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ambolove

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Posted: 13 years ago

#21

Lets watch the full scene but according to what I saw, I believe all purvi wants is to see her Aai Baba happy and it doesn't matter if it's right or wrong. I think more than anything Archu-Manav and Purvi want him to accept that he has a family who will always be there for him. I didn't see anyone forcing him to come back home. As for the whole Purvi-Ovi argument, both have flaws but both love their parents dearly and as they are still young one cannot expect them to be totally out of fault and massively mature. I am sure many people make stupid mistakes at the age of 18, even giving themselves a false feeling of self-importance. At the end of the day both are good girls, both have feelings, both have made mistakes and both love their parents deeply. I'm sure both of them will come round to realising their mistakes when they are older.

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soapwatcher1

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Posted: 13 years ago

#22

Ambolove, amen to that! Hopefully, both girls will.

Tanya and Naava, as usual, you have said it well.👏

Sherna, will repeat what the others have said, even if it is redundant 😊

Yes, being the younger sister, Purvi is well within her rights to tell her brother especially if the matter concerns her parents.

As for Purvi agreeing to marry any guy Soham brings forward in an effort to blackmail her with the condition being he will return to Archu as a son, I have no doubt in my mind that (foolish) Purvi will readily extend her neck to get the mangalsutra from any guy her brother tells her to wed if it will ensure her mother's happiness.

As for your statement that Varsha gave life in a sense to Soham by saving him from drowning, Naava has already stated it, Varsha is the one that put him in danger of drowning, she is the one that endangered his life then and is endangering it now by letting him associate with gundas like Balan. Varsha is just as obsessed with Soham as Ovi is obsessed with Arjun. They both believe the ones they love irrevocably belong to them, unfortunate for them and for the ones they love. Soham is at present blinded by his maayi's "love" but the patti will be removed soon enough, with the help of Purvi or not.

As for Savita and Manav, Savita is the one who wronged Manav in the first place, she deprived him of a wife and family, in the prime of his life. No mother in her right mind will or should do that. She needs to ask for his forgiveness. He has not cast her off, she still resides with them, he still provides for her, he is just mad at her, justifiable. Soham likewise has been deprived of a good life by Varsha, he has been denied an education, a good upbringing and has been left in the company of goons. The boy ought to realize that Varsha has never thought of his well-being ever, only hers. Once he has that realization, he will be ready to bask in the fuzzy warmth of his parents's love.

As for Purvi returning to her long lost parents if they return by any turn of a magic wand, she will not abandon Archana as her bond is to her aai. I am certain she will not turn a cold shoulder to her parents either. She will give them a hearing as to why they went missing for 18 years, if they have a valid reason, no harm in bonding with them, they would be her biological parents and in a way entitled to her love too. Does not mean loving one parent is betraying another parent. As children, we all love two parents equally, father and mother, so if one grows to love two sets of parents, provided the love is warranted, there is no harm in that. Of course, there will be a lot of turmoil, questions of acceptance, guilt about hurting the parent that raised you, etc. but ultimately it would be a blessing to have two sets of parents love you unconditionally. My opinion.

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jdronamraju

@jdronamraju

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Posted: 13 years ago

#23

Originally posted by: sherma
y is purvi again interferring
its soham life,he is elder to her
he knows the truth,that armaan are his real parents still he doesnt want them
hnestly i was happy armaan getting bashed by soham-i so wnted it
public humilation of armaan by soham,the way manav did wid savita
i want soham not to except armaan as parents until manav apologoses to savita,
i want sum1 to ask a question to purvi,she was an orphan and archu gave ehr life treated her and luvd ehr mrethen her daughter,so now if from anywhere her parents cum back,will she leave archu and go back to her real parents

i hate varsha as a chrcter,no way support wat she did,but a fact cant b chnged she luvs soham a lot

no bashing:i was just thinking,wat if soham blackmails purvi that get married to my friend then i will except armaan as parents?i want to know wat will she do
i want to know will she do dis for her mther,the way she sold arjun,will she trade herself too
honestly i want purvi to behave as ayoung girl rther then prooving to b a granny everwhere
i want her to concentrate on her life,rther den imposing her thoughts on other
she is as old as ovi-teju,she shld behavve like 1

Sherma,
@red, maybe she will. she is foolish enough and loves her mother so blindly, maybe she will do it, but will her sisters ever do it for their mother, probably NOT. Right or wrong, whether we agree or not, she has this blind loyalty and unending desire for her mother's happiness, that it is possible. I dont think that is how it is going to go, but anyway since you raised that question of possibliity, here is what I think.

