good as her, that she has no faults in her, and that he could never be as good as her. The reason he wants to separate is because they are just do not have any compatibility. He feels that the person Vidya loved was a different person, whereas Vidya feels that even though he has changed in thoughts, and demeanor, he is the same person she fell in love with. Do you think Saagars feelings are valid? 100% valid...he was a diff person whn he was ill...and he knws tht vidya knew tht old saagar...and not his real self...That trying to make a relationship work that is bound to fail is not fair to Vidya or Saagar? Or do you think Vidyas feelings are valid? Or are both right from their point of view? ok both are right frm their POV....im not sayin vidya is wrong either....but saagar is def not wrong as well....he's just tryin to be fair to both....cause again he thinks tht vidya can be happier without him....thn change herself for him...

6. Saagar tells Vidya it will be wrong for her to change because then she isnt being true to herself. Is it wrong for Vidya to want to change herself? no...not wrong...she luvs him....so anything is fair in luv and war...Becoming educated is different than giving up your tradition and values. Is it really hard for two people with different set of values to form a relationship? yes it is very very difficult...both need to be extremely strong and understanding...one person changin will not make things work..it has to be both.... Or once you love someone you can compromise some of your values? Do you think Saagar will meet Vidya halfway? he will..and he has tried....but every time he tries we have sindoora ruining everythingg....😡...so as soon she's gone....everything will be ok...😊

I know there are a lot of questions, and I hate to be a bother, but I hope you take the time to answer themwafah...its not a bother at all hun...i actually got to put all my feelings fowwards as an answer to ur questions.....its better thn making 10 diff posts and confusing everyone....

Thanks,

Wafah

okkk...so donee...pls tell me wht u think...😊

Shaili

Thanks for sharing your point of view...It is interesting to read different point of views....and I like some of the points you've made...

Originally posted by: ammmu

1. Saagar decides to separate from Vidya on Sindoora's insistence that them being together will keep them both unhappy. Saagar also sees Vidya crying and hurt as much as himself. Do you think that Saagar's reason to separate is completely selfish? Or does he really believe that since Vidya and him are two different people they will be happier apart? Does he do it for Vidya's happiness too, or does he care only for his freedom and happiness? Or does he have a different motive altogether? I dont think his intentions are selfish at all.... see, i'm sure, if what had happened to Sagar had happened to anyone, they would feel strange and upset that they're married to someone whom they don't know. I think right now, he's still upset and shocked that he's married to someone completely different from him, and fact that she loves him so much... i'm not sure how much he's thinking of V's happiness, but i think more than anything, he wants to be alone.. and let this all sink in his mind...

He's been forced into the situation either by Sindoora or by circumstances and family...I think Vidya understands it...but the family doesn't...even thier first night together....He said that he would give the marriage a chance and they thought that everything was great...

2. In the night scene they show Saagar hesitantly comforting Vidya. What do you think Saagar feels at that moment? Do you think what happened between Saagar & Vidya was a moment of lust on Saagar's part? Or love on Saagar's part? Or possibly both? I think whatever happens to Sagar when he's with Vidya is not coincidence, he himself knows what he feels when he's with her... whether it's love, or not.😳 I think he wants to try to accept her (?), but something different happens? Whatever happened between them, i definitely don't think it was a mistake... I think (God, i've been saying these two words a lot) that Sagar meant to comfort Vidya and hold her, but maybe was overcome by himself? Ermmm, not sure how to put this into words here... whether it was love, we shall see...

3. The scene doesn't show Saagar kissing Vidya like we all wanted to happen. Does this mean that what between Saagar and Vidya was more an emotional connection rather than an act of love? Or both? Does It imply different things to Vidya, and different to Saagar? Or Same to both? Actually, I'm glad, i thought the scene was just as beautiful, if he ever does hug/kiss her, i want it to be when he completely accepts her and they both know their love for each other... it was very emotional, it was loving, and i think Vidya took it as a sign of acceptance and that Sagar does love her, but Sagar, hmm, i think he felt very bad for Vidya and wanted to comfort her, and couldn't help but feel an attraction....

That's what I was thinking that since it wasn't an act of passion but more to comfort Vidya...and then his emotions took over...that when it will be passionate...with love involved....

4. When Saagar gets up he looks at Vidya and smiles, and is truly happy till the implication of what happened strikes him. He feels that what happened between them is a mistake, and blames himself continuously. Do you think blames himself for leading Vidya on, because he knows that she loves him? Or do you think he blames himself for not having any control over his emotions? Or both? Or do you think Saagar is confused and doesn't know what to feel? I think it's all three...😛 It was his choice, but then again he felt bad thinking he led Vidya on, and he's confused... him smiling definitely shows that he knows it wasn't a mistake... but to make an excuse, he's blaming himself. I think he still doesn't or can't believe that someone can love him so much, someone whom he doesn't know well at all...

5. Saagar tells Vidya that he isn't as good as her, that she has no faults in her, and that he could never be as good as her. The reason he wants to separate is because they are just do not have any compatibility. He feels that the person Vidya loved was a different person, whereas Vidya feels that even though he has changed in thoughts, and demeanor, he is the same person she fell in love with. Do you think Saagar's feelings are valid? That trying to make a relationship work that is bound to fail is not fair to Vidya or Saagar? Or do you think Vidya's feelings are valid? Or are both right from their point of view? Both are right - right now, Sagar doesn't think Vidya is compatible for him - one, because she appeared all of a sudden and he was forced to accept her; two, because he really doesn't know her and found out so many things suddenly (her being his wife, illiteracy). Vidya is right, too - just because he's recovered, doesn't change the fact that he's her husband and she will not love him any less... both are right from their point of views, but it's hard to convince each other what they feel...

They're both correct in their points of view...I agree...

6. Saagar tells Vidya it will be wrong for her to change because then she isn't being true to herself. Is it wrong for Vidya to want to change herself? Becoming educated is different than giving up your tradition and values. Is it really hard for two people with different set of values to form a relationship? Or once you love someone you can compromise some of your values? Do you think Saagar will meet Vidya halfway? Vidya isn't changing herself, like you said, being educated is much more different than changing who you are; learning something new isn't changing you as a person. Even when Sagar was a child, he knew about Vidya but thought of it differently because he treated Vidya like his best friend - it's not like he accepted her immediately, either. Both did not change themselves when they were together; it can happen now, too...

Forgive me if I didn't make any sense at all😳😆 tried my best, these are great questions Wafah ji... thank you for posting them👏

Made complete sense...more than I usually make myself...:)

Thanks for Sharing Ammu...enjoyed reading your thoughts...