Goood morning people!!!! I know many people are quite unhappy and depressed here for what Raman did last night and rightly so their opinions are respected. Though I cannot say what RKB did was justified for he cannot break the trust of his wife and her family so easily but at the same time I feel so ecstatic that someone on indian tv has DARED to write such an intricate and realistic character!!!And the actor who has dared to play it with such sheer brilliance and panache. RKB is the muse of the writer and soul of this series. And for this very reason, I am still keeping my faith in this amazing character.
There are no two ways about the fact that Raman Kumar Bhalla is no run of the mills hero out of any random hindi soap. He is a REAL man we come across on a daily basis in our fathers, brothers and husbands. And whether we like it or not, its in his character to be inconsistent at times. To be confused and weak. To be emotionally fragile and confident of right and wrong. This is because he is inspired from REAL men than non-existent super heroes which we often come across in our shows. He is unique and intriguing because he is REAL. Why we forget that's the main reason we LOVE him!! Because he makes us relate to him. He makes us relate to people, more precisely men around us in all the following ways.
1. He is sentimental - Yes RKB is not just emotional but sentimental too. There are some relationships which make him lose his sanity. He is a man who is still under the process of healing and regaining his lost self-confidence. There are people and things that still hold him down and challenge his ability to decide and think. But then don't we have the same in our houses? Dont we have people in our lives who make us emotionally weak. For whom we are more soft and forgiving than others. And for RKB, that one relationship is his son. And there is no question why it is so? Because a child is a child no matter how rude, how bad and how disrespectful your child may be u still cannot hate him. He is always your first priority and being unreasonable is the most common thing a parent do for his kid.
2. He has so many people expecting from him - Like any other man, Raman has so many people expecting him to be just and right. The needs of both his kids are poles apart. For his son, he has to keep regard of his ex wife and for his daughter he married Ishita and fulfils all his duties towards her. And now, both the families expect him to address their issues. To add there's another family whose happiness he has to take care of ie his own. And thus everytime something wrong happens he is pushed in a dilemma to chose one from the rest. And at the end its only him who loses. Yet he always fulfils all expectations people put in him.
3. He too has his fears - The man has lost a world. Still what all people do is just put him down every time. Finally a woman came to his life who showed him some hope and love. But every time destiny puts someone from his family against the interest of that woman bringing to surface his fears to hurt and lose her. At the end his relationships are juggled so bad that making someone happy directly makes the other hurt. So in all this I feel his fears too need to be addressed.
Thus Raman is as close to reality as it can get. And I have not forgotten that's because I love him so much. He is flawed at times but his ultimate power lies in the fact that being the favorite victim of destiny, he still fights his internal demons and rises to the situation every time. He bears the brunt of the ones he hurts and still continues to do things for them.
So lets give him some time to figure out things and realize his mistake. Lets allow him regain his sanity and think practically which I am sure he will very soon do. He just needs to realize that by giving into Adi's requests he is actually doing his wrong. Because a manipulator like Shagun will do no good to his son even if his son loves her. So till he accepts and rectifies his wrong decision, we need to give the poor guy some time and space to gather himself. He is standing at a dangerous crossroad.
Anupamaa
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