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My dear Pari,
Once again, I am SO happy and reassured by your views, and your very clear and firm attitudes to the does and don'ts of life, especially when one is young.
I agree completely with you regarding the relative importance of factors like caste and religion on the one hand, and morals and decency on the other. The first is a matter of adjustment, but the second should be non-negotiable, and that is why I cannot stand the idea of Purvi having Arjun's baby without being married to him. It is very distasteful, and more to the point, not at all credible given the way she was and is presented, as a lower middle class girl brought up with definite codes that she accepts and lives by. They have ruined her character, and to no purpose that I can see.
What dismays me even more is the frantic desire in large chunks of this forum for Arjun and Purvi to get together again by hook or by crook, and all those in the way of this be damned. Someone wrote that she wanted Ovi to die in childbirth. I would not wish that even on Punni the Python. I feel that an extension of this attitude to real life is what leads to all the attacks on women for repelling the advances, even just for friendship, of male acquaintances and even colleagues - the obsession is with getting what one wants and the rest can go to the devil.
The kind of reckless promiscuity that you have mentioned is probably part of the same syndrome. Thank Heavens that I am over 60 and am not bringing up kids in these days! And of course shows like PR contribute to this progressive degeneration by presenting the unacceptable as acceptable,even normal.
Take care, my dear, and mind that you stay exactly as you are. I would not want you to change in the slightest.
Shyamala Aunty
Thank you for all the warm replies :)
Shyamala Aunty- I feel that most of us in the 20's still follow the same morals and ideals that our parents did..And inspite of living away from India, I am glad these are still intact. It is good to change with the zamaana as they say, but I believe you can only stretch a little or become flexible or broad-minded on things that don't change your moral compass. e.g- MY parents were never too happy with the idea of inter-caste marriages, but with today's world, I guess I would be. But the idea of cheating in marriage, or giving up on your husband because you found love outside of marriage suddenly, incestuous relationships..all of this would never be flexible. But seems like, for a lot of youngsters these days, it is what they see in the media, TV or films that shapes their ideas about what is/what isn't ok. And we all know what the movies and media portray. The entire pressure of being "cool" is what drives the 20 somethings. Fitting in, peer pressure, a certain reputation ( which is not always good) to uphold, having the latest of everything, and much worse is what this generation is worried about. One of my friend's younger sister was telling me about how one of the boys she was meeting for potential marriage match, asked her if she had had any sexual experience before as it would be very important in their relationship". Ofcourse, she rejected this boy, but was very shaken by the notions that people her age have out there. That night I sat and heard stories about college life in Bombay and what goes on between all these adolescent kids and how common sexual promiscuity is and the uglier truth being, it is considered very normal. I was shocked beyond belief but was told that this is the reality out there. These shows propagate such wrong ideas and values on the name of being family soaps. If I had my way, my kids would not get access to these things until I was sure they know right from wrong. Imagine Pavitra Rishta being a show that you had to have parental control over. :P
Once again, I am SO happy and reassured by your views, and your very clear and firm attitudes to the does and don'ts of life, especially when one is young.
I agree completely with you regarding the relative importance of factors like caste and religion on the one hand, and morals and decency on the other. The first is a matter of adjustment, but the second should be non-negotiable, and that is why I cannot stand the idea of Purvi having Arjun's baby without being married to him. It is very distasteful, and more to the point, not at all credible given the way she was and is presented, as a lower middle class girl brought up with definite codes that she accepts and lives by. They have ruined her character, and to no purpose that I can see.
What dismays me even more is the frantic desire in large chunks of this forum for Arjun and Purvi to get together again by hook or by crook, and all those in the way of this be damned. Someone wrote that she wanted Ovi to die in childbirth. I would not wish that even on Punni the Python. I feel that an extension of this attitude to real life is what leads to all the attacks on women for repelling the advances, even just for friendship, of male acquaintances and even colleagues - the obsession is with getting what one wants and the rest can go to the devil.
The kind of reckless promiscuity that you have mentioned is probably part of the same syndrome. Thank Heavens that I am over 60 and am not bringing up kids in these days! And of course shows like PR contribute to this progressive degeneration by presenting the unacceptable as acceptable,even normal.
Take care, my dear, and mind that you stay exactly as you are. I would not want you to change in the slightest.
Shyamala Aunty
Thank you for all the warm replies :)
I apologize for the long rant, but having come to the forum after long, I think I got carried away !
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