mantra for a peaceful family - Page 5

atleast he could say those words. Or sandhya should not justify bhabho's deal or SurYa should not do the mission to pacify bhabho.

If sandhya said to suraj in GG room that she was hurt by this and she will prove her innocence by any means and asks for suraj's support then it will be good

DABH does have flaws and all the tracks are no perfect either but ya we do enjoy them and watch it regularly , this is something which doesn't happen when I watch other shows ..Thala is right I don't have tht connectivity .

Regardin Suraj and Sandhya's characters I doubt they'll change even till the end of the show ..This show set up is very very traditional and both characters are very sacrificing type .Just like Anas said in an interview , Suraj's character is such that even when ppl shout at him he remains calm .

In my opinion he doesn't really defend himself openly so how would he do it for Sandhya?

..He believes in sovling the matter silently and he has his own ways to deal with the problems otherwise we wouldn't be seeing an IPS sandhya...On one side he convinced demoralised Sandhya who was ready to let go off her dream because of Bhabo n on the other side he was handling Bhabo who was in no mood to give approval for IPS. So far Sandhya has been great post IPS, I coud see the intelligence in her while dealing Kavitha , thankfully she has been open to Bhabo n family tht they should not use her name and power to sort out things ...She has been able to impress SP and her team..What else coud I ask for ? Even in the BCT issue she did question bhabo but when she started a lecture on mother hood , then she didn't utter a single word ..Suraj has been this way since the beginning most of the time he doesn't speak up while few times he has surprised us too. YHM is such show whose concept is somewhat I can't relate to , they have no interest but got married for the child ..Male leads like those I can't relate to either , although they do open up their mouth infront of their families, but humililate their wives themselves ..

I was accepting investigating type tracks post IPS ,but we have an additional politics related track as well ..I haven't been disappointed till now .Heart to heart convos of Surya is something im missing a bit , romance too has been there on and off , we saw Sandhya kissing Suraj which wasn't the case earlier hahaha

raman the lead of YHM is not the cliched one.. i dont know if u watch the serial but he is sort of a grey character. more real. who will shout at his wife, be rude to her, be rude to his daughter coz she reminds him of his ex wife, threaten to slap his sister if she argues with him, snaps at his own mom too if she irritates him. thts how some ppl are in life real.

Its actually sooraj i believe who is not real, who wont say a word to his mom, the ideal tv beta. And we must agree tht we all dont agree & do confront our parents so many times in life. sooraj dosent have a spine nor he will tell sandhya anything nor his bhabho. he will keep sacrificing his own emotions to keep them happy. BUT he as a ideal beta should never question his mom.

An educational bahu has to be a door mat to her uneducated MIL is not the message anyone want to see.

Actually, I think that there are many MILs who love the idea 🤣.

That's why DABH is still on top. It flatters their ego and heals their frustrations.

Where is the husband. He is no longer the newly married Sooraj. He has been married to Sandhya close to 3 years and still he will speak only when stone falls on his head is unacceptable.

Sonali I am a wife and as a wife atleast in my private moment will ask my husband did you agree with your mother that what she did was right. I guess the more realistic wives in this forum can relate to what I am telling.

If we accept this kind of behaviour in the show without rejecting it we are doing a great disservice to younger generation for standing up for themselves in their future. We are advising them to be door mats to prove themselves to be great bahus.

Atleast for the sake of young members I have to put that what was shown yesterday was wrong.It was no normal issue. Bhabo has done a criminal offence if proof is there. With the deal she has tried to undermine the merit of 39 cadets in IPS academy for Sandhya. On top of that she has cheated the people of HG. Criminal acts are not justifiable under the garb of motherhood. And if an IPS officer is agreeing to that criminal act she is not fit to be an IPS officer. Sandhya the bahu can forgive Meena for stealing 70k. But Sandhya Rathi IPS cannot close the eyes towards crime because it was done by her MIL. You should never put up with such nonsense in your marital home. If your husband doesnt speak in your privacy you have every right to qeustion him and he is expected to answer you. You need not be aggressive , but you need to speak your point in your marital life. No peace will be gone. But more mental peace will be there and such healthy conversations are needed in hus-wife relationship to make it stronger which sadly Sooraj-Sandhya does not have. Their life revolve around Bhabo

Sonali I am a wife and as a wife atleast in my private moment will ask my husband did you agree with your mother that what she did was right. I guess the more realistic wives in this forum can relate to what I am telling.

