Isnt everyone seeking love from Dadajee?

Isn't everyone seeking love from Dadajee?

Today Nisha told Dadajee that , her father wants to give Suku everything which he didn't got from his father(Dadjee)- Baap ka payar.

Isn't everyone in the family is seeking the same from Dadajee.

His eldest son, Umesh's father. He is always trying to follow his father. He thinks if he becomes like him , may be his father(Dadajee) will love him. Remember when Dadjee was coming out of the room, he(Umesh's father) was following exactly all the things Dadjee is doing. Even he came and asked , "Am I not looking like you?" What did Dadjee told, "Your watch is on the wrong hand." He could atleast say "Yes today you are looking like me." After all that day was a special day for him. That poor man (Umesh's father) forgot to build up his own character or dreams , because he just wants to hear appreciation from his father. May be "love".

His second son, Kirti's dad. He is a coward. One side he is buttering his wife, although he knows that she's a tacky "Nagin Dancer". Other side he knows Ramesh may be innocent, but he has no guts to say it. One side wife's pressure and the other side Dad's pressure made him a liar and coward. He too has no character of his own. Although he is not saying, but isn't he too needs love.

Ramesh has turned into an attention seeker. When he didn't got love from his father, he married a girl against his father's will. He is trying to battle with his frustration by sometimes over pampering his kids and sometimes through drink or laughter.

In fact why the three sons, even Nisha or may be Suku too is searching love from him.

Now we saw in next episode Dadjee is saying, "Now that Nisha didn't got love from our family, let us send her to somewhere (marriage) where she'll get her love."
Did Dadajee really thinking about loving family for Nisha's or he is actually sacred that Nisha will break all the rules he had made? Or shall I say ego?
What family he is talking about? Does Dadjee really have a family?

What kind of family did he built? Where elder brother forces his fault over younger brothers shoulder. Elder brothers don't think about younger brother's capacity when they fix an amount for shagun? He was blaming his elder sons, why wasn't he there when that was fixed? Or why didn't he ask it before all these mess?

Everyone is blaming Dolly because she wasn't brave enough to tell the truth. That girl is going to marry that guy very soon. Is this a crime to meet the guy before the days of the wedding? Then why is he taking that as a crime? Nisha has an understanding parents. But Dolly doesn't . With that his pressure can take her to either break of the marriage or may be more harder punishment. In this condition what else could that girl do? But today I was happy that she stood up for her "Chacha and Chachi". But once again Dadjee shut her down. Is this how he thinks he can maintain a family?

He told Lakshmi that he had no hope for Ramesh, but at least he had faith on her. What power does that faith has? Where Lakshmi is always at the edge of "prove that you are better". He is still scolding her husband because he married to her. What space does that woman has in his family? In fact everyone is powerless in his family, accept Nisha the rebel.

So far what I'm seeing is that in there family if there is one person who could stick the family(next generation, because the old ones are history) is definitely Nisha. But he is once again cutting his own two feet with his own axe.

Overall I'm enjoying this serial very much. Finally feeling like watching a real family show. Where real issues are coming out than those imaginary wars between saas and bahu on "vindi bhaji yah vindi vurta" Don't know who is writing the story, but so far it's going great.

Originally posted by: nikitagmc

I think Dadaji loves all of them and understands all of them very well. He and Dadiji are the wisest ones in the group who know each and every person in the house in and out- their good points and their flaws.

What has however led to the distance between Dadaji and his sons is that

a.) Dadaji is a disciplinerian, as most heads of the family are. Plus fathers often have trouble/do not often bother expressing their affection for grown up sons. It's a well known fact.

b.) Dadaji is old school. His thoughts clash with his sons, and more than often Ramesh. While the sons are scared of him and butter him up or accept whatever he says to please him, Ramesh does not. They have never been on the same page when it comes to career, choosing the girl for marriage or handling relationships or way of life in general- and more often than not Ramesh has failed to handle things well (his failures and all) which has just built this belief in Dadaji's mind that Ramesh was wrong all along and Dadaji's value systems and protocols were correct, bcos of which he continues to enforce them on the younger ones now. This has led to an even bigger generation gap between him and his grand children now.

And that is why I think Nisha and the cousins way of dealing with Dadaji is not going to help them. It is just going to distance them from him. You need trust and respect to manage relationships, make Dadaji feel you are trustworthy and understand the values and thinking of your generation, try to bridge that gap. Have the cousins done this? NO. They constantly make serious mistakes, fall into trouble, don't accept their mistakes or apologise, lie and are rude and disrespectful. The impression on Dadaji of this generation's kids is thus spoilt, even if he knows the core of their personality well. He feels somewhere they all need to be reined in (which is actually true) and hence he is more authoritative than ever with them. This distances the grandchildren more. It's like a cycle.

c.) Thanks to Ramesh's failures, a particular image has been built in Dadaji's mind, so now when his brother's put the blame on him and Ramesh stands silently, more often than not he believes them.

Originally posted by: *KT*~Lakshya*

wow. Awesome post.
I get your point. Somewhere along the line Dadaji forgot to show his love to his family. His principles seem more important to him which might be the reason for the weak bonding of the families. The fact that dadaji was too inexpressive meant (to everyone else) that they had to work harder to seek his approval. Ramesh had different aspirations but when he failed he came back to seek comfort from his family, dadaji put his principles before him. Maybe it was dadajis fault somehow. We'll have to wait and find out. I'm waiting for the episodes where the brothers burst and give reasons for why they've become like this because they weren't like this always.