wat the hell? DT note pg7&24 - Page 18

Originally posted by: pari87

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In that I agree with you. That maybe our idea of the current track may differ, but I do agree on your points for how it should have been.

Ideally, I would have liked the deal to never have happened. Or Arjun to have stood up to it.

But even if they showed the deal, I would have wanted both Ovi-Arjun to realize the consequences of what they just themselves into and worked it out.

I wish they had given more substance to Purvi. With the leap I had expected a turn around in the female lead as Archana was shown to be very stupid with her decisions and un-educated.

With Purvi they should have shown a stronger, literate and more mature woman of today, instead thy have ruined her to a perpetual damsel in distress and her so called mahanta acts just come off as underhand and manipulative. They have gone two steps further to destroy her character than Archana's.

Anyway,

good to know we agree somewhere! :)

Originally posted by: sowmya_jairam

I think the marriage could have worked too, if arjun and ovi both tried to work on it. And honestly, I didn't see it from arjun. Let's forget all the things that both ovi and arjun did to jeopardize their marriage until ovi listened to onir's advice and tried honestly to move on forgetting about the past. She started trusting arjun then, and tried her best to be the best person she was. And that was honestly, a pretty good person to be. She didn't think arjun was cheating on her when he lied to her about purvi's calls; rather she was upset that he didn't trust her enough to share whatever was going on with him. And she told him so. No acting coy or blaming him for lying. In fact, throughout the marriage she's been honest with him about her thoughts and her motivations both when she was angry and when she was happy.

However, arjun never really tried to work on his marriage. He didn't tell her about the baby. He kept meeting purvi behind her back; purvi who was an outsider to their marriage was telling ovi's husband when to tell his wife about their baby and he was listening to her. The night before their anniversary, she was waiting for him to tell her the truth about their baby. Instead he lied to her again. I expect that was the last straw for her. Arjun has never been honest with ovi, and he never really tried to make his marriage work. If he really wanted, even after all the truth was out, he could have easily moved to canada and convinced ovi to give their marriage another chance. It was his fault to hide such a huge thing from his wife, and he could and should have done his very best to manaofy her. Instead, he paid her a one night visit and came back right away when she said she wanted nothing to do with him, and got to work spying on onir. Anyone who's in a committed relationship can attest to the fact that fights, even huge marriage-ending ones happen with frightening regularity; but most everyone still tries to compromise and end the fight even if it's not their fault if they wanted to keep their relationship intact. And oh yeah, people who want to make their marriage work don't constantly lie to their partners or otherwise hide important or even unimportant things from them.

So yeah, the marriage could have and should have worked. Ovi loved arjun desperately, and he supposedly considered her his "best friend" at some point. But they, mainly arjun didn't really want it to work so he never really tried.

Originally posted by: RangiliDhanno

I dont feel any empathy for that crazy and immature girl! Just as Ovi fans dont feel any empathy for Purvi or even Pari! They have called her and Pari horrible names! At least Im not saying anything vulgar abt Ovi...Im too squeamish for that! 😉

There is no bad, worse or worst! The whole deal thing was the worst thing to happen in the show after the leap! Period! And it was Ovi who brought the deal to the table, so shes the main villain in my POV.

Ovi could have dealt with her frustrations in a different way rather than drink like Devdas and try to kill her unborn child. She had even declared that she didnt want the child! Then why did she marry Arjun in the first place if she didnt want to lead a domestic life with him? Because she was always immature and never evolved as a human being, till very recently.

Originally posted by: pallavi25

So, in order to be modern, Arjun and Purvi shd just stay unmarried and bring up Pari by taking turns? Like weekends with Dad or visits to K House when Dad or Dadaji misses her?😆

But why shd they do that? 😕

When both Arjun and Purvi are single after their respective divorces, why cant they marry and give Pari a normal family life under the same roof as a family? Why do they have to stay separately and face awkward situations like the ones at the polio booth? Why do they have to be single parents individually instead of being a married couple, bringing up Pari jointly? Doesnt make sense, does it? Just for the sake of modernity...modern thinking will be in accepting the situation, reaffirming their feelings for each other and moving on with life after their divorces, remarrying each other to give Pari a proper family life in Kirloskar house.

DK will also get a chance to see his grandchild everyday which will be good for him!