Sandhya the bahu can forgive Meena for stealing 70k. But Sandhya Rathi IPS cannot close the eyes towards crime because it was done by her MIL. You should never put up with such nonsense in your marital home. If your husband doesnt speak in your privacy you have every right to qeustion him and he is expected to answer you. You need not be aggressive , but you need to speak your point in your marital life. No peace will be gone. But more mental peace will be there and such healthy conversations are needed in hus-wife relationship to make it stronger which sadly Sooraj-Sandhya does not have. Their life revolve around Bhabo

@ shruthi dont take me wrong, iam just trying to share what i have learnt about living in a joint family, if you mean to say

todays younger generation ( not all), lack what i said earlier

patience and a huge heart

many earn so they want complete freedom as they enjoyed in their parents house

which is impossible in a joint family

you have to adjust with other members of the family

if not the family will be split

i am not suggesting them to be door mats,

just because iam saying what sandy and suraj did was right doesnt mean sandy is a door mat

they have understood RP very well

and accordingly are handling the situation in a smoother way

sandy is not going to carry this burden

she is going to get the help of sirji and prove it in front of all

that is smartness

instead arguing and shouting is not going to benefit anyone

many say that surya are dumb they didnt speak against bb

now let me give a sample of what will happen if the above happens

sandy: bhabho how can you underestimate my ability, why did you appraoch k

bb: whats wrong in it, i wanted my son to be happy with you , if i did it for my son, isnt he your husband

suraj: bhabho why do you hurt sandhya everytime

bhabho: now that you are married you forgot , how i brought up you

suraj: no i didnt mean that

bhabho: i know very well. you have been henpecked

bhabho leaves

in GG room: why does YOUR mother always pick up fight for trivial issues. , i am not listened to , nothing works for me here

and it keeps blowing up

GG room dialogues were very nice in yesterday epi

suraj rightly said that RP is unaware of the terrorist combat and only because of that she won BCT and he was about to reveal it when sandy stopped

she didnt wanted RP to know about it cause they would be hurt to know the difficulties she faced during JT

and she understood that from an uneducated mothers pov she was right but she has to prove it

and she is waiting for right time ( that is why i said patience)

that is what strikes in joint family

not to hurt others

whats wrong in sacrificing ( a little ) for the happiness of OUR family members

that doesnt mean she is door mat

some issues have to be dealt smartly

it may take time, but you are not a loser

and sandy is going to prove that she won it on her own

hope you consider my reply to your comment

as a freindly conversation

Sandhya showing Kavitha wrong doesnt make Bhabo mahan. Putting dirt on Kavitha alone is not acceptable for me. In my POV if Bhabo's criminal act is right Kavitha is also right. Because Ramadi understand my angst is justifying the criminal act as mother's POV by an IPS officer. For me Sandhya has no moral right to throw dirt at Kavitha without throwing it first at Bhabo

why bhabho is giving ill treatment to one DIL and favoring other even knowing she is wrong

how is she maintaing balance between the family members

earlier it was between daughter and DIL

Bhabho always finds faults in DILs but what when it comes out Chavis turn

she had never shown maturity in family problems

Sandhya has always proved as best DIL, and one more thing when Sandhya helps family members then Bhabho shows affection otherwise she only argues about suraj's happiness with Sandhya

marital relationship and giving kids to family is her only problem

now see the other side chavis MIL

how she wants her DIL to work and when Sandhya wanted to study how much feud was created.