As far as 'she is as old as ovi-teju, she shld behave like 1', I dont agree. Why should she behave like them? Other than in this situation, do Ovi and Teju behave like each other? No. And they are siblings by blood relation.Ovi does not even care for Vishnu or that even her mother was threatened by him, all she said was that she hates him bec he shot arjun. Teju is against him because she saw him threaten to kill her mother. So, even they are not reacting the same way. Purvi has a mind of her own, and does not have to do what they do and think like her sisters. In her mind, for all purposes he is her brother. So, yes, she will try to mend fences. Unless, an adopted sister does not have a right to do it, other than sisters related by blood. Forget Ovi, let us not go there. If Teju was trying to do it, it is ok, but not Purvi? Why the distinction?
As far as concentrating on her life, she is doing it. She got a job and she is moving on in her own way.
I am just trying to understand why is Purvi always the wrong one?
Mind you, I am in no way a supporter of her after what she did to Arjun, but I am not able to understand why is Purvi wrong in this situation. It puzzles me. The only thing I see is that quite a few want only the biological sisters to do this bridging and not an adopted sister. Am I wrong in my understanding?
As far as the question of if her real parents return what would she do? Knowing Purvi, she would never leave Archana..
Left to me, I would like her to get away from this crazy family and go have a life of her own. Atleast then, she will get rid of some of her mistaken sanskaars... 😊

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soapwatcher1

@soapwatcher1

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Posted: 13 years ago

#24

Originally posted by: jdronamraju

Sherma,
@red, maybe she will. she is foolish enough and loves her mother so blindly, maybe she will do it, but will her sisters ever do it for their mother, probably NOT. Right or wrong, whether we agree or not, she has this blind loyalty and unending desire for her mother's happiness, that it is possible. I dont think that is how it is going to go, but anyway since you raised that question of possibliity, here is what I think.

As far as 'she is as old as ovi-teju, she shld behave like 1', I dont agree. Why should she behave like them? Other than in this situation, do Ovi and Teju behave like each other? No. And they are siblings by blood relation.Ovi does not even care for Vishnu or that even her mother was threatened by him, all she said was that she hates him bec he shot arjun. Teju is against him because she saw him threaten to kill her mother. So, even they are not reacting the same way. Purvi has a mind of her own, and does not have to do what they do and think like her sisters. In her mind, for all purposes he is her brother. So, yes, she will try to mend fences. Unless, an adopted sister does not have a right to do it, other than sisters related by blood. Forget Ovi, let us not go there. If Teju was trying to do it, it is ok, but not Purvi? Why the distinction?
As far as concentrating on her life, she is doing it. She got a job and she is moving on in her own way.
I am just trying to understand why is Purvi always the wrong one?
Mind you, I am in no way a supporter of her after what she did to Arjun, but I am not able to understand why is Purvi wrong in this situation. It puzzles me. The only thing I see is that quite a few want only the biological sisters to do this bridging and not an adopted sister. Am I wrong in my understanding?

I do wish Purvi's real family somehow miraculously comes forward to claim her, I feel pretty badly for her outcast self. She is an idiot and will do anything to safeguard her mother's happiness whether her mother is cognizant or not of the extent that Purvi will go for the sake of her aai's happiness.

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jdronamraju

@jdronamraju

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Posted: 13 years ago

#25

Jhanvi, I had edited my posted and added the last two lines about this..

