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Originally posted by: Blessing

it is a shame 2 read some people saying that just because purvi is an adopted child so therefore she does not belong 2 Desmukh family even though she has got manav last name...*Desmukh*...as well like his real daughters.




so just because someone is adopted means some of you people can't wholeheartedly love him/her just like you would to your own flesh and blood?


2 say someone who isn't your flesh and blood, so he or she shouldn't have a say in the family who he or she has gotten the last name as well is just cruel/rude and I'm not saying this becauuse I am a fan of purvi or arvi.


adopted or not she is a part of that family, archana is her mother so she have every right to be there and have her say too.

it is a shame 2 read some people saying that just because purvi is an adopted child so therefore she does not belong 2 Desmukh family even though she has got manav last name...*Desmukh*...as well like his real daughters.




so just because someone is adopted means some of you people can't wholeheartedly love him/her just like you would to your own flesh and blood?


2 say someone who isn't your flesh and blood, so he or she shouldn't have a say in the family who he or she has gotten the last name as well is just cruel/rude and I'm not saying this becauuse I am a fan of purvi or arvi.


adopted or not she is a part of that family, archana is her mother so she have every right to be there and have her say too.

Darling this is called alternate Point of veiw, thinking outside the box or contrary opinion and one is entitled to one own's opinion.

Absolutely, Purvi is Archu daughter (although, I don't think the Cvs showed her adoption, but let assume that legal adoption took palce), but I can't remember that Manav adopted Purvi as well, at the time of that legal adoption.What I have talking here is reality, in reality adoption is a serious issue where consent of both parents are needed and evaluated...so I fail to understand (and I will be honoured if someone explains) how Poorvi got the Desmukh's surname...as far as I am concern she is a Karanjar, because I am still waiting to see her being adopted legally by Manav for her to Claim the D surname...

And hey where is the shame in reading a different opinion...it is like having 2 rival parties in an election, otherwise wouldn't the politics become a dictatorship (don't we all know how that could be)...and am sure no one would like that specially living in 'free' nations...sure things to ponder for all of us, right...

thank u for saying exactly what i wanted to say. i luv how pple are claiming they are not against purvi bc of adaption but then they say she is not part of the family. this is her mothers divorce and since manav has acepted her as a daughter any disruption in the family is her buisness. especially divorce bc anybody who says divorce is not the child's matter is wrong. a divorce affects a child family life, when they see their parents, which holidays they clebrate w/ their parents, etc. we can argue that since purvi was raised by archana and did not see manav untill 18 yrs, it will not affect her. wrong!!!! the fact that she has interacted w/ him and manav has accepted her as a daughter changed everything. once u meet someone, u can't undo the relationship that exists. if manav really thinks of purvi as his own, he will want to see her and a divorce will mean that she will have to schedule time to see them on their own time, spend holidays seperately etc. and if this matter is purely archana and manav matter what the hell is savita and sachin doing about here. the divorce is not just a deshmukh matter bc when archana leaves she will go back to living in her mothers house, so it is a karenkejar matter. and therefore if u dont accept purvi as a deshmukh, then it is her buisness as a karenkejar.

Darling...What divorce/custody are you talking about...are you talking about the divorce/custody that Ekta is showing us which is nothing more than a bunch of misinformation, that Ekta is reaping big bucks off..and that I don't even want to discuss about...

Now if you want discuss reality, let discuss...as far as I know in Indin and in the West, legal cusdoty is only given and taken of minor children...a child become adult (again in Indai (girl child at 18 yrs and boy at 21 yrs) and in the West ... 18 yrs of age)...so as far as I know all the so called kids in this story are'mature adult" so why would anyone need to spend/meet them separately...as Adults it is their decision and NO court anywhere in the world will/can decide on their behalf...beats me what you are talking about...

Originally posted by: Kalapi

thank u for saying exactly what i wanted to say. i luv how pple are claiming they are not against purvi bc of adaption but then they say she is not part of the family. this is her mothers divorce and since manav has acepted her as a daughter any disruption in the family is her buisness. especially divorce bc anybody who says divorce is not the child's matter is wrong. a divorce affects a child family life, when they see their parents, which holidays they clebrate w/ their parents, etc. we can argue that since purvi was raised by archana and did not see manav untill 18 yrs, it will not affect her. wrong!!!! the fact that she has interacted w/ him and manav has accepted her as a daughter changed everything. once u meet someone, u can't undo the relationship that exists. if manav really thinks of purvi as his own, he will want to see her and a divorce will mean that she will have to schedule time to see them on their own time, spend holidays seperately etc. and if this matter is purely archana and manav matter what the hell is savita and sachin doing about here. the divorce is not just a deshmukh matter bc when archana leaves she will go back to living in her mothers house, so it is a karenkejar matter. and therefore if u dont accept purvi as a deshmukh, then it is her buisness as a karenkejar.

Darling...What divorce/custody are you talking about...are you talking about the divorce/custody that Ekta is showing us which is nothing more than a bunch of misinformation, that Ekta is reaping big bucks off..and that I don't even want to discuss about...

