Gulabiya and Delusions of Grandeur

Originally posted by: XAiShBaBy08X

I don't think Gulabiya did anything wrong. In the past, Gulabiya didn't say anything and couldn't say anything because she was not in power. However, not once did she not try to save her daughter. We can't expect her to successful. We do expect that she try her best which is what she did. In order to save her from the Rai dance, Gulabiya throw her self respect away and asked Jwala Singh for money. Also, we have to remember that she is always in this dilemma of what is right...their society is completely different from ours. Bedni's consider Rai dance their dharma. Even so, Gulabiya tries her best to save her.

When Vikram helped her family out...she spoke of him with respect. However, when she was doubting his intentions, which we can't really blame her since she has only encountered Thakurs who want to use Bedni's, she doesn't speak to him as nicely. This makes sense since she is doubtful...but I don't think she ever speaks badly to him.

When she finds out that his wife is still alive...then well by that time, anything is justifiable. Gulabiya does what ever it takes to save her.

You say that at 18, Sugni has the right to marry whomever she wants and that Gulabiya, or any mother, should give advice but accept the daughter's decision. You are absolutely correct in this matter. However, Gulabiya found out that Sugni isn't actually getting what she signed up for...then it is logical to not just stop her but show her the truth. Her main purpose was to show her the truth. In the Indian culture, it is not uncommon to see parents interfering in their children's lives. I would not have liked it if Gulabiya was trying to stop Sugni from marrying Vikram at all costs simply because she didn't like him. This is not the case though. Gulabiya has a more than valid reason to stop this marriage because Vikram is already married and this marriage would have been illegal.

She finds out that Vikram is lying to Sugni. How can she trust him after that. To her, it looks like he has bad intentions.

Gulabiya shouldn't worry about making enemies...her first and foremost concern should be to save her daughter from a deceitful marriage which is exactly what she tries to do.

As for Sugni throwing the ring, I think it was justifiable since she wasn't in the state to think rationally. She had just found out that her love was actually deceiving her...and breaking her trust. However, I can see how you think that it may have been too much.

All in all, I just don't see why Gulabiya is so critically dissected. If you look at the big picture, she tries her best to save her daughter from harm and supports her and her dreams despite the fact that she has to go against society. She went from not knowing what to do about her daughter to making the decision to support her. Instead of looking at it as there being an inconsistency, I see it as her character is actually evolving.

Originally posted by: hillydee

Excellent Post Laila👏

I hope you won't be misunderstood. This is my main contention with Gulabiya, her methods. Her selective behaviour towards only one person, when Sugni has been in dangers other times before. She was disrespectful towards Vikram, had so much strength for him, when his main crime was loving her daughter so blindly that he had to lie. We know he should have spoken the truth to Sugni and Sugni only. Gulabiya first conversation with Vikram when she found out he was married, was so ignorant and stubborn. She did not care to hear his side of the story. Up to date she still maintains her belief that Vikram had his wife stacked away all this time, and to add insult to injury she will really believe Vikram would lie about the mental state of his wife.

It is as if when Vikram first confessed his love to Sugni, she snapped mentally. She was after him from day one, and she was not done until she found something and she ran with, no reasoning, no real sense of logic in handling such a delicate situation, the future of her daughter.

This situation could have been solved long ago, if she took the time out to have a mature reasoning with Vikram, then she would know his wife is mentally ill and he did not know before that she was still alive.

She could have then given him an ultimatum as her right as Sugni's Mother to make Vikram choose between wife and her. Isn't that what she wanted from TJS, why she is so bitter about Thakurs?

When a man gives his Mother's ring to another woman, no matter how much of a jerk he is, YOu mean a hell of a lot him, and you would have to be an Idiot to not know that. Sugni was very very out of place to throw back that ring. This is something her Mother would do.

Originally posted by: hillydee

Gulabiya never initially supported Sugni's dream, that is why she ended up almost doing the entire Rai dance in the earlier part of the serial This is where Vikram had shown his distaste. Then Sugni decided no matter what she will never do Rai for Thakurs. That is when Gulabiya supposedly started supporting her because she realised Sugni was very very serious. She never even took Sugni's dream serious to leave the community. Please roll back the tapes..Gosh. It is so annoying to hear Gulabiya was supportive of Sugni's dream from day one. that is so not true. It was later on.

It is so annoying when people post emotionally.