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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 13 years ago

#41

With all due respect I feel that her adopted status counts a lot in this issue . There are reasons for it .

Hers was an unusual adoption . Fact .

She has entered the family at 18 . Fact .

She has just got accepted in her foster family . It is different when you grow up as a baby in the same family and when u enter the family as an adult . Whether the mother was right or wrong to encourage her to dream on about the perfect family is another issue but she has just been accepted by them . Fact .

She should not do anything to jeopardise that . She is already doing it . She replies back to the new son in law of the family in front of his father . Ovi is the daughter of the family too and had she heard it she could have taken great offense .

Falling in this Soham issue may lead to

Teju being miffed

Soham being miffed

Teju being super miffed and even slightly jealous if Archana finds it wonderful that Purvi is being super understanding and of the same mind like her .

Every one should tread on egg shells around Soham . The circumstances demand it .

I feel that stable lives should never preach to unstable rough lives . What sherma said makes sense ...not when ur younger and haven't even glimpsed that life . Only stability does not qualify you to 'teach' . Maturity does too . I can understand Manav , Archana , Sulochana , Savita , Damodar , Vaishali and Vandu having talks with Soham . Even they should be well aware while talking that they have simply not led his kind of life . That maturity is there in these stable adults .

But Purvi is young and immature both . Her 'teachings' may make the other youngsters resent this fact . Her adopted status may accentuate this resentment .

This is what i feel as she has just been accepted in that family . She is taking a lot on her head and no elder is telling her to stay out of many issues .

This doesn't mean that no one should speak to Soham and simply let him be angry . The elders can , but gradually . Among the youngsters if Purvi's attitude is that what Archana wants Archana should get then she can make life easy for him with a friendly face around . But preaching to him about the glories of motherhood and what he missed and how lucky he is to get it now is an absolute no no for me .

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pari87

@pari87

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

#42

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

But Purvi is young and immature both . Her 'teachings' may make the other youngsters resent this fact . Her adopted status may accentuate this resentment .

This is what i feel as she has just been accepted in that family . She is taking a lot on her head and no elder is telling her to stay out of many issues .

This doesn't mean that no one should speak to Soham and simply let him be angry . The elders can , but gradually . Among the youngsters if Purvi's attitude is that what Archana wants Archana should get then she can make life easy for him with a friendly face around . But preaching to him about the glories of motherhood and what he missed and how lucky he is to get it now is an absolute no no for me .

Totally agree with the above sentiments! From a very logical point of view, Purvi should be just that, a smiling, encouraging face for Soham amidst all the resentment from the other family members, but def not the one to go and talk him into how lucky he is to have met his family and how great they all are and how he should accept them. It def is something the elders of the family should stick to. Plus the guy needs time. Lots of it to let everything sink in and finally be able to accept his reality and "MAYBE" someday learn to love his bio parents and family.

Purvi, being shown as the only understanding of the lot is bound to bring in resentment from other kids, and her being adopted can totally add to that too.

Anyway, kools, purvi preaching about motherhood and mamta can be totally thrown out of the window, since news has it, she is going to be pregnant out of wedlock with an "illegitimate" child. hahaha :P Unless, they show the child also to be some sort of higher signal from God about love being ultimate bond or something. LOL

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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 13 years ago

#43

What ! pari u shock me ! Our sanskaari girl pregnant ! omg where did u read the news ?

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pari87

@pari87

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

#44

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
What ! pari u shock me ! Our sanskaari girl pregnant ! omg where did u read the news ?

kools, it's not just her, sanskaari purvi and wifey Ovi both pregnant same time with our carnal hero's Arjun;s child. I think I might quit PR soon. It is going beyond disgusting now. Unless you continue to do the KC's on the illegitimate child and his/her problems. LOL.

Check some of the forum topics today. It's all over the forum :P

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soapwatcher1

@soapwatcher1

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Posted: 13 years ago

#45

Ambolove, exactly my sentiments, I said in my earlier post that if the love is warranted, two sets of parents to love you unconditionally is all the better plus two sets of siblings too.

