Purvi-onir's rishta - Page 13

Originally posted by: strega

<font color="#0000ff" face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif">You have expressed what I have been trying to say in multiple posts very eloquently. You have done a much better job that I.</font>

<font color="#0000ff" face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif">Purvi seemed friendless and I started to post. I can go back to my silent reader mode. now. She is in safe hands :)</font>

<font color="#0000ff" face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif">Goodbye!!!</font>

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

Ashna , if she had been alive , and if CVs had the guts to show her realistically unlike DK who calls the woman who almost shut him down a devi , would have done this .

She would have not been happy that her son is breaking off a lucrative proposed marraige , benefecial to both the families , which would have been good for the family in both ways ...businesswise and otherwise since she knew the girl since childhood .

The girl was not ugly , with a defect anything . Infact she was beautiful and loved her son . To top it she was rich . Ashna would have been very satisfied as a mother .

When her son broke off and decided to marry a girl who worked in the company and if the girl turned out to be the adopted daughter of the woman who almost shut her husband down , Ashna in real life would have thrown a fit . Here in PR it was shown that the 2 women chatted happily as if nothing happened after the case ...thats why i said real life .

But Ashna the mother would have swallowed it , known she was fighting a losing battle and given in eventually to her son's obstinacy . Mothers have a great potential to swallow the deeds of their children ...but Ashna would not have liked it .

When the trading was done , and the marraige had taken place , Ashna would have been very angry and given all 3 a earful .

She would have told Ovi that 'loving' is a matter of the heart and in such matters the heart cannot be forced . Even she wanted the girl Purvi out of the picture but any emotional force is not the answer . She foresaw a rather unhappy future for her as her son seemed besotted by the girl .

Ashna would have not gone down hard on the deal part as elders know that all marraiges , arranged or love are deals of life . They r exactly like business deals , and if the deal clicked and turns out profitable it is termed as a succesful marraige . Elders do not believe that one should marry only the one for whom one feels 'pyaar' . Pyaar evaporates as fast as it developed ...see the way Purvi is flirting with Onir , wet hair and all . May be she is applying balm to her wounded heart by this action but if Arjun had fondled Ovi's wet hair it would not be regarded as balm to his pain but he would have been called names . Ashna would have waved aside the deal part but would have been worried about the confidence of her bahu Ovi ...for life experience told her that her son had it badly for Purvi and he would not forget her so easily .

A part of Ashna would have been glad that her son would now not marry the daughter of that woman who almost shut her hubby down but she would not voice her innermost thoughts and relief to her son .

She would fire Purvi for trading her son like a banana when she had given consent to this marraige and decided to accept her as she was her son's choice .

She would have fired her son in private and told him that the girl he was dancing after was simply not worth it , that marraige was no doll's play to be treated like this and now he had two choices

Get out of the mistake fast

or better make it work .

Ashna would have then spoken sharply to her son about the costly monetary repercussions . A divorce would perhaps mean halving his father's hard earned wealth and this was simply not acceptable .Ashna would have berated and berated her son for his foolishness and advised him to make the marraige with Ovi work .

The mother in Ashna would have convinced DK to pay up and get the foolish son his freedom when she saw he was stifled in the loveless marraige as it was the question of her child's life .But she would have notliked it and never let her son hear the end ofit .

If Ashna would know that the son is staying in the loveless marraige due to promises to his ex and has agreed to even bring babies in the world due to promises to his ex she would sit in the AC car , pay a visit to Archana and tell her exactly what Purvi is doing in front of Purvi and request Purvi coldly to butt out of her son's life ...she had done enough by cancelling the wedding at the last minute .

Mothers r unreasonable that way . Experienced too . They don't waste time speaking to their besotted offspirings but go to the root of the matter .

Ashna would have thawed and come around when she would understand Ovi is carrying her grandchild . She would now support her daughter in law fully and really talk to her son...make this marraige work , the child deserves none of this rubbish , grow up and be an adult now and stop mooning about your ex ...god knows where she is now and please don't forget you were not her priority . Enough of your nonsense .

This is what a real life Ashna would have done ,i dunno about the PR Ashna . She would be diplomatically sweet to her pregnant bahu and keeep an eagle eye on her and never allow her to go to the drinking point when she was pregnant and if she still did , would contact bahu's parents immediately and tell them how familyi ntervention was needed ASAP .

