Originally posted by: boogle
yes! Not just Indian shows, but American shows as well have been romanticizing these "passionate" romances that are really abusive relationships. It too makes me worried about younger girls who are watching these shows and don't know any better.
TV shows aren't just entertainment. They send out social messages. And when you have tv show after tv show saying that if a man grabs you in a fit of rage it's "passion", or if he humiliates you in public it is him "fighting his feelings", it is perpetuating the wrong idea. You are glamorizing and romanticizing abusive relationships and that is irresponsible.
Speak the truth ladies! Mmm I'm assuming you're ladies? Hehe tell me if I'm wrong! Okay so i feel the need to defend myself. I absolutely do not condone violence in a relationship and i didn't mean to make it sound like I did. I had a boyfriend who decided he would like to hit me. I would like to say that I am proud of myself for slapping and leaving him. Then I told my cousin/brother Karan and lets just say it wasn't fun for that guy. But enough about that idiot, my point is that I know violence is not attractive and I'm not romantisizing it. On humiliation? Yes i totally agree with you, I will never find any guy who humiliates me in public attractive. Or in private. But I also know that it's not unforgivable but the man would seriously have to change and be sorry. Words hurt but can be forgiven. The appeal of love/hate for me is the concept that despite it all, despite the insults you BOTH throw, and trying to ignore it, you are inevitably pulled towards that person. And it's cute and romantic if they are both genuinely good people. And in most of these shows, these men are good people, the CV's make it a point to establish that. Samrat, however, is a pig. On the subject of "manhandling" i disagree. I think we all get angry and we all instinctively do that. I know i do. Now if he grabs me, i will tell him and he should stop. If he doesn't then it's a problem. Men are aggressive by nature and i won't condemn them for that. I know my brother Karan, who i was talking about earlier, is very aggressive and he didn't even realize until one of his girlfriends told him. And i will swear on anything that Karan would never hit a girl.
I would also like to say that it works both ways. Girls who insult and hit are not attractive. I'm not proud that i hit that guy but iwas defending myself so i don't regret it. Violence should never enter a relationship no matter who does it.
Love, Simran
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