my two pence on mala's story

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Posted: 11 years ago
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Even though there have been many posts on.this topic here is what i have to say
First of all, im confused. Mohini said that baapusa was supposed to propose her but chose mala instead. Probably he was smitten by her youth and beauty. After rejecting the elder sister and choosing the younger one, he proceeded to make her life miserable. Why? All said and done, baapusa emerges as one of the many males of the sub continent society who believe they have all rights just bc they are men.
I have been in an abusive relationship too and i know the psychological trauma that a woman goes through in these times. What i fail to understand is the fact that even though mala was a mother and rudra was 12 at the time this happened, she chose to abandon her child in the hands of an abusive alcoholic father. She went away to make a life for her own. That is NOT HOW A MOTHER behaves. She could have used Tejawat's influence to look for her son. Her earlier behaviour shows that she hadnt shared anything abt rudra with him. Again not the behaviour of a mother who claims to love her son. What mala did was what a woman who has had enough does but i cant relate to her behaviour as a mother
This is just my take on this story. Both of them are at fault and it was rudra who had to bear the consequences

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Posted: 11 years ago
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I am sorry to know that you too have been in an abusive relation.
I don't know if the FBs were to justify Mala's side but one thing is clear they Mala and Dilsher both failed their son. It very sad for Rudra.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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I am sure mohini would have been behind
dilsher behavior towards Mala!!picture abhi
baki hai!!!
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Posted: 11 years ago
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It is absolutely ok that mala left dilsher and the abusive relationship ...what is unforgivable is that she left her son with such a man ...men with so much poison and bitterness in their lives will also be horibble fathers ...which is exactlyhow dilsher bought up rudra . 😕
Both the parents are to be blamed for this situation ...
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Agree with you. 👏 and Paro glorifying her makes it intolerable.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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she did not want to leave her son . She tried to take him but when Dilsher found out, he KICKED HER OUT. If she had the option, she would've took him but he KICKED HER OUT. She did attempt to reach out to him but they had left and kept moving. Kaka had promised that he would introduce her when they come back, but they never did. She trusted Kaka and didn't attempt again, not knowing what else to do.
We do not know if she took Tejawat's help or not, but either way I don't think it would've done any good. I don't see him helping her get her son back. Rudra is his biggest enemy now.

I am not saying that she was not at fault because BOTH PARENTS failed! But don't just blame Mala. Try and understand her a little too.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: Tithaliya

I am sure mohini would have been behind
dilsher behavior towards Mala!!picture abhi
baki hai!!!

I too feel the same.Mohini has something to do with this.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: brainychild92

she did not want to leave her son . She tried to take him but when Dilsher found out, he KICKED HER OUT. If she had the option, she would've took him but he KICKED HER OUT. She did attempt to reach out to him but they had left and kept moving. Kaka had promised that he would introduce her when they come back, but they never did. She trusted Kaka and didn't attempt again, not knowing what else to do.

We do not know if she took Tejawat's help or not, but either way I don't think it would've done any good. I don't see him helping her get her son back. Rudra is his biggest enemy now.

I am not saying that she was not at fault because BOTH PARENTS failed! But don't just blame Mala. Try and understand her a little too.

OK, husband kicks you out of the house & doesn't let you take your child ...so what do u do ?? Nothing ...You Come after a month for the kid & find out that he has moved to jaipur ...so what do u do ? Again. NOTHING...I am sorry but I don't call these 'sincere attempts'...These are called half hearted attempts.
She didn't try hard enough...hard enough that a mother would. After one month she stopped calling Danveer also ( he said this to Dilsher ) It was Danveer who called her after 12 years to tell her that her son is in town. She made NO attempt to get in touch with her son in those 15 years...With resources like Tejawat, finding him would have been a cakewalk. I would rate her a BAD mother. Dilsher was very bad,no denying that , that's why her walking out on him was justified but walking out on her child NOTHING CAN JUSTIFY it. If she had the courage to walk out on a bad marrige then didn't she have courage to fight for her son ?????
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Posted: 11 years ago
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i sincerely hope u over that bad phase of life

but concerning the show,it seems tht she was taking her son alomg with her but then dilsher threw her out the house
i still feels that mohini has a hand in their broken marriage
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Posted: 11 years ago
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First of all, Lots of prayers and blessings to you. Thank you for sharing your story. Its very brave of you.
I totally agree with you. Mala hardly tried to take Rudra with her. Dilsher kicked her out...she need not have left right? She could have stood outside the door till the next morning when Rudra and Kaakusa would wake up... She has already taken so much abuse... I mean its her child...would she really leave a piece of herself behind? I think the answer is no
So either the CV's are confusing the character of mala. Or she is meant to be weak and looking out for herself. But not for her child! Every mother on this forum is wondering, if that is even possible!

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