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vgiri

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Posted: 13 years ago

#26

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Sherma..
no bashing:i was just thinking,wat if soham blackmails purvi that get married to my friend then i will except armaan as parents?i want to know wat will she do
i want to know will she do dis for her mther,the way she sold arjun,will she trade herself too
honestly i want purvi to behave as ayoung girl rther then prooving to b a granny everwhere
i want her to concentrate on her life,rther den imposing her thoughts on other
she is as old as ovi-teju,she shld behavve like 1

Absolutely possible.." i want purvi to behave as a young girl" I am totally with you on this point..
I dont think she will trade herself..I think she will accept for something milder than this..

Janhvi, if purvi;s bio parents miraculously come.. PR will run for another 2 years..I dont think Ankita will commit for another 2 years..

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 13 years ago

#27

No Purvi should not fall in this matter at all .

If having good intentions and relation makes it a license to take decisions on behalf of someone and force them down someone's throats why was Savita criticised so much for taking a decision of keeping Archana away from her son as she believed she wasn't good for their family ?

Soham has been through hell . While Purvi who was adopted has led a secure sheltered life he has grown up in Bihar among vicious thugs . Forget age , experience wise in that age he has seen a far wider expanse of life than Ovi Teju and Purvi put together have . He has seen a very ugly side of life that Purvi has not .

So what is she gonna tell him ? Accept my Aai as she is the best ?😕 Who has seen more of life ...Soham or Purvi ? I am not talking of age here .

Besides after a life shattering truth revelation shouldn't it be his decision with his time and space ? Or doesn't he deserve even that much ? When Archana wanted she gave him to her sister when Purvi snaps her fingers he should accept Archana is it ?

What his bio sisters feel is entirely their business as they themselves had life changing experiences . Some months back they were not even staying with their mother and in a different country . Life has been upside down for them and now this !

The only person who till now had no change and stability in her life galore is Purvi . Same house , same mother , same environment ...a solid middle class life .

Her 'teaching' these kids is really astonishing . But then Purvi has this habit of meddling in things that are none of her concern by using her own brain . She

interfered in Punni;s life although Punni warned her not to

dumped Arjun without talking with Archana

will ' improve' Soham's relation with Archana without giving him the required space .

As an adopted sister she can perhaps be more neutral and perhaps the friendly olive branch he needs if eVer he needs someone to talk to but thats it

She should know her limits . If Ovi and Teju talk to their dad , she should at the most voice her opinion to Archana but thats it . This Punni tayi and Soham dada and Sachu dada and Manav Baba is just too much. Being family or having the besr intereststs at heart does not give unlimited liicenss to be the perpetual annoying do gooder who pokes her nose into every thing ...right or wrong .

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soapwatcher1

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Posted: 13 years ago

#28

Kools, we don't know what Purvi is going to do so shouldn't we wait before jumping the gun to judge her?. All she might do is sing her mother's praises to him, nothing wrong in that. She is not going to hold a gun to his head and say "accept my mother or else", that will not fly with Soham and she has no emotional tool to use against him like she did with Arjun. If Purvi's talking to Soham or enabling him to understand that his parents were not at fault for what has happened to him (I understand some of us hold Archana responsible for Soham's disappearance but even if we did, Varsha is at greater fault and so Soham should be angrier with his mausi) helps him in getting close to his parents, what is the harm in that?

Also, Savita intentionally meddled in Manav's life, Purvi is trying to make Soham understand, that is all. She is not proposing to take matters into her own hands, poof, vanish Balan and Varsha from Soham's life and force him to blindly accept her Aai. Comparing Savita's lies and treachery to Purvi's intentions of uniting Soham with her mom are two totally different things, it is comparing apples to oranges and not apples to apples.

This biological versus adopted, does not sit well with me. I have no problems with Ovi or Teju not accepting Soham, it is their prerogative, selfish or otherwise. But to say Purvi has had a stable life whilst they have not, I disagree. They had had no mother in their lives just as Purvi has had no father but the twins have had as stable a life as Purvi, if she has had a middle class stable life, they have had a luxuriously, spoilt rich stable life (nothing wrong in being rich) - so the stability equals out.

