Disgusting purvi DT note pg22 - Page 4

Yes, Chadda TRIED to force her.

But let me ask this. When Ovi agreed to take part in Arjun's plan to fake a marriage in front of Purvi, it was asked whether anyone held a gun to her head? And, believe me, I agree that Ovi is wrong for agreeing to Arjun.

SO was Purvi held at gunpoint? NO. She had the option to say NO to Chadda. She has shown enough confidence in standing up to people. Even at 18 years of age she stood up for herself in front of her boss Arjun when she started working in his company.

Why couldn't she say NO? Oh that's because she saw the opportunity to make Arjun jealous and she went for it despite of how "SANSKAARI' she claims herself to be.

I would like to clear for the record.

Where was the need to bring race into this?😔

Originally posted by: pilli2000

This just got a bit racial.. there are as many divorces with Indians as there are with "whites"

To answer your above question, no one knows if Purvi dances with other men in front of Pari. Is Purvi supposed to live the rest of her life unhappy and single? I don't think she has to... she just chose to. There is a thing called a second marriage.

So everyone that has a second marriage have no value?? I think not..

Originally posted by: WhatOnEarth

There are definitely NOT as many Indian divorces as Whites. Certainly not in India and not in USA, Canada, Europe also.

Nobody is saying Purvi have to live the rest of her life unhappy and single. She just should not drink and dance to make her Ex-husband jealous. If it was a real love interest which has possibility to end in marriage, then there was no problem.

"Statistically the number of cases on the docket has exploded," says Prosenjit Banerjee, a Delhi divorce lawyer. That means that even though the number of courts devoted to divorce proceedings has grown to around a dozen over the past 10 years, up from just four or five, there are still more than 30 cases listed before each court every day." (Huffington Post, 2013)

That's just in Delhi alone, now we must include all the other regions in India. Also there are definitely a lot in US, Canada, and Europe as well. So we can't say whose more...

Again, for the last time, Purvi is human, and humans do those things to make people jealous. Besides that, why isn't it ok to dance with someone if marriage is not in the future. How many people go to parties just to dance? A LOT. That's the best part about Indian parties. What we look forward to when people have a birthday, a wedding, etc... Sometimes, it's just about a dance and nothing more.

Originally posted by: WhatOnEarth

Sorry if it offends you. race wasn't the important issue it was just example of what happens if there's no value in life.

Maybe western was more appropriate word.😊

Don't waste your time talking about values on this forum, it is always taken out of context, misunderstood and cause plenty arguments.

Originally posted by: pilli2000

"India does not track a national divorce rate, but some analyses of the number of divorce petitions filed in municipal courts indicate that divorce has doubled since 1990 in trend-setting Mumbai and Delhi.

"Statistically the number of cases on the docket has exploded," says Prosenjit Banerjee, a Delhi divorce lawyer. That means that even though the number of courts devoted to divorce proceedings has grown to around a dozen over the past 10 years, up from just four or five, there are still more than 30 cases listed before each court every day." (Huffington Post, 2013)

That's just in Delhi alone, now we must include all the other regions in India. Also there are definitely a lot in US, Canada, and Europe as well. So we can't say whose more...

Again, for the last time, Purvi is human, and humans do those things to make people jealous.

Sorry for interjecting. The reason for the post and those who agree with it, is because when Ovi did it at a young and immature age of 19 yrs, most of the forum said the worse things about her, just because they wanted Arjun and Purvi, long before they even met. Arjun was single at the time also, so there was no need for such protest against Ovi. So, it is sad to see the double standard now when 40 odd year old Purvi does it.

Originally posted by: ChemistryMajor

Yes, Chadda TRIED to force her.

But let me ask this. When Ovi agreed to take part in Arjun's plan to fake a marriage in front of Purvi, it was asked whether anyone held a gun to her head? And, believe me, I agree that Ovi is wrong for agreeing to Arjun.

SO was Purvi held at gunpoint? NO. She had the option to say NO to Chadda. She has shown enough confidence in standing up to people. Even at 18 years of age she stood up for herself in front of her boss Arjun when she started working in his company.

Why couldn't she say NO? Oh that's because she saw the opportunity to make Arjun jealous and she went for it despite of how "SANSKAARI' she claims herself to be.

Originally posted by: pallavi25

Being Sanskari doesnt mean she cannot get jealous! Sanskari people are human beings too, they can feel jealousy, anger, hurt, pain, and all human emotions! They haven't exactly transcended human emotions, then they would be Saints! Mahatmas! Sant-Rishi! 😆

I think the term Sanskars is completely misunderstood here!

Of course she wanted to make Arjun angry and worried, not exactly jealous! She knew Arjun was worried abt Chaddha targeting her! She wanted to see concern and love in Arjun's eyes. That was her motive!

The thing I found most cheap was the mentality towards NRI women as expressed by Chaddha! Nobody is discussing abt that? Everybody is busy blaming Purvi!

How Chaddha thought that just because Purvi is a single woman, a divorcee from Canada she would be easy game? 🤢

Okay I just want to make several points here.

1) I never criticized Purvi for her FEELINGS. I don't think anyone here is saying anything about what she feels, whether it's jealousy or anger or hurt. Of course she's allowed to feel the emotions you listed because those are human emotions. It's her ACTIONS that are extremely immature.

2) I am seeing the word Sanskaar as how Purvi described it HERSELF. Was it not her who said she doesn't drink because of her values, sanskaars etc.? Yes, right? Then but the next day/episode she still went ahead and drank. You see she said one thing and did another.

I usually relate sanskaars to one's actions and NOT feelings. Of course she is allowed to feel the things she felt. Of course sanskaari people can feel different emotions, whether it is love, hate, jealousy. The difference is in actions. A girl who seems to be so proud of the values her mother instilled in her WOULD NOT have premarital sex with a guy in a roadside shack. That doesn't mean she can't fall in love.

3) Of course Chadda is wrong! It's clearly obvious! Everyone is saying this guy is a pervert. No question about it and that's my point! How dumb is Purvi to make herself vulnerable to a predator like Chadda being at the age she is, all to make Arjun jealous! And by age I mean that at 40+ age, I'd expect her intelligence to be higher. I don't mean that at her age she can't drink, dance, or date anyone. You'd expect a teenager to behave stupidly like this but not a grown woman because one expects grown adults to be more mature in the way they handle their emotions (whether it's jealousy or hurt).

Originally posted by: WhatOnEarth

I see in the UK many many old people are divorced and living alone(with dogs rather). It is visibly clear the divorce rate is much higher here than average Indian cities, there is really no need for stats. I saw many old people going to hospital for operation alone because their son/daughter can't make time despite living in the same city.

But yes, there are very happy families here also.