Naava, you have said it all and said it excellently. 👍🏼

Kools, Manav would have given 3 crores to rescue Punni, such is the goodness of Manav's heart, he is a pure soul, no doubt about even though he may have lacked common sense at times.

I never said it showed Purvi's greatness in accepting Manav. ( quoting from your post - Purvi accepting him or no is not her greatness ...no kid will reject such a father ) Far from it, she has been raised to believe he is her dad, which child shows greatness by accepting the man her mom points out as dad? We all accept our dads, whatever the circumstances, and the question of greatness does not even arise in that situation. Manav's acceptance or not of her, is between him and his wife, the child knows no other dad than the one that has been shoved down her throat and glorified all these years.

It is not the maturity or sensitivity of the parents (your words - "that nice parents never mention it" and "People do fling the adopted status in face . All are not nice like Archana and Manav."), it is the love that they have for the adopted children that erases the fact of adoption from the minds of the parents and prevents them from referring to the "adoptive" status of their child except perhaps in passing as a negligent fact like when one tells one's bio kids they were born in such and such hospital. The act of adoption itself is a non event in most adoptive families (Our very close family adopted a Latino baby who is 22 now and is treated with utmost respect like a "bhaiya/dada" by both his younger sisters, another inter-racial couple adopted a child from India, the fact that in both these instances, the kids look visibly different from their siblings makes no difference to either the parents, siblings or to us close family) and there is no disparity between the adopted vs bio kids in any way, either in nurture or perceived rights of the children.

If Teju and Ovi want to stay away from Soham for whatever reason, so be it, as Naava says that does not prevent or preclude Purvi from trying to make her brother understand the goodness of her parents. If one child of mine is angry with me, I hope to God, my other child, even if younger would try to make the older one see sense, we are family, after all.

We can agree to disagree. 😃

Edited by soapwatcher1 - 13 years ago

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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

Stunner

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Posted: 13 years ago

#46

pari i just read . This is too good to be true . Oh don't quit . The show is getting interesting .😈

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soapwatcher1

@soapwatcher1

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Posted: 13 years ago

#47

Gandharwa wedding, 😉 going back to our old discussions, if Purvi got pregnant with Arjun's child prior to Ovi's wedding, then I claim the right to say she was married to him Gandharwa style!! Since we all so happily quoted the scriptures and ancient epics to proclaim the sanctity of marriage, Gandharwa wedding was an acceptable form of marriage too. 😆

I am out of here now! 🤣

But Pari, yes that would be beyond disgusting, it would be filthy if the storyline went that way and I would lose all respect for Arjun if he had gotten married to Ovi after doing the unthinkable with Purvi. Adios to PR, then.

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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

Stunner

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Posted: 13 years ago

#48

Oh i do hope she gets pregnant . Such a sucker for babies i am .

Whats more , the 2 babies should live . It will be more fun then .

Oh who cares abt the Soham track . The pregnancy is more interesting . I hope both get similiar cravings and the fertile Arjun is non plussed . He looks like such a cute goldfish when he is perplexed .

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pari87

@pari87

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

#49

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1
Gandharwa wedding, 😉 going back to our old discussions, if Purvi got pregnant with Arjun's child prior to Ovi's wedding, then I claim the right to say she was married to him Gandharwa style!! Since we all so happily quoted the scriptures and ancient epics to proclaim the sanctity of marriage, Gandharwa wedding was an acceptable form of marriage too. 😆

I am out of here now! 🤣

But Pari, yes that would be beyond disgusting, it would be filthy if the storyline went that way and I would lose all respect for Arjun if he had gotten married to Ovi after doing the unthinkable with Purvi. Adios to PR, then.

I agree. Tolerating stupidity of these characters was not enough, now they want us to tolerate the idea of pregnancy out of wedlock being some sign of a spiritual love and that too by a serial cheater who ends up impregnating two women, and both of them sisters. I think, he is worse than Dharmesh also in this regard. And the whole thing backfires on Archana's pavarish so what is the point of "pavitra rishta" and the so called "sanskaars" they keep boasting off again?