A person being personally unselfish , atruistic and a daughter does not give her the license to control everyone's life and make deisions for them .
None of these 3 things give one unlimited power to do what she wants to do .
If Ovi is drinking and endangering the baby it is wrong period . She being spoilt , she being a tantrum queen , she being an unhappy wife does not excuse her action . A human life is at stake and its safety is the priority , love stories and Arjun can come later .
Similiarly ...forcing someone to make changes in their life ...unpleasant , important life affecting changes is not being a bit unfair but unfair as hell and its high time someone puts this girl in check . None of the changes she expects r a bit unfair and resolvable later ...Arjun is trapped in an unhappy marraige for life due to her silly altruism [ which i do not think was altruism at all as that word for me has a different meaning] and Onir is being asked to leave his practice in Kolkata and his needy patients and treat her rich sister who can afford any doctor here and this expectation is no small thing .
If i was a doctor and if my husband left the home and city with the expectation that i follow him and treat his brother or sister who has categorically refused treatment from me i would be hopping mad coz i have a busy practice here that calls for serious commitment and if my husband left city with my kid and used that kid as a weapon to dangle before me to make me do his bidding i would take serious offense and i would show him how much . That is exactly what Purvi is doing , the kid is unborn right now but she has calculated that due to attachment for it her husband will follow her and she has hit when the iron is hot ...when the man is most vulnerable . Just as there is a big hue and cry when female vulnerability is taken advantage of there must be something shown in this serial that men cannot be taken for granted and their vulnerability is not for attacking by female predators like Purvi . The Too Too Too music when she comes ...[..i call it the Purvi music ] and her sad lovely face don't make her actions right .
Me and my Aai is her motto and she expects all to toe the line . She took advantage of Arjun's vulnerability of being madly in love and made him agree to atrocious conditions and now she is taking advantage of the doctor's attachment to the unborn baby and secretly hoping he will follow her and treat her sis as that will make her Aai happy .
How will she feel if the doctor takes the baby away when it is born and goes to a foreign country and dangles it attacking her vulnerability and making her join him there against her wishes . How would she feel then . Two can play the same game . And i hope the doctor teaches her a good lesson by doing exactly that . Ovi demands atttention and teddy bears and is called spoilt but i find this extremely serious as she plays with lives for getting her way . If this is what she has learned from Archana's famous parvarish it is dangerous . Lowering her eyes , acting all demure but ensuring terrific emotional control she butchers lives .
She can do whatever she wants with her life . If she does not mind going personally scathed herself it her choice , her life . If she feels committed to making her Aai happy i can understand that . But then that should be strictly for herself . She should take decisions involving only her . Like refusing to marry Arjun is her decision to make . But asking him to pass a test of love , marry her sister and later sleep with her and bring a kid in the picture was not her decision to make . She has no right to destroy the Kirloskars and Duttas to make her Aai happy . The baby in her tummy is , i assume , a Dutta . The baby in Ovi's tummy which has come in this world coz she forced Arjun to sleep with his wife is Kirloskar . The man she ditched was a Kirloskar . The man she has left now is a Dutta .
If u only want to be a daughter all ur life , fine . Don't marry then . Take care of ur Aai , spend ur salaries on her , take her for sightseeing ,fight court cases for her , do whatever . But when you marry , you give a commitment to another family , its a very serious promise made in front of God and if u don't believe in him , a court . A marraige does not mean u cease being a daughter . That relation will always remain . There often comes a time in life when the two commitments clash . At such a time one has to be very responsible , mature and outweigh what needs priority and while doing that one family does not suffer as now your work is twofold ...you are committed to two families .
I did not see the parents asking her to make any sacrifice . They had come to talk to the doctor . They were puzzled to see her suddenly here . They r asuming she has told her husband . She has lied to them that all is fine between her and the husband . She had lied to her husband about many things too and shamelessly told him that ' maine tumko jhoot bola'.
Lying comes effortlessly to her . She has to understand that she cannot control lives nor can she make everything right . All have a right to live their own lives , even villainous Punni has a right to make her choices , moneyed lifestyle or middle class marraige , she is a grown up adult . Her choices need not be acceptable to many but they r her choices . Constantly being a roadblock in them is not Archana's business nor Purvi's business . Why force on her that the chote log lifestyle is the best ...it may not be for all like Punni or Ovi although Arjun has suddenly changed and concedes it is the best and although Manav Archana have forced their thoughts on an entire new generation brought up in a foreign land .to live in a chawl . Truly liberated thoughts is living your life the way you want to but respecting others choices , whether you agree with them personally or not . I see only force by Purvi everywhere and since i do not believe in benevolent dictatorship, i object .
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