Arjun is not innocent!Final warning pg15 - Page 10

Originally posted by: nikki1591

when ovi after getting married arjun basically forced purvi to move to kolkata and basically blackmailed her mother into kicking pregnant purvi out of her house and into sulchana, how nobody bashed ovi then. did purvi not need her family then? especially when she was pregnant. oh but i forget it is only ovi emotional needs that matter.

she probably didnt tell him bc she wanted to give alcohol as medication to her child and if she told arjun he would disaprove😆😆

that is partly a reason as to why Adult Pari hates Arjun at the age of 21.

adult pari is not having any reason to hate arjun now infact as a daughter she should feel bad that ohh god..for this many years i am hating my father without reason ...its a feeling which should be beyond hateness...specially her aaji is explaining her everything whom she can trust easily...regarding how suddenly she can accept this truth than... if she can't accept it than also she should not give statements like uss adami k pass aai nai jayegi wapis nd all...after knowing everything either she should keep quite or should ry to understand... if after knowing also she is not ready to accept father than i can understand why arjun was having ego nd failed to convince her from this many years...whenever he tries to talk on call ..she was just doing bakwas only.after watching adult pari's behave i can't say its 50-50 fault. arjun is also at fault for not visiting canada nd only just calling her but kid pari nd adult pari is more at fault specially adult pari...

Interesting how the discussion has now shifted into how Pari is at fault from how Arjun is not innocent. Let it be so then... Well, adult Pari has the history of living for 21 years without her father. And now if his truth is out then she would naturally be more angry because the first thought that would cross her mind is "Why didn't he try to reach me if he was innocent?" and we cannot expect her to have a turnaround of her heart just like that...

I recall are said once to child Pari and secondly to adult Pari. This means she was trying to make her daughter talk with her father across ages

Again m saying... beta papa se call par baat karo acche se...ase pari jaise bacche nai mante..

there was problem between husband and wife ..not between father and daughter... daughter was with purvi...purvi was knowing that daughter is not talking with father on call...she was knowing that her hateness will give negative effect on her mind than why never try to arrange meeting of daughter and father??? her hateness was for arjun..nd watever trauma scenario u r explaining..can agree on it..so she should not invite arjun to meet herself or call for herself for her self respect...as per her..arjun betrayed her not pari...nd pari was not adult that she can call her father by herself nd can fix meeting with father...but purvi was there with her . for ovi's matter she should not call arjun for her self respect but she can fix meeting of father-daughter nd by doing that she will not her self respect/ego anything.as male is supirior not female ego.

arjun made mistake for his ego which was hurted by his every attempt nd dats why he never meet pari...same way by not calling arjun for pari's sake...purvi made mistake for her self respect nd ego both but her ego was never hurted becoz she had never given any chance to arjun... ek ne ego k liye beti ko contact karna chod diya or dusri ne ego/self respect k liye beti ka kabhi contact nai karvaya.

@ Bold : Exactly.. The problem was between husband and wife, not between father and daughter. So it was Arjun's responsibility to reach out to his daughter as his daughter was with Purvi in another country. And when she left, Pari was just a toddler, not a grown up child who could refuse to call and talk to her father. Why didn't Arjun make any efforts then? And again as you have yourself said Pari was not an adult who could fix a meeting with her father, her father could. And in my opinion he should have fixed those meeting because his daughter, he knew was getting estranged from him.

I however agree that both are at fault for Pari's not contacting Arjun.. but even if Purvi was not doing so Arjun should have done it because he was at a bigger loss in not contacting his own flesh and blood...

one lie

For me...its not only about one lie...it shows your capacity of forgiveness and your inner strength...some people are this much sensitive that a single lie can be show worse effect on their mind nd can lose sense of understanding and some people are this much strong that they can handle themselves after number of lies too nd not going to loose their state of mind...this shows their inner strength of tolerating situation...that doesn't mean strong people should become used to of lies as weak peoples will going to show worst effect of lie.

Of course it is about capacity of forgiveness and inner strength and I don't blame Purvi if she could not muster enough inner strength to forgive Arjun for that one lie because the loss caused by it was big and life changing. And with Purvi it is damn if she does and damn if she doesn't. When she acts Mahaan, she is bashed and in this case she could not act Mahaan but chose to behave more humanly and she is expected to be Mahaan and forgive Arjun especially when Arjun had not tried enough to clear the misunderstanding between them.. Sorry, one cannot have one's cake and eat it too...

Of course it is about capacity of forgiveness and inner strength and I don't blame Purvi if she could not muster enough inner strength to forgive Arjun for that one lie because the loss caused by it was big and life changing. And with Purvi it is damn if she does and damn if she doesn't. When she acts Mahaan, she is bashed and in this case she could not act Mahaan but chose to behave more humanly and she is expected to be Mahaan and forgive Arjun especially when Arjun had not tried enough to clear the misunderstanding between them.. Sorry, one cannot have one's cake and eat it too...

Here there is nothing related to her mahanta ...conclusion was only one that its only in people's hand that how to deal with situation if dear once told them lie than...its not situation that only arjun had said one lie...there is also issues where purvi had told number of lies nd that lies were also related to someone's life...it was never casual lie...still dat one lie is only dragged here...there is number of attempts also from arjun's side more than arjun's lie...from purvi's side number of good intention lie is more than number of good output...arjun is not innocent but looking more innocent becoz m seeing no attempt of understanding from purvi's side.

I however agree that both are at fault for Pari's not contacting Arjun.. but even if Purvi was not doing so Arjun should have done it because he was at a bigger loss in not contacting his own flesh and blood...

I agree he was at bigger loss...for me ...its mother and father both should equally attempt but here both were busy in justifying their ego and self respect nd both were failed to think about their daughter. Father can be fail to arrange meeting with daughter due to male ego and mother too done same mistake..dats why arjun said "purvi its our ego"

adult Pari has the history of living for 21 years without her father. And now if his truth is out then she would naturally be more angry because the first thought that would cross her mind is "Why didn't he try to reach me if he was innocent?" and we cannot expect her to have a turnaround of her heart just like that...

Nope..as per pari's reaction..for a second also she had not thought like if my father was innocent than why he didn't try to reach me...her reaction was like aai should not trust on that man and she should not go back to that man..till now she never try to understand that arjun is innocent...purvi accepts it now but not pari..so we can't say that she has any feeling like why he never try to reach me as still she is not believing on purvi or archana's word.