First can I just say this thread has been fascinating and ty to the TM for making it. I'm glad that arvi and ovi fans can all agree, even with certain reluctance, that he's a terrible father. I personally don't think ovi or purvi or onir or d-clan or RK, anyone factors into the relationship arjun chose to share with his children. how ovi treated him, how he feels about her, how purvi treated him, how he treated her, how many times who married whom, if he he tried with ovi, whether purvi tried with onir...these are utterly irrelevant and rubbish excuses as far as his lack of initiative regarding his children goes. no matter how much of a tragedy king he is, thats not his children's burden to bare. and yes i use the word chose, because it was just that. he felt purvi would be hurt by him asking for pari's partial custody so he chose not to. he chose to stay away from pia because he simply blames her existence for his failed life. in his words- 'if i hadn't seen you (ovi) in Canada, I'd have my family with me.' lets ignore the fact that idk how he could've expected to not see ovi in her own house, if he did not meet ovi that day, he wudnt have found out about Pia and his statement just proves that he'd be completely fine with that.
for those defending his deadbeat behavior with excuses about wanting to give his kids more normalcy- there are plenty of kids, myself included, who grow up between divorced or separated parents and they're 'normal'. an absentee father is a lot less 'normal' than divorced parents raising a child. and pari and pia turned out to be a far cry from normal. one grew up bitter due to her father being more concerned with how her mummy would feel over fighting for her and the other grew up feeling responsible for her absentee father's failed life. Pia idealizes his relationship with purvi...is that normal to anyone? let me, being someone who grew up in two different households ensure you, you may accept the person in his life, be happy for him, even develop an equation with her, but never in your life will you secretly smile watching the wedding photos of anyone else with your dad, especially if that person was the driving force behind your parents' divorce and the other woman hasn't played an active part in your upbringing. nobody wants to think they were conceived out of obligation. pia's behavior as sweet as it may seem to an arvi fan, is sad and messed up.
for those defending his deadbeat behavior with excuses of purvi or ovi ki bhalai. I'm going to go ahead and presume you don't have children and i apologize if thats not the case. let me give you an analogy that shahrukh khan had once used in KJo's show that i thought was a very profound yet simple analogy to describe how you feel about a spouse as opposed to your child- 'if there was a truck speeding on the road and my wife was in its way, i would run with incredible speed and push us out of the way but if my kids were in the way of the speeding truck, then i wouldn't just push them away, id stand in front of the truck and i would, with certainty, stop it.' i have a simple one, i would die for my husband but i would kill without an ounce of remorse or hesitation for my kids. you may love your lover or spouse a lot but there is nothing on gods green earth you love more than your children. literally for a dad, the moment it hits you, thats mine, your whole world shifts its singleminded focus on that person. arjun loved purvi more than his children? then he never really saw them as his children. pari was staking a claim on purvi and pia was an inconvenience. then he doesn't deserve to have children. if theres anyone you love more than your children, you probably shouldn't have them. if he thought his kids are better off with their mothers without any effort from him, why? he's not poverty stricken or a substance abuser or a physically abusive person, then y would he assume that?
and chalo he loved purvi so much that he gave up pari, i think thats pathetic beyond redemption, but i'll give him that also, what was his excuse with pia? thats were we come to my last invalid and silly excuse, possibly the silliest, for the day...how can he give pia pari's place without upsetting her. well my dear peeps- first off, pari is already VERY upset 😆 and secondly, and more rationally, how do people have more than one child? when parents have a second child, does s/he replace their first baby? no they don't. even if the first child throws tantrums, we make them understand, we don't abandon our second child do we? so why in the world would arjun's involvement in pia's life be equivalent to giving her pari's place? why would he, being both of their father, think like that? and if he thought it would offend purvi, then maybe she isn't the person he needs in his life anyways. let me be clear on this, i don't think arjun should've given pari back to purvi for ovi. if he wanted ovi as he had claimed then, he should've tried harder with pari in tow. similarly not having a relationship with pia to not offend purvi or prove his great love is just as pathetic. the blunt truth of the matter remains he's a deadbeat even worse than damodar or soham. he simply shirked off his responsibilities under the farce of true great love.
now do i feel bad for him? well if i saw him dying of the brain clot in the streets id pity him and take him to the hospital. would i feel sorry if he died alone? knowing all this? nope i don't think so. call me cruel or whatever. i just wouldn't. he custom made this bed for himself. he deserves to die alone- no purvi, no ovi and most certainly not pari-pia. pari is 10000% justified to abuse arjun in any way she wishes to and pia is crazy for not wanting to.
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