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Sorry, but I do not agree that Archana is a bad mother . She is extremely foolish and emotional but to say that she is putting her children through torture and not understanding their pain is not true.
When she was asked to give them up by Manav, she was in an extremely vulnerable guilty emotional state when she was being made to feel that she was worthless. I dont think that she expected the separation to be forever. Then manav went to Canada with them. She was given to understand that she has to give up her rights on them by Manav . How was she then supposed to get in touch when Manav was not interested?
After manav landed in India, she was abused by him initially in very strong words and then suddenly his love for her resurfaces and he expected her to wag tail.She had witnessed sachu's hatred for her , came to know of her daughters hatred for her ( thro' phone) and also witnessed manav's behaviour and his words that their children hated her. This was repeatedly reinforced by Sachu, Teju and Ovi again and again when they spoke of Us Aurat . Manav's flip-flop behaviour about his love for her may be in front of her, but had she gone back to him, how would the hatred of all the children reduced? Even Teju has spoken of shravani aunty, so how do we know that shravani is not interested.
When she took Teju home, she was not aware of the fact that Teju is her daughter. When she came to know, she was left with two choices. Either to reveal or not. She did not reveal hoping that they would never come to know. If she had revealed, can we say that the situation had been better. Given the essense of the drama, do we really know that she would have been able to convince her daughters of her innocence or love for them? What would anybody have gained out of that situation.
manav is blind to his mothers faults and thinks that she has a "saaf dil". he still believes that Sulochana brainwashes Archana and that they are after his money. If he is allowed to be so naive and oh-so-innoecnt and get bullied by his son, what is Archana's fault ?
The fact that the truth got revealed , either before or now, does not in any measure reduce the suffering or that fact that the twins grew up motherless. So whats new.
What is being shown goes with the way her character has been written. She can stand up for everyone's rights except her own. For that she has Sulochana, who at least stands up for her. But she is not a bad mother. And not the one solely at fault. She has the guts to face situations . And not run away.
She will soon be facing Savita squarely, to protect Purvi from her. Not even manav can stop her then.
As for her not getting her daughters' love and vice-versa, what more is left to be lost. The damage is already done. Any patching up, if it happens will only be positive.
Anupamaa
Cricket