And Ekta does NOT always reunite her couples only in death. Kutumb, KYPH, KTH, KDMHMD, KMH...in most of her shows, the lovers did reunite in the end, or they reunited somewhere in the middle of the story, got married and had kids, then separated again due to some misunderstanding 😆...but all these shows had the couples reunite at the very end! Only in one show KZK, lovers reunited in death!

Originally posted by: pallavi25

So, in order to be modern, Arjun and Purvi shd just stay unmarried and bring up Pari by taking turns? Like weekends with Dad or visits to K House when Dad or Dadaji misses her?😆

But why shd they do that? 😕

When both Arjun and Purvi are single after their respective divorces, why cant they marry and give Pari a normal family life under the same roof as a family? Why do they have to stay separately and face awkward situations like the ones at the polio booth? Why do they have to be single parents individually instead of being a married couple, bringing up Pari jointly? Doesnt make sense, does it? Just for the sake of modernity...modern thinking will be in accepting the situation, reaffirming their feelings for each other and moving on with life after their divorces, remarrying each other to give Pari a proper family life in Kirloskar house.

DK will also get a chance to see his grandchild everyday which will be good for him!

And Ekta does NOT always reunite her couples only in death. Kutumb, KYPH, KTH, KDMHMD, KMH...in most of her shows, the lovers did reunite in the end, or they reunited somewhere in the middle of the story, got married and had kids, then separated again due to some misunderstanding 😆...but all these shows had the couples reunite at the very end! Only in one show KZK, lovers reunited in death!

Originally posted by: ilovedhanjanird

It's not about modern thinking , it's about if its right to marry your sister's ex husband

Yes , they loved each other but the fact that Arjun did have a marriage with ovi , gave her the rights of being a wife doesn't change the fact

I don't think anyone here would have any objection if purvi didn't want to be Ovi's sister

He can one marry their sister's ex husband ? It is wrong in all ways.

Of course if ovi and purvi didnt know each other well then it would be acceptable even appropriate

But let's face it ovi is the daughter of Deshmukhs as much as purvi is

Can you expect she will never come visit ?

Originally posted by: pallavi25

Same way that Ovi married her would be jeeju by crooked means a day before ArVi wedding!

BIL is not related by blood, Purvi and Ovi are not related by blood.

Purvi wont just be marrying her adoptive sister's ex husband but rather she will be marrying her ex-fiance and the father of her child! Whats so wrong abt that? I think its perfectly right!

Even Ovi wants that, doesnt she? And she told Arjun she would come to the wedding too. Arent u happy shes matured enough to say that?

Purvi stood there and conducted Ovi Arjun wedding...then why cant Ovi attend Purvi and Arjun wedding? I would be happy to see that Ovi who has evolved and matured and moved on!

Originally posted by: ChemistryMajor

You totally missed my point. I am not AT ALL saying they shouldn't get married because of Pari. Yes, I would have more respect for them if they admit their feelings and get married because they love each other.

All I am saying that when we criticize Purvi for pre-marital sex and defying her so called "sanskaars" by Archana and Sulochana, we are told to think more "openly" and pre-marital sex is common these days and people are more open-mided blah blah.

But then, when we think more openly that Arjun and Purvi do not necessarily have to get married in this day and age only because of a child since many people share children and they are not always married, there is an issue in that too.

I don't understand... you guys apply one rule in one situation but the opposite in another situation. At least be consistent.

Oh and as I said, I would PREFER and have more respect for Arjun Purvi to get married because they love each and admit this, rather than fall back on the excuse of getting married for a child. However, I am not saying they should absolutely do this! They can get married for any reason they want for all I care! I would prefer the events to proceed in one way doesn't mean they most certainly have to!

I am just stating my views and what I would LIKE to happen. If you choose take my words as absolute or extreme, there is really nothing I can do about that. 😊

Originally posted by: ChemistryMajor

LOL. Once again, you missed my point!!!

I am not objecting to Arjun/Purvi's wedding at all! Is that clear?! All I am saying is they SHOULD (emphasis on should, doesn't mean they MUST) get married because they love each other.

I would have more respect for them if they stand up for their so called "LOVE". Again, I would PREFER that they get married because they truly love each other and do not use the excuse sharing a child.

There is no reason to bring Ovi into this.