My thoughts ...on the real lifeAshna .😆😆😆

Originally posted by: Kalapi

<font face="Calibri"><font size="2"><font color="#cc0000">Shymala, let me ask you this, don't you think that Arjun is also to be blamed for the failure of Arjun/ovi's relationship. I mean did he really try, as it has been shown so far, with Ovi after he himself came to up to Ovi and wanted a second chance? Why are we assuming that it is all Ovi's fault, when we have seen Arjun convo with a lappy as if Purvi, or fantasizing her. Ovi did say very loudly and sadly, that she is tired of the relationship and has done enuf to make it work, and has fail. Why do we fail, even then that Ovi didn't try enough? Why are we so biased to the character of Ovi... simply because is not liked, or screams (the actress does, that isn't to our liking). Isn't Arjun actually to be blamed now for the failure of his relationship with his wife as he couldn't move on (as said by Purvi, herself) and as Purvi done? To me Arjun just put up an act that was so OTT that Ovi could see through his act... and his living with Purvi in an alternate world and fulfilling Purvi's wishes, only makes Ovi bitter more. Onir will be bitter too, if he realizes that Purvi is following Arjun's dictate, which she isn't thankfully.</font></font></font>

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Kalapi, I am not Shyamala but my take on it is that it takes two hands to clap and in a marriage both parties are responsible for making it work. You are right, we do not know what transpired within these last 6 months, if Ovi tried (except for her word and her version of trying might be far different from the truth, given her track record) or Arjun tried (lappy incident).

All we know is at the beginning, Ovi was overly suspicious (she had just cause to be, no doubt, as she had separated her husband from the love of his life) and was behaving like a harridan. Someone with sense or with sensible parents would have been wise to give the relationship some time, would have been patient, and not expected him to flip a 180 degrees overnight. He had not only been forced into a loveless marriage but there was resentment that the girl he was tied to now was one who had played a major role in wrecking his love life. Ovi showed no patience or understanding and hence pushed him further away.

To reiterate, not sure what happened between them in the past 6 months, who between them tried more, he definitely is shown making an effort and if Ovi badly wants him now as much as ever, she better shape up. A baby will mend their relationship, which normal man will be idiot enough to think about his ex when his baby is cooing at him? She needs to majorly grow up if she wants this union to work.

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Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Janhvi, well, at least to me Ovi being suspicious isn't uncalled for, especially after the 1 month of marriage, where there no on 'try' of any sort for Arjun. He consented to marriage to prove Purvi, that he could do anything to show her his love. After the marriage, we know what transpired. He was constantly seeking out Purvi either by going to Karanjkar house and making every effort to look like a lost soul that is moaning. Even Ovi's complain to Archana, that their marriage isn't healthy fail into deaf ears? Ovi, in a way was forced to do the tamasha, since Purvi, the ex was having a full emotional control on Arjun with lauki ka halwa and all. We have seen too, Purvi's confession on such, that she is finding it hard to see Arjun with another girl.

So, we are still assuming that Ovi might be the faulty hand in this marriage, as because she isn't an adored character, and any reason that Arjun/Ovi' s marriage didn't work falls on Ovi, how. At least, the past actions doesn't at least to me shows that Arjun truly was trying to move on. He wanted help from Ovi to move on, but can someone really help anyone, if he isn't ready to move on and give a new meaning to his life. Arjun is like on drugs where Purvi is concerned. He knows he need to move away from the drug, but can't help himself. Now, we might say, he is young. Well, if he is young, why dig a deeper hole, and sleep with Ovi, for marriage sake, just because Purvi told him to. Sleeping with a girl isn't making a marriage work. He, by his folly, now brought a baby to this mix. Why not go for divorce the moment he declared his love publicly.

Right now, we see a very mix signal from him. He obviously loves his baby and so is taking care of his wife – you know his now famous dialogue, love my kid's mother. By just showing care for his kid, he is pushing Ovi further, who is just testing him to see when he breaks. Is this really trying to make his marriage work. I mean, at least to me, Ovi always wanted him and Arjun was her life. I find it hard to believe a girl who grew up without her mother will not value her own relationship or her kid. But, what Arjun done to her is very subtle and an unseen emotional abuse, that even Ovi's family fail to see – it is so sad to see Archana, MAnav and all is blaming and advising Ovi of mistrust, when we as audience is Arjun flirting openly with Purvi, at every chance he gets. I mean, he himself admitted in the car in Kolkata, that he will stop thinking of Purvi from now on and work on his marriage. How much more evidence do we need that Arjun always had an invisible Purvi at his side who was a reality between Arjun and Ovi always. Purvi is and was the invisible sauten in Ovi's life – and no wife can live with an invisible sauten, no woman can be that big hearted. So, to me Arjun stood at the same spot that he was the day of his marriage. He never moved on, he never really tried with his heart. What he did was only a show. It is sad that the elders of the shows are turned into such dumb characters, generally, they have the sixth sense always to see through such faade. So, well, did Arjun really tried and then failed, on according to me, as I have seen after 6 months. In fact, I agree with all of you who said that Purvi has moved on. She was shown to think of Onir more (even with her friendship dialogue😃) than of Arjun. Her thinking of Arjun was more when she cae to Deshmukh's than when she was with Onir, but can we say the same of Arjun, that he wasn't thinking of Purvi, when he was 'actually' with Ovi?