Originally posted by: Kalapi
Pooja,
Self-respect is actually very subjective'what is self-respect to one may or maynot be to other. For Ovi, obviously as of now, she doesn't feel that her self-respect isn't being trampled with'besides, what is self-respect to her, since she was so desperate to get Arjun.
See where is Arjun's self-respect now. He is a married man who is running after another woman who actually gave him up willing'.
I don't actually agree that the marriage was a mistake. How it was a mistake if it was done willing, intentionally and knowing. Nope, dear, it wasn't a mistake, all 3 did what they wanted to do and going in for a divorce just after the morning after when the first signs of 'marriage symptoms' set in, is cowardice to me'plain and simple'.if these 3 kids where not grownup enough to handle adult decisions and take responsibilities, why take those in the first place'they should have just ask adult for guidance'.it seems they want to enjoy the pleasures of adulthood without really living them when the going gets tough'.then what is the moral of this great serial???
I must agree with you on the self-respect clause. I do think it is often subjective and more so in the case of these 3 very different people. My take on the marriage is a little different. I do agree it was not a mistake in the sense that 3 of them knew what they were doing ( Or so they seem to portray) and never tried to consult the elders (for their own weird reasons). But I feel, these 3 have just displayed their immaturity. And this immaturity is what is hampering either of them to see the situation clearly and act accordingly. It was thoughtless decision and now they are regretting it. Ovi may not right now, but will soon regret it. This is why I think you can never force them to follow the "right" way as we may want them to. You may teach them what is right vs. wrong but you getting them to "follow" it is in noone's hands. And considering how they lack any sensibility in handling relationships of any sort, much less marriage, this is definitly going to spelll doom for all 3. If Arjun was mature enough, he would not have taken the route in the first place and since he proved how immature and lovesick he is, he is not going to exactly make this mariage work either. Same goes for the other two. THis in itself is indicative of what disastrous lives they are going to follow. Plus, noone wants the parents to even interfere. How will they ever learn? Hence, I believe it best to get out of this marriage. I wrote this on someone else's post but this is my take :
they might be 18+ but then they are still too young to know the right choices they are making. I don't think except Arjun, Purvi or Ovi have seen examples of what a marriage should be like. Even for Arjun, he hasn;t seen a marriage work, only the "love" his dad has for his mom. Same for the other two, they simply don't understand the meaning of marriage and for good reason. Their parents haven't been exactly the most ideal marital couple to follow. Purvi has seen her mother pine for her husband but that still comes under the category of "love". HAs she seen a sucessful marriage or a husband-wife relationship or the importance of this whole institution? Neither of the kids have seen it. Ovi, has seen Damo-Savita who I guess are the worst example to follow and she has seen her father stay silent while his mother instigated the kids against her mother. After that kind of a messed up image about marriage, I am not surprised all 3 of them treated it like child;s play.
However, they are kids, made a rash, immature and drastic decision without consulting anyone. But what were the family members doing? Arjun and OVi came married, to seek blessings, they heard Arjun pronounce loud and clear that he did not wish to do this, and was almost forced into it, and instead of giving this whole situation time to sink in, the adults decided " why waste all the money of the reception, let;s make it Arjun-Ovi and go ahead with announcing to the world about this "new" development". How ridiculous. I would suspend any such further functions and resolve to get to the core of this problem. As Manav ( most importantly), I would ask OVi whether she is ready to lead a life of a one-way marriage with a man who is clearly in love with someone else and seeems to have no resolve of getting over it. Does she have the capacity to wait eternally for him to love her back? If he did not love her for 18 years that they were best friedns, is he going to love her just because he was forced into this marriage? And as DK ( most importantly again), I would sit Arjun down and ask him if he can truly forget Purvi and move on in life with Ovi.
As parents, they did nothing except Archana reprimanding her daughter and then going in for the usual K ladies hug with tears, Manav did nothing except show a little anger and DK just nonchalantly accepted the whole thing like it was nothing. Only the bride got exchanged guy, no big deal. And then they had the nerve to disregard everything and go ahead with the reception.
Yes, parents do not need to interfere, but when you have been such poor examples of marital life yourselves, the least you can do is teach your kids about the importance of living it out with one person and making it work. As a parent, I would consider this marriage a Vegas mistake and annull it right away before the grand reception even took place. I am not saying I would advice Purvi and Arjun to then tie the knot, I would just keep 3 of them away from each other for a long long time. For Arjun-Purvi to realize the meaning of true love and life-long companionship, for Ovi to understand mutual love and for her to get over Arjun in a healthy way and for Arjun to realize the importance of marriage for the right reasons. As parents they all simply failed to do their job and now are reduced to bystanders while their kids mess up their lives in irreparable ways. JUst my POV. but rather than leading miserable lives throughout, better to rectify something that you did, without thought. To force them to follow through with their decision is as good as subjecting them to lifelong misery because neither can really move on going by the state of mind they all have.
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