I want to start the SPA of this week talking about the news of the show going off air. I don't know if the news is confirmed or not, but no matter what happens in the show, I personally don't want it to go off air, call me emotional fool or whatever this is what I feel. I agree that I was attracted to the show because of its story mainly not because of the leads, I loved Rk and then Madhu and then Rishbala but now I'm also a DVD fan they became my favorite Indian TV actors too.
I know sometimes the tracks get really scaring, we get stressed speculating on what will happen, but at times we also as viewers, starting with me, get impatient, we keep expecting so much things and we don't even give the creative team the chance to tell the story the way they picturised it, I'm not defending anyone here, I'm just saying that it's a fiction and we should wait to get the story and what they want to convey.
I know we as viewers need a guarantee that no matter how much things get bad, everything will be ok at a certain point, so we always want hints in every episode or two to ensure us that positivity is on the way, I also like that as we all look for entertainment, but that doesn't mean - that when they show a track for example the way they are doing now or when in the past RK was tarnishing Madhu's reputation along with her family and destroying them completely,- that there is no positivity that will come after. In fact Many misunderstandings took place even then between RM but we liked it because Rk was very classy and no scaring things such as rape were involved, but even here we should wait to see whether all this is a mere misunderstanding or he the rape really took place.
I still have hope in the dialogue Madhu was reminding (that Raja doesn't want to force her and that he just wants her by his side), the romantic in me dreams that Raja even when hurt, drunk and drugged stopped midway and uttered these dialogues which might be a very good test for his love, that he stopped even with something like drugs that can make you kill your own mother because when we say drugs we mean no senses, no proper thinking, no distinction between right and wrong, so anything can happen. And we know that only a sober brain can think, and even feel, yes my friends, with some scientific research you will get to know that our brain is also responsible of our feelings (Right Hemisphere), so even feelings when the brain is out of control can't be well balanced, so does this make Raja that much dreaded, disgusting, dangerous rapist!!! He was hurt, humiliated, heart-broken, instigated, lost his family as well as his wife's respect, uperse drunk and drugged, without forgetting that he loves her and is also hurt because of her and the way he was brought up, he was taught that marriage gives him the right to touch her and that his wife shouldn't refuse him this right, from his side he never touched her because he loved her and never wanted to force her and not because he thinks it's not his right, so even his mindset should be taken into consideration if we want really to judge him. Here I reiterate that I'm not defending rape of any kind be it marital or not, I'm just saying that if he did what he did, he did it under the influence of many things and if in the morning he was taking it only as a mistake and not a crime, it's because first he doesn't remember how he behaved last night, I guess he wasn't at all aware of Madhu's fear, her begging and how much terrible; painful and humiliating this whole experience must have been for her, secondly because he thinks that even if a physical intimacy happened between them, they are husband and wife, and the eternal optimistic, delusional fool in him might have thought that they are meant for each other and he can have her love and maybe even think that now that she belongs to him, she can accept him!!
