Double standards? - Page 3

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Ovi was a third person between this pavitra rishta of Arjun and Purvi. Purvi let her come between them. This was a decision about "their life together" not Ovi's. I won't take the blame away from Ovi for being so obsessed as to come up with a deal for Arjun. She never proposed marrying him, but that Purvi did. Making life - latering decisions on behalf of Arjun as well. Yes he has anyway been a weakling in my eyes since his two-timing nonsense and inability to speak up, so I had no real expectations from him to stand up to Purvi either. But she did not even talk this out with him. 2 hours before pheras, just called him on a cliff and sprung a surprise, wherein she had mulled over her grand plans a whole night. Tomorrow, I may have a woman who is interested in my boyfriend/husband and tell me she will give me whatever I need most, I cannot blame her for wanting my guy, nor coming up with this idea either. IT is solely on me and my boyfriend/husband to handle this situation together and keep her away. So in my eyes, the destiny charted out by Purvi, is only to blame on her. And arjun for accepting it. Bu Arjun is living a loveless marriage and suffering, whereas our dear holy saint has a loving husband and seems to even flirt with him and enjoy his attention. So THAT is my problem with PURVI. Like I said, I will always blame Purvi for being selfish and hence blame for the mess of their lives is on her more than the other two.

I don't doubt that Onir doesn't know her state of pregnancy, but I wonder if he knew who was the baby of the father and the circumstances Purvi created for herself and others and ran away maybe a man would not be so happy to get married to her. Agreed Onir did not want to know about her past, but this was selfish of Purvi again, because she herself knew the kaand she has done so she should have told him that You should know about my past and only THEN make a decision. Did she think her house of cards was gonna stay put forever? It is not unfair that he finds out all her nonsense after marriage? Yes he is a great guy, but Purvi has only taken advantage of this fellow but conveniently being happy about him not wanting to know her past.


When Ovi came home after the wedding and Arjun found out later about the deal, everyone blamed Ovi for having based her marriage on this pack of lies. This argument holds for them too then! Arjun also did not care to speak to OVi or ask her this sudden change in events before agreeing to give her a loveless marriage on the request of his lady love. He later found out and could never resolve to love her. So same for Purvi-Onir. He did not care to find out, but now when he does, won't it be too late? Convenience is what Purvi looks after. Nothing else.

If Purvi has inspired the same kind of devotion in Onir that she has in Arjun, good for her. It only goes to show that there is goodness in her that makes people love her. Sachu, Teju, even Savita have grown to love Purvi.

Pari, obviously you and I see this from different angles.

Yes, Arjun and Purvi are to be blamed for being tied to others in a loveless match, I never disputed that. All I am saying is Ovi is just as much to be blamed for her own situation. I reiterate - all 3 are to blame, each for their own misery, Purvi for giving up Arjun, Arjun for listening to Purvi, and Ovi for forcing a loveless marriage upon herself.

None of them owe anything to the other in this blame game, they are all 3 adults and made the wrong decision and are paying for it in their own way. Purvi cannot be blamed for Ovi's or Arjun's misery if Ovi cannot be blamed for Purvi's pain. Fair is fair.

As for Purvi being a seductress, that is a tad bit offensive. Ovi can sleep with a man who does not love her and that is okay, Purvi though cannot flirt with a man who loves her and is her husband?
If Arjun and Ovi can move on, Purvi should be able to as well. This even if Arjun and Ovi are miserable for the rest of their married life. Purvi cannot be expected to keep paying because the other two do not know how to make a go of their marriage.

As for Onir and Purvi, she attempted to tell him, he chose not to know. He knew she was unmarried and had conceived out of wedlock, what more is there to know? Who the man is and his antecedents? I believe Onir will only admire and love Purvi more for what she has done, given up on her love for her mother's happiness. All Purvi needs is Onir and his support which she will surely have, Ovi has a full array of troops to carry her every wish anyway.

While we are discussing Purvi's er..charms, let us not forget Ovi's not so admirable habits, her drinking, her habit of flirting with the wrong guys, the habit that originally landed Arjun in an undesired relationship with her, oh, and of course her shrieky tantrums.

Yes, if someone were after my boyfriend/husband, I would fight tooth and nail against the witch that dared to look his way but here Ovi had an unfair advantage, she carried Archana's happiness in the palm of her vicious hand. Even if she hadn't, I would not hold her entirely blameless for coming after an already "spoken for"man.

Arjun, Purvi, the rain and the hut are at fault equally.

Originally posted by: sipokobusak

Arjun, Purvi, the rain and the hut are at fault equally.

You left out the most important part, Ovi too, my friend. 😉

The end story is that purvi's one decision of forcing arjun to marry ovi ruined a lot of lives.