Now if you want discuss reality, let discuss...as far as I know in Indin and in the West, legal cusdoty is only given and taken of minor children...a child become adult (again in Indai (girl child at 18 yrs and boy at 21 yrs) and in the West ... 18 yrs of age)...so as far as I know all the so called kids in this story are'mature adult" so why would anyone need to spend/meet them separately...as Adults it is their decision and NO court anywhere in the world will/can decide on their behalf...beats me what you are talking about...

i wasn't talking about the court issue. I was talking about how manav will see purvi if he lives in canada after the divorce. that still an issue affected by the divorce whether ur a child or not. as far as ur previous response if manav has accepted purvi as a daughter, it does not matter if its legal or not. he has accepted her as a daughter and that is the final decision in whether this affects her as a family. furthermore while i may accept alternate view points, when they advocate such backward thinking such as adaption means ur treated not liek a real daughter, then that needs to condemned. just bc oppose a viewpoint does not mean we are saying u dont have the right to say it. just liek u have the right to say something, we have a right to respond to it in an opposing manner

Darling...as far as Manav visiting Poorvi...perhaps we are stretching too far...Manav has enough money to sponsor anyone to fly anywhere in the world if he wishes and for meeting Poorvi he doesn't really need to adopt, he can simply meet him if he wishes as an employee or as a 'mukh boli' daughter...so that isn't really a point to debate

As far as my having a backward view...I will be honored if you can show me posting against adoption, please feel free to point to a post of mine showing the validity of such a claim...as as far as my opining that Poorvi doesn't have right to interfere in Teju/Ovi/arju/Manav/Sarchu mess, I hold my ground...please show me an instant that was shown by the Cvs where Ovi/Teju/Sachin accepted her as their sister...as I said before, Ovi/Teju are adult and as adult there are within their right to decide if they want her as a sister...as has Manav the right to decide if he wants to 'legally' adopt Poorvi as a daughter...are we not trying to push Poorvi down Ovi/teju's throat unnecessarily ...is that a fair decision as adult on our part ...just because we like Poorvi...will we, as adult just accept an 'unknown' individual as a kin because a parent decided that for us ... when that very parent failed miserably in her duty towards us when we needed her the MOST...serious point to consider, isn't it...😃

Originally posted by: Kalapi

i wasn't talking about the court issue. I was talking about how manav will see purvi if he lives in canada after the divorce. that still an issue affected by the divorce whether ur a child or not. as far as ur previous response if manav has accepted purvi as a daughter, it does not matter if its legal or not. he has accepted her as a daughter and that is the final decision in whether this affects her as a family. furthermore while i may accept alternate view points, when they advocate such backward thinking such as adaption means ur treated not liek a real daughter, then that needs to condemned. just bc oppose a viewpoint does not mean we are saying u dont have the right to say it. just liek u have the right to say something, we have a right to respond to it in an opposing manner

Darling...as far as Manav visiting Poorvi...perhaps we are stretching too far...Manav has enough money to sponsor anyone to fly anywhere in the world if he wishes and for meeting Poorvi he doesn't really need to adopt, he can simply meet him if he wishes as an employee or as a 'mukh boli' daughter...so that isn't really a point to debate

As far as my having a backward view...I will be honored if you can show me posting against adoption, please feel free to point to a post of mine showing the validity of such a claim...as as far as my opining that Poorvi doesn't have right to interfere in Teju/Ovi/arju/Manav/Sarchu mess, I hold my ground...please show me an instant that was shown by the Cvs where Ovi/Teju/Sachin accepted her as their sister...as I said before, Ovi/Teju are adult and as adult there are within their right to decide if they want her as a sister...as has Manav the right to decide if he wants to 'legally' adopt Poorvi as a daughter...are we not trying to push Poorvi down Ovi/teju's throat unnecessarily ...is that a fair decision as adult on our part ...just because we like Poorvi...will we, as adult just accept an 'unknown' individual as a kin because a parent decided that for us ... when that very parent failed miserably in her duty towards us when we needed her the MOST...serious point to consider, isn't it...😃

Bravo Kalapi ^^^^ post No where you or anyone else have written what you are being accused of...Oposite or realistic view does not mean people hate or dislike Archana or Purvi..

FIrst of all Archana has not legally adopted Purvi...She was at the accident where Purvi's parents died in car accident..She took the baby in her hand and Cops tried finding relatives for Purvi and could not locate one so they let Archana have Purvi...I guess she must have shown interest to cops..

This is EK and her CV's storyline...In US child would have gone to orphanage or civil services...But EK's CVs have shown Archana was able to bring that baby home and give her mother's love and care.

So no question on Manav adopting an adult who is 18 yrs old..BTW Manav has only accepted Purvi as Archana's daughter so he lets her call him Baba..

Varsha…it seems that having a different view does equates in the forum with backwardness 😃– but hey I could rather be backward and think logically (and out of the box) than otherwise…😉

You do open a can of worms that I didn't want too, trying to avoid being called other derogatory names😆, but since you did, here I go – if Purvi isn't legally adopted then isn't that act has serious legal and criminal implications against Archu and this is true anywhere in the world– specially unacceptable from a lady who took her hubby to court 3 times during a 5 yr period – 😃

And adaptation of Poorvi by Archu does come with it own set of caveats..🤣that is better left unopened...😃

Nikki, making Poorvi not a biological sibling in my humble opinion is the greatest blunder that Cvs have made (and I had made some remarks long ago regarding this, when different opinions were entertained and debated upon)...yes, it could have changed the dynamics of the current situations totally..because then Manav's anger at being kept in the dark could have been such a high point of the drama...although even then accepting Poorvi couldn't have been easy for twins, but at least the dynamics in my POV, could be totally different and interesting...😊

As for the other points, I feel we have gone in circle enough times, so let agree to disagree...😃

Originally posted by: Kalapi

Varsha'it seems that having a different view does equates in the forum with backwardness 😃' but hey I could rather be backward and think logically (and out of the box) than otherwise'😉

You do open a can of worms that I didn't want too, trying to avoid being called other derogatory names😆, but since you did, here I go ' if Purvi isn't legally adopted then isn't that act has serious legal and criminal implications against Archu and this is true anywhere in the world' specially unacceptable from a lady who took her hubby to court 3 times during a 5 yr period ' 😃

And adaptation of Poorvi by Archu does come with it own set of caveats..🤣that is better left unopened...😃