this is d reason i cant stnd purvi:Mod note pg5 - Page 3

Why is it expected that OTHER people must always fix the mess and unnecessary drama that Arjun and Purvi create?

Onir isn't married to Purvi. Ovi isn't married to Arjun. Neither is anyone else.

It's Arjun and Purvi's marriage. One can only blame others and expect a third party to resolve their issues to a certain extent. After that it solely depends on the two people in a marriage.

Arjun and Purvi's marriage severely lacked in trust, communication, and respect for one another. Others can only do so much. It's their OWN responsibility to fight for their marriage and have faith in each other.

They were literally spoon fed to marry each other. They took NO initiative in fighting for their so-called "amar prem". Onir and Ovi had to fabricate different schemes to get these immature lovers to marry. Now others must also spoon feed them through out their marriage?

They couldn't make their marriage last even a year but it's everyone else but their own fault? Please! GMAB.

Originally posted by: muse10

Here are my two cents -

Two wrongs do not make one right.

If Ovi was wrong (and she was wrong as many have repeatedly said) in being too insecure about Purvi and Arjun, so was Purvi in leaving Arujun on seeing him in Ovi's place with the baby just once (Arjun had left Mumbai only a few days - may be 3 or 4 days - earlier, so he could not be living with her). And does an infant in fragile health not deserve attention?

As I have said in another post, central characters not having patience to listen what others have to say moves the story forward in many serials. And that is what is shown here too. But that does not make it justifiable.

If Savita was wrong (and she was wrong as she herself admitted) in instigating Archana's children against her, so is Purvi in telling her daughter half truth about her father. Further, everyone thinks of Savita as a selfish character, she is not seen as making sacrifices for anybody. So this comparison is actually damaging to Purvi's image. As humans, people make mistakes. And this is a major mistake.

Thank you! Thank you for clearly explaining the blatant double standard!

Originally posted by: ChemistryMajor

Why is it expected that OTHER people must always fix the mess and unnecessary drama Arjun and Purvi create?

Onir isn't married to Purvi. Ovi isn't married to Arjun. Neither is anyone else.

It's Arjun and Purvi's marriage. One can only blame others and expect a third party to resolve their issues to a certain extent. After that it's solely depends on the two people in a marriage.

Arjun and Purvi's marriage severely lacked in trust, communication, and respect for one another. Others can only do so much. It's their OWN responsibility to fight for their marriage and have faith in each other.

They were literally spoon fed to marry each other. They took NO initiative in fighting for their so-called "amar prem". Onir and Ovi had to fabricate different schemes to get these immature lovers to marry. Now others must also spoon feed them through out their marriage?

They couldn't make their marriage last even a year but it's everyone else but their own fault? Please! GMAB.

Archana- Manav separated because Soham was kidnapped and Manav blamed Archu for Soham's presumed death! So he took the twins and Sachin and left for Canada.

Originally posted by: pallavi25

Archana- Manav separated because Soham was kidnapped and Manav blamed Archu for Soham's presumed death! So he took the twins and Sachin and left for Canada.

If Purvi lost her unborn child from the shock of discovering Arjun had a child with Ovi, then that pain of losing her child would have the same effect as losing Soham had on Manav.

Purvi did probably lose her baby as no mention has been made of another ArVi child after the leap. So like Manav blamed Archana, she blamed Arjun for the loss of her child. So she took Pari and left for Canada.

Still no idea but Pallavi Di probably U are right. Otherwise Purvi never this action with Arjun.

But what is mata mind no idea. So need wait sometime.

But the way she do this her own characters she paid her punishment heavily.

Originally posted by: pallavi25

Archana- Manav separated because Soham was kidnapped and Manav blamed Archu for Soham's presumed death! So he took the twins and Sachin and left for Canada.

If Purvi lost her unborn child from the shock of discovering Arjun had a child with Ovi, then that pain of losing her child would have the same effect as losing Soham had on Manav.

Purvi did probably lose her baby as no mention has been made of another ArVi child after the leap. So like Manav blamed Archana, she blamed Arjun for the loss of her child. So she took Pari and left for Canada.

Originally posted by: muse10

Pallavi, as far as I remember, Manav did send tickets for Archana, even though he blamed her. It was Savita who tricked her into not coming.

And the point is that no matter how angry Manav was, it was irrational of him and also of Archana not to contact each other in 18 years. This caused so much pain for all involved.

But Manav reacted after Varsha jumped into waters with Soham. Purvi seems to have reacted before the loss of her child, perhaps causing the loss by reacting so intensely without actually trying to find out the full story. Both are irrational equally.

I still fail to see what Arjun's "shocking deception" was.

I mean Arjun just found out about the baby not too long ago. He barely processed it himself.

Yes, he did lie about being in the meeting. But he also acknowledged that Purvi as his wife deserved to know. I just don't see how Arjun betrayed Purvi. She didn't even give him a chance to explain and assumed things on her own.

I cannot believe I am defending Arjun.

Originally posted by: pallavi25

Muse, question is not abt rational behavior but abt emotional reaction to the trauma of losing a child.

Many couples have been known to separate after the sudden death of a child, particularly if one of the parents is blamed for its death.

Yes, Manav did send tickets to Archu after Vandu and Damo talked to him (dont remember clearly but one or both of them did)

Purvi lost her child due to sudden shock of coming across Arjun and Ovi with baby. Then Arjun lied to her too so what shd she think except the worst?

Already she was under stress due to Arjun's behavior back in Mumbai, on top of that this sudden discovery. So she lost her child (not confirmed by stupid CVs yet but we can assume safely because no mention of 2nd ArVi child)

Shock at Arjun's deception combined with grief of miscarriage probably made her leave Arjun.

Originally posted by: ChemistryMajor

I still fail to see what Arjun's "shocking deception" was.

I mean Arjun just found out about the baby not too long ago. He barely processed it himself.

Yes, he did lie about being in the meeting. But he also acknowledged that Purvi as his wife deserved to know. I just don't see how Arjun betrayed Purvi. She didn't even give him a chance to explain and assumed things on her own.

I cannot believe I am defending Arjun.