Why the jealousy? - Page 3

I don't have time for individual replies unfortunately but thank you to each and every one who replied, it's much appreciated.

Just one thing though, if people are having issues with Ishita giving priority to Ruhi only because others in the forum have an issue with Raman giving priority to Adi then you're not really having a fair perspective. Judge the show for what it is not for what 'Raman/Ishita haters' say.

Adi should be Raman's first priority, why not? So should Ruhi but I think the difference is that Raman has given in to unfair demands from Adi, where as Ishita doesn't bend the rules so Ruhi can get her way. I'm not blaming Raman here because he just wants to be with his son so he will do anything for that time with him. I feel for Adi too because he's been manipulated his entire life but Raman himself doesn't know how to deal with the problem. Raman isn't sure of his own parenting so how can anyone here blindly justify all his actions?

But you also can't deny or fight that there will be more highlight on Ishita and Ruhi's bond than Adi and Raman. The show began with their relationship, everything else came later. If it suddenly came out of the blue I would understand the annoyance from people but it hasn't.

@Reemz

Is it good parenting to force daughter to call another person dad who she does not like at all ?

sending daughter to her biological mother who din leave any stone unturned to hurt own daughter is good parenting ?

to joke about leaving own kid is characteristic of good parent ?
to let daughter to do tantrums and insult biological mother is good parenting ?
to read "love letters" in front of 6 year old kid is good parenting ?

Lohri kand was scolded by ruhi with respect to right or wrong !! what about her own step to force raman to celebrate new year being parent and giving false hopes that led adi to more plans ?? did she realize why all things went wrong ?

Defo raman is failed to give good parenting but he knows he is going wrong and he wanted to rectify his mistakes as parent and he has corrected himself a lot of times , he accepts he is still fighting with fear of losing his son.

but other side some one does not even realize that where she is going wrong !! instead write herself is busy to glorify her as best mother .

but as a viewer I do not buy this forced glorification because ruhi is conveniently absent when her ishima does kands .

she was absent when her ishima was joking to leave her ,
She was absent when her Ishima was putting her father down in front of her best friend

she was absent when her ishima was inviting her best friend public party . (because I recall ruhi din like ashok and shagun romance too )
she was absent when her Ishima was giving her place to shagun and earrings that raman had gifted her taking vows saying "sirf earrings"
and ruhi always is present to give reality check when raman does wrong.

I do not justify ishita for above reasons as good parent .

this is strictly my pov

@TM: I respect your POV. But I think IshRu bond was a good product that is now worn out due to the effect of overselling.

Originally posted by: Amii90

I must be dreaming!

Originally posted by: Colt.Pixy

@Reemz

Is it good parenting to force daughter to call another person dad who she does not like at all ?

sending daughter to her biological mother who din leave any stone unturned to hurt own daughter is good parenting ?

to joke about leaving own kid is characteristic of good parent ?
to let daughter to do tantrums and insult biological mother is good parenting ?
to read "love letters" in front of 6 year old kid is good parenting ?

Lohri kand was scolded by ruhi with respect to right or wrong !! what about her own step to force raman to celebrate new year being parent and giving false hopes that led adi to more plans ?? did she realize why all things went wrong ?

Defo raman is failed to give good parenting but he knows he is going wrong and he wanted to rectify his mistakes as parent and he has corrected himself a lot of times , he accepts he is still fighting with fear of losing his son.

but other side some one does not even realize that where she is going wrong !! instead write herself is busy to glorify her as best mother .

but as a viewer I do not buy this forced glorification because ruhi is conveniently absent when her ishima does kands .

she was absent when her ishima was joking to leave her ,
She was absent when her Ishima was putting her father down in front of her best friend

she was absent when her ishima was inviting her best friend public party . (because I recall ruhi din like ashok and shagun romance too )
she was absent when her Ishima was giving her place to shagun and earrings that raman had gifted her taking vows saying "sirf earrings"
and ruhi always is present to give reality check when raman does wrong.

I do not justify ishita for above reasons as good parent .

this is strictly my pov

Is it bad parenting if Ishita doesn't want Ruhi to have bad feelings towards her real mother and then potential step-father? She doesn't her child to resent others especially her biological mother.

You said the key word! Ishita was JOKING about leaving Raman and Ruhi. Would she even dream of if? Hell no. Even my mum has jokingly said I should leave you guys and settle down in India. You have to look at the context before jumping on the character.

All those situations where you said Ruhi was missing when Ishita arguably acted like a sacrificial lamb. ..how does that make Ishita a 'bad' parent? Do we as the audience always agree with Ishita? No. What she did at the New Years party was stupid IMO but like you said Ruhi wasn't there. So what's the point of discussing it? She was nowhere in the scene so there's no point to these IFs and BUTs, nor does it answer my topic. WHY the jealousy? why the comparison between a mother and wife's love? Don't resent Ruhi-Ishita because you want that possessiveness for Raman-Ishita. They're very different types of love!

Originally posted by: AroraTanya

@TM: I respect your POV. But I think IshRu bond was a good product that is now worn out due to the effect of overselling.

They weren't shown for a good few months. I think ruhi only came back 3-4 weeks ago! Hardly overselling especially when it was the first 'pair' of the show to be established.

Originally posted by: Eyes-Wide-Shut

That's what I said Ami! Beeji is here, I am so happy.😃

HAHAHA! I LOWE you guys!!!! 🤗

YHM is about mother and daughter bonding.Ppl love to watch them.Viewers should have known this before watching the drama rather than nagging now.Ishita and ruhi are soulmates.This is best love story in desi tv.I hope ekta doesn't churn her usual evil plot here.