Vulnerability of a marriage.
"The difference between a mountain and a molehill is your perspective." - Al Neuharth
Today's episode proved YHM is a show par excellence, the writing, direction, screenplay, acting, camera work and even the lighting department did a splendid job. I do not know who writes this show but whoever you are please take a bow. What a realistic episode.
Realism of characters, of marriage, of love and of agony. I have said it before and I will say it again, there we are lucky to have Karan and Divyanka portray our beloved characters Raman and Ishita.
If love was a bed of roses and marriage a walk in the park then we wouldn't have broken hearts and divorces. Marriage is understanding, hard work, trust, faith, communication and most important vulnerability. And somewhere hidden between all these things is LOVE. Ishra have found love, now it's time to work on the other aspects of their marriage.
Raman and Ishita looking at each other with moist eyes full of love, hope, and an urge to take each other in their embrace. A wife so overwhelmed by her husband's selfless act of fasting that she couldn't find words to express her gratitude, love and appreciation for her husband. Love does crazy thing, a lady who is supposed to be an expert at giving lectures was tongue-tied in love! Raman an expert of one-liners, witty jokes and always quick on his feet couldn't come up with anything under the realm of love. Both just staring at each other with amazement saying so much yet so little. That scene between the two reminded me of the song by Ronan Keating, called 'You say it best when you say nothing at all'
It's amazing how you
Can speak right to my heart.
Without saying a word
You can light up the dark.
Try as I may, I could never explain
What I hear when you don't say a thing
Now the part of marriage that takes work, grit and determination. As the saying goes, nothing worth having comes easy. And who better than Ishra to know that this marriage is worth having and fighting for. Again we see the same couple with moist eyes saying so much yet so little. Both hurt by each other's words and actions, yet their love holds strong. Raman on seeing the version of 'truth' through the shades of his past retreats back in his fort that he had built to protect himself. He says out loud, 'we never had a marital relationship and we NEVER will. You are Ruhi's mother and that's it.' He has said these things in the past but what makes this different than the past is this time around neither him nor Ishita believe it. Ishita proclaims loudly 'I know our relationship is beyond Ruhu' while Raman proclaims it through his tears.
Is it not love when Raman questions himself, 'why are you spying on your wife' and Ishita hurt by his words still vows never to let anyone or anything hurt him. It takes 2 people to make a marriage work, Ishita has her flaws and Raman his. No marriage is clean piece of white cloth; even the purest one has specks of dirt. Ishita and Raman will have to wrestle through the mud to salvage their marriage and if in the process they get a little dirty then so be it.
The last part of the episode reminds of the ghazal by Mirza Ghalib and sung by Jagjit Singh called Hazaron Kwashein Aisi
I have thousands of desires and each desire is so intense that a part of me 'dies' when my desires get fulfilled. I have died many such deaths yet I have more unfilled desires.
In love there is no difference between life and death, I live by looking at my lover's face, the same lover who I am ready to die for.
Sorry there is no way I can do justice to Ghalib's couplet, I am too inept to even try so I just translated it to the best of my knowledge.
Raman and Ishita have thousand such desires, many have been fulfilled and many yet remain. If they can lay down the gauntlet and expose their vulnerability to each other then their marriage will be the one to reckon with.
Madhubala - Ek Ishq Ek Junoon
Cricket
Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon
Forum Games
Bade Achhe Lagte Hain
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