Adopted or not, Purvi is Archana's child and has been taught that Manav is her dad, her calling him Baba stems from her sanskari middle class life and her mother's upbringing, cannot blame her for that. If we start blaming Purvi for the niceties inculcated in her by Archana, showing respect to elders and addressing them the proper way, we should be faulting the twins for carrying Archana's blood. One carries Archana's sanskars, the other two her blood. At this point, both are moot as all 3 are Archana's daughters and I don't think we should be differentiating between them. All three sisters learned about Soham's existence at approximately the same time and should have the same respect/love/care/concern for him as the other.

Also, when accusing Purvi of harboring feelings for Arjun, some want her to behave with decorum with her jeeju, implying Ovi is Purvi's sister, yet when it comes to other matters like that of Soham, Purvi is suddenly relegated to "adopted" and as having lesser rights than the biological daughters. Doesn't sound fair to me.

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arjunaluis

@arjunaluis

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Posted: 13 years ago

#29

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1
Kools, we don't know what Purvi is going to do so shouldn't we wait before jumping the gun to judge her?. All she might do is sing her mother's praises to him, nothing wrong in that. She is not going to hold a gun to his head and say "accept my mother or else", that will not fly with Soham and she has no emotional tool to use against him like she did with Arjun. If Purvi's talking to Soham or enabling him to understand that his parents were not at fault for what has happened to him (I understand some of us hold Archana responsible for Soham's disappearance but even if we did, Varsha is at greater fault and so Soham should be angrier with his mausi) helps him in getting close to his parents, what is the harm in that?

Also, Savita intentionally meddled in Manav's life, Purvi is trying to make Soham understand, that is all. She is not proposing to take matters into her own hands, poof, vanish Balan and Varsha from Soham's life and force him to blindly accept her Aai. Comparing Savita's lies and treachery to Purvi's intentions of uniting Soham with her mom are two totally different things, it is comparing apples to oranges and not apples to apples.

This biological versus adopted, does not sit well with me. I have no problems with Ovi or Teju not accepting Soham, it is their prerogative, selfish or otherwise. But to say Purvi has had a stable life whilst they have not, I disagree. They had had no mother in their lives just as Purvi has had no father but the twins have had as stable a life as Purvi, if she has had a middle class stable life, they have had a luxuriously, spoilt rich stable life (nothing wrong in being rich) - so the stability equals out.

Adopted or not, Purvi is Archana's child and has been taught that Manav is her dad, her calling him Baba stems from her sanskari middle class life and her mother's upbringing, cannot blame her for that. If we start blaming Purvi for the niceties inculcated in her by Archana, showing respect to elders and addressing them the proper way, we should be faulting the twins for carrying Archana's blood. One carries Archana's sanskars, the other two her blood. At this point, both are moot as all 3 are Archana's daughters and I don't think we should be differentiating between them. All three sisters learned about Soham's existence at approximaztely the same time and should have the same respect/love/care/concern for him as the other.

Also, when accusing Purvi of harboring feelings for Arjun, some want her to behave with decorum with her jeeju, implying Ovi is Purvi's sister, yet when it comes to other matters like that of Soham, Purvi is suddenly relegated to "adopted" and as having lesser rights than the biological daughters. Doesn't sound fair to me.

The bolded part very very well said...👏👏 Ovi is her sister, but Soham is not her brother...come on already, she is Archana's daughter which means Soham is her brother. She has a right to see Soham and talk to him and make him understand. He is in a confused stat now, and he needs help. Why can't Purvi help? I also agree with Jhanvi let's wait and see what she does before we jump the gun.

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naava

@naava

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Posted: 13 years ago

#30

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

This biological versus adopted, does not sit well with me.

Nor with me Jhanvi..to be honest i am quite stunned to see this continual comparison of biological vs. adopted and not accepting adopted kid as real sons or daughters, brothers or sisters.

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