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Posted: 11 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: brainychild92
she did not want to leave her son . She tried to take him but when Dilsher found out, he KICKED HER OUT. If she had the option, she would've took him but he KICKED HER OUT. She did attempt to reach out to him but they had left and kept moving. Kaka had promised that he would introduce her when they come back, but they never did. She trusted Kaka and didn't attempt again, not knowing what else to do.

We do not know if she took Tejawat's help or not, but either way I don't think it would've done any good. I don't see him helping her get her son back. Rudra is his biggest enemy now.

I am not saying that she was not at fault because BOTH PARENTS failed! But don't just blame Mala. Try and understand her a little too.

Dear brainychild,

She did try to understand Mala and this is her response to it. Asking her to do it again is of no help. She just said she has been in an abusive relationship and finds Mala's behavior vis--vis Rudra puzzling. If anyone is in a position to judge Mala it is her. which is why she is making this post. which part of this is difficult to understand?

Lets be a little sensitive

cheers!

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henamani

@henamani

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Posted: 11 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: deep0909
Dear brainychild,

She did try to understand Mala and this is her response to it. Asking her to do it again is of no help. She just said she has been in an abusive relationship and finds Mala's behavior vis--vis Rudra puzzling. If anyone is in a position to judge Mala it is her. which is why she is making this post. which part of this is difficult to understand?

Lets be a little sensitive

cheers!

@brainychild i too left my husband's home and despite it being an abusive relationship tried for nearly 2 years for a reconciliation because i wanted the marriage to work. this is called effort. not that u take solace in the arms of another man. im not saying dilsher is not to be blamed. in fact he took out his anger on Mala by destroying rudra's childhood. but Mala is not above blame either. she keeps on harping abt 2 people being in a marriage but what abt the third person who was a result of ... whatever they had. a couple when they become parents are responsible for the child bc he cannot fend for himself. a lot of mothers face abuse so that their children are safe. that is all that i meant.

the harsh reality is that rudra is the only person who was destroyed in the midst of this

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farheen75

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Posted: 11 years ago

#13

Sadly Children r always the collateral damage of a bad/ ugly marriage but here mala compounded rudra's misery by leaving him behind with an abusive father and by running away left him open to all the taunts and humiliation of all the people around him which further damaged him... I don't have any issue with mala leaving dilsher bcz she did right but as a mother she didn't do right by her son, rather than running at night when he was sleeping she could have gone with a proper plan and afterwards as well could have used thakur's influence to find him, heck she never told him abt her son till his marriage and it was too late by then.

I am so sorry to read that u yourself have gone through this horrific ordeal and pray to god that he blesses u with happiness in future.

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brainychild92

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Posted: 11 years ago

#14

Originally posted by: henamani

@brainychild i too left my husband's home and despite it being an abusive relationship tried for nearly 2 years for a reconciliation because i wanted the marriage to work. this is called effort. not that u take solace in the arms of another man. im not saying dilsher is not to be blamed. in fact he took out his anger on Mala by destroying rudra's childhood. but Mala is not above blame either. she keeps on harping abt 2 people being in a marriage but what abt the third person who was a result of ... whatever they had. a couple when they become parents are responsible for the child bc he cannot fend for himself. a lot of mothers face abuse so that their children are safe. that is all that i meant.
the harsh reality is that rudra is the only person who was destroyed in the midst of this

I'm sorry if i sounded insensitive because i did not mean it that way. From what they showed, she did make an effort in saving her marriage but it was the last straw. Its not like she met Tejawat and left immediately. She tried to work on her marriage even after tthat.You are right, she could've tried harder; she might have been more successful, but that does not mean she did not try. I am not saying that Mala is right, but that does not make Dilsher right. They both wronged Rudra. I agree, mothers do face a lot for their child, but I do not agree that it was only Rudra who was destroyed. initially and in the long run, everyone lost from where I see it. But everyone has their own perspective.

Again, I sincerely apologize if anything I said seems personally insensitive, but that is not my intentions. It is just the way I see Mala.