BUT
Let's consider the other side of the story. Madhubala the sweet girl from Mathura, who was over-protected by her Dida and could never understand what life is, she kept her dreamy nature and headed towards Mumbai to save her Dida to face the real life. She was also the product of her environment right?!!. The way she was brought up, where she never had to talk or stand for herself impacted her way of dealing with things, she kept lying and got herself into many troubles that she could never handle in the best way and ended up being cheated by AK and married to a mentally challenged man who became the Raja we know now.All this must have been very tiring and frustrating for her, but something comes out of it she isn't really mahan, not even with Raju, she always tends to look for a peaceful life, she was never aspiring to change the world. When Ak got her married she wanted to run and she run but somehow destiny brought her back and out of humanity she helped Raju and wanted to take him to that center and leave him there and start a new life but he was so attached to her so she took him back also because somehow she has found the peace she wanted with Raju, so she accepted him as a husband and was very happy with the affection he gave her but then he became Raja a person who understands the language of guns and violence, who takes justice with his own hands, but who also was brought up in a regressive environment where women aren't considered men's equals. So the peaceful life she was enjoying in her relation with Raju disappeared and she once again opted for her favorite reaction RUN, she went to the chawl first, and she tried to run away many times from the village and in Mumbai too, she was never ready to fight to get her Raju back, I guess Sr Madhu with her Mahanta would have done a better job and it would have been appreciated by TRP aunties : changing the hero to the better. I don't blame Madhu, she has all the rights to refuse to live in that environment with a man she considers Janwar, who was blackmailed emotionally somehow to involve her in the shooting competition with Bhanu, something that any normal girl used to lead a peaceful life would have despised and refused because it's her life at stake which was taken lightly in the dangerous game between Bhanu -Raju (even if we know Raja is a good shooter, he would have never hurt her but with these dangerous games, one never knows, what if something goes wrong with the gun..). So her rudeness, harshness with Raja even before the rape incident is justified, she is a human being after all, she isn't obliged to change the world, but since we aren't very used to such heroines we ended up feeling for Raja when she told him that she will never be his, not even if he drops the guns and becomes her Raju again, a thing she was maybe willing to do, when Ak has just died, but now with the very fresh incident of the shooting competition, she just gave her final verdict breaking Raja's heart after a big humiliation in front of his family and the rest with Bhanu's conspiracy, we all know. The rape incident (if it really happened) made Madhu hate Raja even more and she has become ruder and now she is even trying to create history being the woman who will change the law for other victims too!!!.
Now we can all imagine the pain a woman can live if she experiences such a thing, NO WOMAN DESERVES this no matter what happens not even the worst woman in the world, as it's a free will thing and the woman has the right to say No.
But why can't I, many of my friends too, connect very well with Madhu?!!, is it because they always show that Raja loves her and whatever he does is just to keep her with him and all she keeps doing is humiliate him and hurt him ?! and since we are love stories suckers we want her to develop a soft corner ( khabi ha khabi na ) towards that rowdy Raja and then help him to change. I reiterate again that I understand her right to refuse such a life full of violence with a man who believes in taking justice with his own hands and who also thinks women aren't equal to men yet he is ready to bear anything for his Rani!!! (quite paradoxal right!!!)
The love story sucker in me asks me questions:
Why is she so rude (even before the rape incident), is Raja worse than Ak?
If she has so much dignity, and she hates him, why call him to help her whenever she has a problem?!, is it because after all she trusts him?!, or is it because he is the one who put her in such situations so he should get her out of them?!
In the stairs scene, since she hates him, why let him hold her in his arms and carry her to the 30th floor and hug him when she sees that Chipkali?!! Now let's suppose with the Chipkali she is a darpok but what about the rest, if I hate someone how can I stand him carrying me in his arms, I won't do it not even if the purpose was to prove him that he can't reach the 30th floor with her weight in plus
In the kitchen, was it humanity when she run to help him the instant he got hurt?!!, but if she hates him why would she run that moment itself?!, she could just tell him to be careful or use a marham, why would she run to him?!!
So I'm very much confused with Madhu, even after the rape I expected to see more of her pain, more of her shock just the way Madhu Senior was shattered after unwedding, but somehow it fell flat, she was very much strong, actually stronger than a victim in her place could be, so I just don't know, uperse they show Raja dropping a tear for her pain, defending her izzat, which doesn't make him seem black to me and with Bhanu being the source of misunderstandings how can we hate Raja or Madhu?!
So for me this is a very complicated story, it has many entwined elements included, from the mindsets and the environments where the leads grew up to the conspiracies woven by their enemy, so I just see it as a story of two flawed people who can't be judged as being right or wrong at least not at a rate of 100%
See it as a fiction show, try to appreciate that we have DVD and that this is not real life, no need to get very worked up over it (even I hate the rape thing but I see the show as a fiction and I understand the circumstances in which it happened) actually in real life and in some situations things are even darker than this, now we might lose our show forever for bad TRPs, but no one can force a person to watch, everything is a free will.
Edited by arshisfan - 11 years ago
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